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  1. I just know this is going to come out sounding harsh, but really it sounds as though she is lowering her standards. First off, you should have never asked her out if you had no intentions. You just set her up for rejection. Mean. Second, you keep slamming her looks when it sounds like you aint all that either (you said you keep getting rejected, not a nice feeling hey?) It is just my opinion, and nothing personal, maybe just something to think about. Sometimes we let good things go for the wrong shallow reasons, or hurt other people to serve our on purposes. Pity dates are not nice. I wouldn't suggest doing it again. JMO A
  2. Hi Eve, Your situation sounds horrible and makes for a very complicated life. I don't know a lot about these things, but what I do know is living a double life of any kind is hell. You can choose to live your life for your families, or you can choose to live your life for yourself. I would say that you two need to sit down and make a serious decision. Come out with it, or betray yourselves and live a life for your families? Acceptance usually happens, it may not be as bad with your families as you think. Just my opinion. ;-) A
  3. Everything sounds pretty fishy. The reason you are feeling this way is your instincts are going off, and it's a hard read when you are so close to the situation. It sounds like a very unhealthy relationship. You can't compete with another man, you just can't. Just my opinion. A
  4. Anything is possible, but the symptoms you are describing most happen in the late stages of pregnancy. Early signs are throwing up....missing your period. The drug store has some pretty good tests. Use condoms. Go to the doctor and get on some birthcontrol Un expected babies are a lot of hard work. Take care of you first, and be as responsible as you can so that when you do have a baby, you will be able to take care of it and ready! ;-) Just my opinion
  5. That is horrible that you had that experience in AA, because that is not what it is about. It isn't about who's got who's God. That is your own business. It shouldn't matter if you are gay, or what ethnic group you come from or your social status....or your God. I should hope that there are some different groups around that you could go to. If you need someone to talk to who for sure will not judge who you are......please email me. I would be glad to talk. A
  6. Yes, by your description, it sounds like he is engaging in sex with men. You should for SURE be making him wear a condom when you two have sex. I know he's your husband.....but.... Lots of men marry because they do not want to be discovered as gay, or bi.....you should protect yourself in any case. Just my opinion. A
  7. I was in private investigating for a long time. Take a camera. Wait for public displays of affection. It will do wonders in a settlement. Get your proof, then ask questions. Never ask a question you don't know the answer to! Protect yourself, because he can leave and you won't be granted a divorce or anything. Get proof before saying anything. One thing.....do not give him words that tip him off. Women were always easy to follow, because the guys said nothing! Women are bad for ...."i'll have you followed" and the guys are always looking over their shoulder. A
  8. Hi there, Of course you are flushing your life away. He is married. Let's just say he does leave her, what kind of a man does that make him. He is out having an affair on his wife AND kids......do you really think that he wouldn't do the same to you if he left her and married you? Who wants him? He's a cheater, and he'll cheat on you! Just my opinion, A
  9. Hi there. I don't think falling into emotional blackmail will work. What do you really want with a person who begs you to keep them? There probably was no other guy. Take the time you need. Let her go if she wants to go. Just my opinion A
  10. I believe that the only lesson a child gets if they are hit, is to hit. If I walk up to you as an adult and smack you one every time you do something stupid.....we would all be walking around black and blue. Personally, I do not believe hitting is good. It's like people who swear to much, not enough intelligence to expand their emotional dictionary. Same with hitting. There are many other methods to correct things. Just my opinion A
  11. People who tend to lie for no reason grew up in a home where the child was in fear a lot. The lying and covering up to stay out of trouble moves right on in to adult hood. If that sounds familiar, start with the root of things and see if he is willing to look at it. If not, there is nothing you can do. You can only present the issue, you can not make him change. If he doesn't really understand why he does lie, nothing will change unless he addresses issues. A
  12. I would let him quit playing emotional hostage with you. The reason why you are feeling so confused is because he is trying to confuse you. Take out the emotional factor for a second and just take down the facts and actions. See what comes out of it. Not the things he 'says' because that means nothing. Take down the actions. Put it on paper. It will clear up for you real quick. ;-) A
  13. follow your instincts. You think he is gaming with you and after hearing your story, I think he is gaming with you too. Just my opinion. ;-) A
  14. I don't think it is wrong to wonder about this. I think your main concern is that this guy does not start to pose a problem between you and your husband. Sounds like he is trying to stir the pot a bit. A
  15. I believe that you two could get away with being friends. No rule breaks that. Just be respectful of the situation and move forward from there. No rules ever stop true love from growing. If you two make a decision to take it to the next level, then remembering that you are going to be respectful, you will then need to bring it up with the Uncle. You better start running...and LIKE IT! LOL ;-) A
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