I need some objective thoughts. I hope someone can help me out. I have been talking to this guy for a month. We get along really well and have a very good time together. The only thing, a big thing at that, is that he has made it clear to me that he does not want a relationship with anyone for two reasons: 1. His last girlfriend of 10 months cheated on him the whole entire time and he does not want to risk another heartbreak and 2. He does not want to live by any expectations, at this point. Alright fine...i can understand that. But, recently his phone calls have lessened and we have not been going out on any dates. He comes over on the weekends, but we haven't been going out. I mentioned the idea to him and he told me that he needed to pay of a debt and he definatley was not going to take any girl out if he wasnt going out himself.....OUCH! He is cool with staying in with me, but at this point, shouldn't we be doing the courtship thing??? OH, an important piece of information I failed to mention...No, we have not had sex, nor does he really try. He knows that I will not have sex with him until he is ready to commit to me.
Anyway, i am not sure of what to think. He kinda has a whatever happens happens kind of attitude. I am not sure if he is seeing anyone else; although, he has told me that he is not actively seeking to hook up with other people. I do know he is very busy and his time during the week is very limited. He works 15 hour days.. On the weekend he is with me for the majority of the time. Does this make sense? Can someone shed some light on this situation?
Thanks
Queenb