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  1. I agree with other posters. If there is a good reason that they have to meet then fine, as long as my SO was not secretive about the meeting. If it's just a friendly catching up lunch then I would deffinatley not be ok with that, and would find it very disrespectful of me and our relationship. Have a talk with your SO to find out the reason why this meeting has to happen and decide for yourself where you go from there.
  2. I think it took us about two months to say it. It was a few days before he had to leave to go to his base (he's in the army) ... 5 months later we're married!! As for saying I love you, I don't really have a time frame... I say it when I know i love the person.. when it's not just a feeling or emotion, but I truly love and care for that person..
  3. who knows, maybe she has feelings for you too but is just waiting for you to act... think of it this way.. if you tell her you like her what's the worse that can happen?? She says she just wants to stay friends? Fine, you already know that you can be her friend. If you don't tell her your feelings you'll never know if she feels the same way and you'll spend alot of time wondering "what if?".... just tell her!! You don't really have anythign to lose... good luck!
  4. you know, sometimes things seem so great in the beginning, but then it just isn't the same. I think if you've only been together for two months and you're already having doubts then it's probably time to either figure out whats bothering you about the relationship and if it's just that it dosen't feel right anymore go with your gut. Only you can know how you feel and if it isn't there, it isn't there. To answer your question though, long distance relationships can work, as long as both people are willing to give 110% and only expect 80% back. With that I mean you have to be willing to make sacrafices and long distance (at least for me) has really only worked when you truly love the person. If your heart isn't it the relationship it will begin to seem more like a hassle. Do you enjoy seeing him and spending time with him when you can? Maybe it just isn't meant to be, but only you can know. I hope I helped, but if you ever need anyone ot talk to you can PM me any time. Good luck!
  5. My husband (of about 6 days had to go back to his base yesturday. We won't be together for probably about 2 months. I'm just wondering if anyone has ideas of how to keep things exciting and fresh. We had such a great time while he was home (even though it was only for 5 days) and I need ideas of things I can do for him, send him... or anything else to keep our marriage and our relationship exciting!
  6. there is truth to the things he says, this is why I have such a hard time with this, not knowing what to do or say. My dad is very controlling and overprotective, and I'm the baby... naturally he isn't jumping for joy that i'm getting married and moving accross the country. My dad is also very religious and he tends to force that on other people making it almost uncomfortable to have a conversation with at times. I don't always agree with my dad, but I still respect him, and although my fiance dosen't refuse to go to family things with me I fear he may down the road....
  7. thats what I thought too. but is controlling always bad? I've wondered this. I've always gone for men who knew what they wanted. Men who wern't afraid to voice their opinions... and now I have one. I dont' let him isolate me from anyone I love. If he refuses to see my family, I go by myself... I WON"T give in and just say "ok hunny, we can do what you want to"... at the same time.. most of the stuff he says is true to some extent, I just don't like hearing my family tlaked about like that. When I say "I dont' talk about your family or friends like that" he comes back saying "well thats because my family and friends are all cool and there's nothing bad to say about them" well... I guess everyone has their own opinion but it irritates me that his opinion seems to be fact in his eyes. If he feels one way that thats the way it should be.... I guess maybe he thinks I'm joking when I tell him to stop. Maybe I should just sit him down and make sure he knows I'm being serious. Make sure he knows how much it bothers me.... and go from there I guess.
  8. is there anythign you can do when your fiance dosen't like spending time with your family? I'm very close with my family and love being around them (for the most part) but my fiance dosen't like my dad or my sister. He talks bad about them sometimes (alot of what he says is true, but not really necessary to blurt out) and it hurts to think that he may never be close with my family like i am. Anyone else ever been through this with your bf/fiance/husband not getting along with your family? How did you handle it?? My fiance is never rude to my family's face, and he loves my mom and my older sister... he just talks about my sister and my dad in ways that I don't like at all! I hate hearing my loved ones talked about like that and I've told him that. He says he'll stop and that he's sorry, but he always slips back into old ways! ](*,) What can I do to make him understand?
  9. for my fiance, my soldier... he's everythign i've ever wanted and needed in a man. Only 31 more days till our wedding!!! Another day Another night The end of waiting In clear sight Another smile Another tear I just can't wait 'Till you are here Days are dull Nights are cold This endless waiting Is getting old But I'm still here Waiting for you I'd do it again If I had to It doesn't get easy Watching you leave It doesn't cause me Any less grief But the wait is worth it When I see you smile It's worth all the tears Separated by the miles I know this is love Because it hurts so much But I still want it Still need your touch So don't be sad The end is in sight We're almost there And we'll be alright
  10. my problem is bring stuff like this up... she's in my wedding in less than 2 months and i'd hate to burn bridges now. She called and said "you're glass on your end table just feel off my truck and broke" then when I was all quiet she said "if it makes you feel any better it scratched my new truck bed up" when I said "no it dosen't really make me feel better" she said "well replaceing glass on a table is more expensive than repainting the bed of my truck"... like it's my fault?? I just don;t know how to approach people with stuff like this...
  11. all of my life I've been the person that lets people walk all over her. the girl that dosen't say anythign and just turns her other cheak just to avoid confrontation. My fiance has brought this to my attention and has told me time and itme again I need to start sticking up for myself. So, I recently moved from my apartment. I had some tables that I bought not even 6 months ago (an end table and 2 smaller tables) that my roommate asked me to leave because I was selling them and she didn't know whether she wanted ot buy them from me or not. I said fine, as long as you bring them to my house if you don't want them (she has a truck, I don't) so she decided she didn't want them, and on her way to my house the glass slid off the big end table and shattered. She called me complaining that my glass scratched her truck bed, not to apologize that she broke it in the first place! I feel she should have offered to replace it. Should I confront her? If I dont' is it just feeding into my habit of letting people walk on me?
  12. Dako, we have talked about postponing the wedding, but have come to the conclusion it wouldn't do any good. Regardless, we are still getting married whether he is in the army or not. I'm not rushing it, I'm doing what I think is best for us. We want to get married adn we both know without a doubt we want to get married. So what's the use in canceling the reception hall, the church, the DJ, the flowers, the cake... everything that I've already booked and put down payments on that are non-refundable... for no reason? He'll be home on leave anywayz, and I'm willing to wait here for him, or to go back with him whatever he may want me to do...
  13. well he's up for 100% medical discharge so even if he didn't have a job to start off with, he'll be getting at least 2-3000 a month from the army, plus he will get his GI bill to help put him through school. He has a couple ideas about what he'd like to do, but nothing definate yet.
  14. Alot of you might know my story, or at least bits and pieces of it, but my fiance is in the Army and he got in a bad car wreck and was severley hurt at the beginning of august. He came home and ended up going through multiple surguries do to negligence at the hospital he was recovering at before. Now he's back at his base and is hating it. They won't let him do anything, so he's bored out of his mind and just wants to come home. Now he's stuck with having to wait to find out if he can stay in or not. For some reason he told me it'd be his choice whether he stayed in or took a medical discharge. That dosen't really make sense to me, isn't it the Army's choice? But anywayz, he asked me what I wanted him to do... stay in or get out. I told him that I didn't want to tell him that because my answer was semi-selfish. I don't WANT to have to be away from him for 6 months to a year at a time, especially when we have children, but I knew what I was getting into when I said I'd marry him. I knew things wouldn't be easy. A part of me also thinks that maybe he got into that accident for a reason. Maybe God almost killed him, to save his life. Maybe him getting hurt will keep him from going to Iraq or Afghanistan or wherever. Maybe he was supposed to get into the army so he could get back in touch with me. If it wern't for him being in the army we would have never re-met (long story) I know not everyone believes in "fate" but I believe that everything happens for a reason and that people are put in certain places at certain times... So, is it right for me to tell him to get out? I know alot of my reasoning is selfish and I wouldn't want to keep him from doing something he really wants. He says part of his reasoning for wanting to stay in is a) he'll have stability for a family and b) he says that every guy has this little childish dream of wanting to shoot stuff and blow stuff up and in the army you get to do that... I'm just so lost... right now it looks like we'll get married in december, and then he'll have to go back to Georgia to wait it out to see if he gets discharged or not... if he dosen't I"ll move out there, if he does he'll move back here. He was told it could be until mid feburary until he finds out... which means he'd be gone for my birthday AND our first valentines day image removed I knew this would be hard, but I guess I just wasn't prepared for all of this uncertainty... no one knows anything, and I don't know why it would take that long for them to decide whether he is of any use to them or not...
  15. I have a friend that has severe emotional problems and is very depressed. She's done alot of it to herself, lets guys walk all over her, thinks having sex with a guy is going to make him fall in love with her, etc... she moved to California 2 years ago, and due to a fallout with friends down there decided to move back to our town. Every time something happens that she dosen't want to deal with, she moves. So, she moved back and expects me to have all this time for her. I'm planning my wedding and taking care of my fiance (for those of you who follow my post know about all that) and on top of that working full time! She got mad at me because she called me and I forgot to call her back. She said she should just move back to California where she has friends that will return her calls... at first i was nice and apologized for forgetting to call her back and told her i was very busy and stressed. But then she kept with the attitude trying ot make me feel guilty and I finally just told her I didn't need the added stress of her attitude. I don't understand why she can't understand how much I have going on right now! It's not that I don't want to talk to her, it's just that it's not the first thing on my mind with everything else going on. Am I in the wrong? Should I be making more of an effort to spend time with her? I just have so much other stuff going on right now that the free time I do get, I usually end up passing out from being so tired...
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