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I love giving it and receiving it equally...My wife hates giving but loves receiving....she wouldn't get an orgasm without it...My GF doesn't like receiving it as much as she likes vaginal sex..She is from a muslim country and according to her oral sex is considered dirty in her country..After some pursuation and watching porn, now she does a pretty good bj though with a condomn..as she thinks performing oral sex on an uncircumcised penis is a religious sin..... . The only way around is to get her drunk a little and then she forgets about religion... The only one girl i met who loved giving oral was a girl from moscow who would go all the way to deepthroat and swallowing..she was the only one with whom i came during oral sex.. San

I love it when my gf watches porn when I am at work and calls me to come home early to f*** her silly...I love it when in the middle of the night, she would run her hands on my chest, make herself wet and then ride me hard without me having to do or say anything. I love the feeling of her pu*** contracting and dilating on my shaft...with her juices flowing from her snatch to my groin...She can bring herself to multiple orgasm using my erect penis as a toy... All that is a big turn on for me before I ram her like crazy.. san

I had this problem for a long time..till recently..out of 10 times i had sex with someone, i could come only 2 times on average.. I know its a complex problem..I did a lot of reasearch too and can easily point out the main reasons... 1. Lack of arousal...some people need a higher limit of arousal to get off than other people..i could rarely come in a missionary position or if my partner is in a hury to get me off...if my partner would show slight amount of annoyance with me for not coming, i could never come...The best advise would be to be patient, even if takes more than an hour, never encourage him verbally to come.., just tell him he is doing a nice job and you are really enjoying it..in short never put him under pressure to come.. 2. Porn: Some people who watch a lot of porn get really disillusioned while performing the actual act...they easily get bored with normal sex..also if your bf earlier had sex with a wannabe porn star, he might expect the same stunts from you..best advice here would be to either watch porn with him and be prepared to copy or make the porn unavailble to him.. 2. Masturbation: people who maturbate at leisure find ways to prolong their pre ejacularory feelings..and may vary their strokes for an hour before ejaculating...conditioning the penis to handle normal pressure and friction without ejaculation...and when they really want to ejaculate they just increase the pressure on their penis to reach the point of no return...When these people engage in normal intercourse the pressure and friction exerted by vagina is akin to the friction and pressure exerted by their hand during masturbation to which their penis is already used to handle without ejaculation...They definitely need something "extra" for them to ejaculate...changing to certain positions where you can give more friction and pressure to the penis is definitely advisable.. 3. Being over caring: some guys are soo....unselfish... All they care about is emotional and sexual satisfaction of their partner..They will maintain an erection and may give multiple orgasms to their partner but their full concentration during love act will be to solely satisfy their partner ignoring their own needs...these people would come with a prostitute or with a girl about whose feelings they don't care about, whom they can ram without care...Watch out if your guy is extra respectful to you and treats you like an angel..ejaculation is a selfish act and the guy has to be selfish during sex act in order to come.. 4. Lack of libido: simple means lack of Testosterone..the male harmone..in these individuals..the secretion of testosterone is less than the normal level..it could be due to both physical or psychological issues. These guys would normally lack hard erection but getting and maintaining an erection is not such a big problem nowadays thanks to viagra and other generic medicines. Even after getting an erection and having a normal sex, they would still lack the sexual arousal due to lack of male harmones. These guys should get their harmone levels checked and take the supplements if required...Thats what I did and now i can come everytime with my gf within 15-20 minutes of wild lovemaking compared to an hour before. My levels were under normal level but i still took the supplements anyway...improving the quality and quantity of erection and ejaculation..I used to use viagra pretty often...not anymore.. 4. Lack of regular sex: This harmone level increases and decreases depending upon the sexual stimulation the brain receives, so a long gap without regular sex can also drop this harmone level. Try to have sex every day or two if possible..without any expectations of him coming or not...the problem will hopefully get solved with regular vaginal sex..try to keep him away from masturbating...a good oral stimulation before actual vaginal sex would help further.. 5. Other: Use of viagra, use of condoms, strong religious believes, fear of making your partner pregnant, fear of being found out, lack of oral sex, not being comfortable with the place where you are having sex, not finding your partner attractive enough, having a partner with low sex drive, any kind of stress are some of the other reasons for this problem.. Hope this helps.. San

Hi, Sorry for your problem..Did she give any reason for this? Why are you guys not married yet? For your anxiety problems, immediately see a psychaitrist..asap..I've been through depression and its easily curable with right drugs and therapy. If unattended it could grown into much worse. San