silhouettes epiphany

I've been in these types of situations before and I would say that the best thing to do is not come off so available. Right now she knows you want her and you wanna see her all the time. She also has all the power right now as she is the one who is'nt available, see where I'm goin with this. Right now your putty in her hands, and the truth of the matter is, if she really wanted to see you, let alone be with you she would. I dont care how busy she is. Here is what to do. Next time she calls you up to make plans, politely refuse. I know that sounds like id be tough, but trust me it will work. You need to make yourself the one thats hard to get a hold of. Also, meet some girls. Hell, you don't have to marry them, just hang out. And try to make it known your spendin time with these girls. Heres an example, she calls you up to hang out. Simply say, thanks but I have plans with drop name there. Also, don't label this girl as anything just mention her name. Let her guess what your relationship is with her. If this does'nt work, then she prolly didnt have much interest to begin with. Damn I should be getting paid for this type of advice.

I came from exactly your situation 6 weeks ago, the only difference being that once her ex found out about us, he wanted her back and she went back. We dated for about three weeks, and we started out as best friends before dating. Anyways, once he knew she was with me he started to call and tell her things like " your the only girl I ever loved", I think you get the picture. She told me he didnt mean a thing and not to worry. this behavior went on for about a week. So, one day I called her up to make some plans and she told me she was confused. In so many words I told her that the fact she needed to make a choice was reason enough for me to leave, and thats what I did. So my advice to you is this: If your already having probs of this nature after three weeks, move on. Cause if you don't, she prolly will. And you'll really feel bad. I say to hell with the whole lets be friends deal, or trying to be there for her. She's not there for you and so she says that she knows its hurting you, then why is she doing it. She will see you as weak, and desperate by hanging on to her, while she really wants to be with that other jerk off. Do you really think you could live with that, knowing her thoughts were with him, while being with you. Leave now, the writings on the wall. She is obviously not interested. Save your dignity. You sound like a nice guy, and I also was the dreaded "nice guy". But overall she will see you as desperate.