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  1. My friend (currently 31) has been dating this girl for 6 months. I asked them how they met because I really like her, and he told me that they actually dated 5 years ago. He said they were in a relationship for a year and the relationship ended. He admitted it was mostly his fault as he was really immature and not ready for a serious relationship. I asked how they reconciled. He said they met up very infrequently over the past 5 years, just to catch up. He said it was very infrequent like once a year and then last year he asked her out again as they were both different people and much more mature. She's great and he seems really happy. Looks like adequate time apart and some growing up is all they needed to make it work.
  2. I have a story from a coworker as well. They dated in their early 20s. They broke up for reasons he didn't specify. Fast forward 6 years later... and a mutual friend of theirs died. They found solace and comfort with each other, and fell in love again. They've been together for 2 years and from the giddy smile on his face and the cute hints, he's planning to propose to her pretty soon!
  3. I loved reading through this thread. But for a different reason. My ex cheated on me and became abusive during the breakup. Reading through these stories showed me that there's a pattern to people who do get back together and are meant to be together... and that includes a lack of a highly toxic relationship. A relationship could be ready for it's end but once it hits toxic proportions that involve cheating and abuse... it's best to just walk away. I also love the advice of this forum but this thread reminds us that everyone's relationship is different. Some people will get back together and some wont. Some went NC, others went LC, some people moved halfway accross the world, others held on to that person in a friendship and still got back together. Just a reminder that we really can't predict what will happen.
  4. I have two additional stories. I found out before Christmas from my sister in law that her and my brother had broken up several times. She didn't give me the gory details but basically told me that my brother had cheated on her while they were dating, during their first year together. She immediately broke up with him, and he spent months trying to get her back. Over 8 years they broke up another couple of times due to their own personal issues. The cheating thing never occurred again and they are very happily married and have 2 daughters. I also found out through Facebook that a friend of a friend who has a very popular and adorable blog about marriages and family, admitted that she broke up with her husband who she's been with for about 10 years (married for a few years and have a daughter) several times during the course of their relationship.
  5. Here's a story I heard from my friend yesterday. A man was married to his wife and they got divorced when he was 23/24. I'm not sure the reasons for the breakup but his family still hates this woman. She remarried and he remained single. 20 YEARS PASS! She gets divorced and they reconnect via Facebook about a year ago. They exchange Facebook messages, eventually call each other, and just a few months ago she has moved into a house with him. They are back together and planning to remarry sometime next year. I'm not sure if this will last and his family is still wary of her for how she was 20 years ago, but goes to show that reconciliation can happen, even 2 decades later.
  6. Hmm a friend from my hometown got separated from his wife about a year ago. They were married really young. He's the same age as me, 25, so I think they got married at 20 but again, they have been separated for almost a year. I don't know the details but he was VISIBLY heartbroken on Facebook and it was clear his wife had moved on and was already in another relationship, and then a few months later got in a relationship with a really cute girl that lasted for about half a year or more. I just browsed his FB and it looks like they broke up and he has pictures of him being all lovey dovey with his separated wife and referring to her as his lover. People are commenting saying they are the cutest married couple. I think it's safe to say they are trying to reconcile.
  7. I just signed a lease today and the person leasing the place to me asked me about my ex-boyfriend. She then shared a story with me about what has been happening with her this past year. This isn't a successful reconciliation story but shows that they do come back. Well she was with a guy for 2 years but he was never over his ex. It became a problem and they broke up. He went back to his ex (first reconciliation). After about 4 months she moved on and started dating someone else. Her ex eventually came back and tried to beg for her back. Fortunately, she didn't take him back. Again not successful but shows two scenarios where the person went back to their ex.
  8. Just read them! That's great! I know it's ongoing but I am wishing you the best regardless of what happens for you and your family!
  9. Thank you for writing the poems about me. I just saw them this morning. They did make me feel kind of happy and then very sad. I wish we were together so we could celebrate like we usually do. We could get Indian food or some other Asian dish. We could go to a museum or a zoo and enjoy the day together and discuss the rest of today and the future too. I miss you so much but I know those days are long gone and over.
  10. One story I remember hearing from last year. I was in Africa volunteering and met this nice Kenyan woman there. She was engaged at the time. I was telling her about some struggles I had with my ex. She told me that she and her fiancee had an off and on relationship. One day they had a huge fight and that was it, they were done. He got another girlfriend shortly after that. They spent close to a year without talking but then he got in a bad accident and had to go to the hospital. She came to comfort him and he told her how much he loved her. He broke up with the other girl he was seeing and they slowly started a relationship. She said that it was hard at first but they had to learn to communicate better. They spent a lot of time learning to communicate and now they rarely fight and are very happy. She's not married yet but will be soon.
  11. One more for the age gap relationships. I met this couple a few months ago who were very proud to share their love story. The woman was in her 50s and the man was in his early 30s. They met as friends, were together for a few years then split. I was under the impression he was dealing with issues of not having children and so on. I guess love won out since they ended up together again after he accepted this fact. They've been happily married ever since and I think have been married for about 4-5 years.
  12. Hmm I just heard a reconciliation story from my friend today. Her best friend was married to this guy for a couple of years (I think they were together for about 5 years). She cheated on him and got pregnant but she was unsure who the father was. After 6 months, and discovering she was going to be having twins, she told him that the children may not be his. He said after the children were born he'd get a paternity test. If the children were his, he'd stay with her, work it out and raise the kids. If they weren't' his, they were getting a divorce immediately. The children weren't his and they got a divorce immediately. She saw the children's biological father briefly and then came begging for her ex-husband back. For a year he ignored her and his family and friends hated her. After a year she continued, saying she'd do ANYTHING to earn his trust back. They began to date after a year against everyone's wishes. After 2 years of dating, she slowly earned his trust and they re-married. They have been married for 2 years and have been happy together. There were deep trust issues which is why the reconciliation process took a few years but they worked and out. He raises the children like they are his own. Thought this story shows that anything can indeed happen.
  13. How is this my life right now? 7 weeks ago I would never have thought this would be how I feel. 7 weeks ago you came home from teaching, and I was just off of work. We walked our dogs, talked about life and just had fun. You hadn't been as hungry lately. I didn't know it was cause you were cheating and planning to end it. We got Mexican food as our last dinner together, one of my favorite foods ever. We cuddled in bed, gave each other long massages, watched movies and just had a lovely day. I didn't know it was our last. I was looking forward to our road trip in the South, was planning a special day for you the next day (day we broke up) and my heart leapt with joy knowing you were home, that we were together, and we were happy. Now, 7 weeks later, it's all just some stupid dream. All those moments we were discussing our trip to the South, to Portland and Japan, you were making plans to meet with Michelle just a week or two later. All those moments we were kissing or making love, how much of that were you thinking about her or counting down till when it was the last time with me. That last chat we had on Gmail just a couple of weeks before, you said we were better together, I was the one you were considering marriage with, you never want to lose me. What changed in your heart? The last email you sent me was 2 days before we broke up. You surprised me with salad at work. You were so excited to surprise me and I didn't see your email in time and you had to wait for a little bit. Why were you so nice to me before it ended? I remember you said you wanted to cherish each moment, but you knew it was ending. I didn't. I thought we had many tomorrows together. I thought you knew how lucky you were to have me and how special our connection was. I was wrong, so terribly wrong. So disgustingly wrong. Just last week you sent me all those messages, calls and words saying you loved me, and that I have to believe that, but I can't. You are still with her. You aren't even fighting for me, you aren't even there for me....
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