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Had a situation kinda similar to this 10 months ago. My best friend had been dating this girl for 3 years, they'd had some problems, nothing major and they worked em out. They eventually broke up now 10 months ago due to her being a complete *bleep* and not believing he didn't fool around (which I can actually say for sure he didn't because I was with him the night she was accusing him of and B) he wouldn't ever do that, it's not him)... but 4 months after the breakup, he ended up getting together with his ex's best friend... now I still completely hate his ex for what she did to my best friend and he's much better off with his new gf, but every so often his ex tries to ruin their relationship some how or another. I don't think it's a good idea personally, it ende up ruining three relationships (Me->His ex - His ex->him - His ex-> her best friend), but everything did turn out better... Well, I've rambled a little, but I can say it's mostly a situational thing, but it's not usually a good situation.

Ok, I'm involved in a relationship in which we both are faithful to each other and share the common moral of reserving sex until marriage and we both agree to this. Recently we went on spring break together to Myrtle Beach. The multitude of oppurtunities we had to have sex if we wanted to were there, but we abstained, even while many of the people we knew were having sex, sometimes around us. Although, we are extremely physical without having sex ourselves. Now, we've engaged in oral sex on each other many times. I'm just looking for an opinion from people regarding whether they believe oral sex is sexual intercourse. I've heard arguments for both side and can see the points of both. Just pondering what everyone else thinks is the point where the whole "no sex before marriage" line is broken. I personally believe sexual intercourse is all that matters under the "no sex before marriage" ideal.

Don't worry Gilg, I can't really speak from experience, but I pray your situation turns out to be the best it possibly can be. And I at least want to wish you a happy birthday and many more to come

Used this basic theory myself. I'm not sure what your age is, but I'm guessing between 13-17 due to the gym class thing. Swingfox and I found these javascriptbe quite helpful among the users of this forum. Well here it goes... First, figure out a lot about this girl. Do a little research, this can best be done through a friend, if there already is a mutual friend even better. But don't go like right up to them and start asking questions, be casual about it or you can be sure that they'll tell the other person. Once you think you know everything you need to know (trust me, you never know everything), make a casual date with a group of friends. Start talking to her during this time. Make it something interesting, yet you'll have time to talk (kinda rules out some concerts and clubs), bowling can be fun or a movie. After this, use the phone # you should have received in Step 1 and just make some small talk or as some people prefer to IM, but talking on the phone I think is better, more personal. Then, invite them to come to a movie, go to dinner, party, etc. with just you. If all works well, you've got a date. The hardest part is extracting the information. Those are tips I've used, feel free to use 'em and I'm sure others will have more.

nope, not at all strange. People will say they do, but since I like to usually give some kind of number to everything I say, I'd probably say 30-40% have, 60-70% haven't (although 20-30% will say they have). It will happen when it happens, but don't put yourself into a situation where bad things could happen, and don't just go with someone for that sole reason, make sure he/she is worth it.

A Single Rose if you want to be romantic/classy, maybe a concert ticket if you want to be partyish, or something you know she wants/needs if you want to appear committed (couldn't think of a right word, I mean something like you want to appear interested in her life, etc.) Simple suggestions off the top of my head, I've seen 'em all done before and it depends on the girl on how they go, so let your own self decide.

Others will probably be able to give you more help than I will, but I suggest doing this. First, figure out a lot about this girl. Do a little research, this can best be done through a friend, if there already is a mutual friend even better. But don't go like right up to them and start asking questions, be casual about it or you can be sure that they'll tell the other person. Once you think you know everything you need to know (trust me, you never know everything), make a casual date with a group of friends. Start talking to her during this time. Make it something interesting, yet you'll have time to talk (kinda rules out some concerts and clubs), bowling can be fun or a movie. After this, use the phone # you should have received in Step 1 and just make some small talk or as some people prefer to IM, but talking on the phone I think is better, more personal. Then, invite them to come to a movie, go to dinner, party, etc. with just you. If all works well, you've got a date. The hardest part is extracting the information. Those are tips I've used, feel free to use 'em and I'm sure others will have more.

Hey, like they said buddy, chubby doesn't mean bad. I've been chubby since I can remember, I was 16 yrs old, 6'3" and 280. I wouldn't say I look like a body builder or anything, but I had that belly and the man-breasts. So I just started working out on my own, walked my dog for about a mile or two every day, and this is the kind of odd part to do strength training, but I work at a paintball field, and I spend most of my time carrying trees and moving bunkers on off-days, and carrying a 300 lb. piece of timber is a humbling experience. However, after working for about 6 months, I lost my man-breasts and my belly deteriorated. Now I'm 18, still 6'3" and 260, I haven't dropped too much weight, but I gained a lot of muscle. I suggest you do that, change your chubbiness into muscle. Find things to do, walk the neighborhood, ride a bike, do lots of sit-ups, one thing that helped my upper body was the SEAL crawl (lay flat and use only your forearms to drag your entire body accross a floor for as long and fast as you can). But, I can tell you one thing for sure, girls love bigger guys, I have a lot of friends that are skinnier, but at clubs and parties, the girls tend to come up to me more, I guess it's a security issue, or so I've been told. Well, I'm done rambling, good luck!

Acquaintance - You know them, they know you. Friends - People you'll go out with/party/hang with. Best Friends - The person/people you rely on when you're down and are always behind you no matter what. Friends "w/ Benefits" - I've heard it around a lot, pretty stupid really to only care enough about a person for their body, but hey, that's society... Significant Other - Self-explanatory Ex - Well, here's where it can get hazy, an ex can either move into one of those categories listed above, or completely go downhill and become an enemy. Enemy Levels Situational Enemy - They'll make fun of you if you give them the chance Enemy - They'll make fun of you when they see you and generally disagree or go against you no matter what. Mortal Enemy - This is the person that goes out of their way to ruin your day and gains happiness through your downfall. That's just what I think, disagree if you must, there's probably a lot more other people can add.[/u]

Personally, I prefer when a woman takes the initiative. Gives me a good sense she's interested and puts me in the control of whether or not to pursue a relationship. Rather than worrying what she thinks about you when you ask.

Ok, There's a couple problems, most times when people break up form relationships, they are scared to join a new one immediately. Break-ups are very bad feelings and starting a new relationship makes them think of the pain they are suffering now will have to be dealt with later on. The best advice I can give you is to not push her into a relationship, but get to know her a lot better and when the time feels right, you'll know and you can begin a relationship when she's ready. Good luck.

Well, this may be correlation without causation, but I've noticed that the times I've *beep* before sex, I always seem to be able to last longer in bed, anyone else finding this out or is it just coincidence?

I'm 17 too and never kissed anyone until about a month ago, but now I have two people saying I'm a great kisser, and no one ever taught or showed me. There's no set style of kissing, and it's not really something that can ever be trained. The best advice I can give you is to just go with whatever happens and enjoy it. We all have some kind of knowledge of kissing bred into us either throw watching others or media, so if you're really stuck try to remember what happens in those mediums.

I don't mean move in to her place... I more meant make a move on her.

ok, I've been seeing this girl for a week... I know it's short, and that's why I haven't moved in yet. I'm at the point where when we're alone watching a movie or something I'll massage her stomach, neck or arms, and she'll rub my leg or hand, or arm. Like last night for instance, she's laying on my chest while I have my arm around her waist and she's massaging my hand as I am hers and my head's resting on hers and her other arms is draped accross my legs massaging my knee... now, to some people this may seem obvious, but give some help to a novice here... I'm 17, she's 18... haven't moved this fast with anyone else yet, just looking for some advice.