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Ms Omaniac last won the day on February 14 2006

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  1. im trying. im going out tomorrow with my best friend and his wife. im trying. i wish he would just call....i dont understand
  2. youre right...and i keep telling myself that. i started to date him 2 weeks before his divorce and i think i just helped him get over it and then he tossed me aside. i tell myself i can do better. but im still so stuck. i stare at this one razor blade all day and say aw to hell with it...just do it. but then i say youre worth it...just get up. but i cant. im so pathetic that i dont blame him for leaving.
  3. he didnt call me again. or email me. or text me. i feel so used. if he cared at all....he would still contact me. i cant believe i planned my whole future over someone who could care so little about me. i cant believe i paid 4 grand to be certified as a teacher to live near him. i cant believe he didnt appreciate the fact i would have left all my family and friends just to be near him. it's only been 2 days of nc and im dying. i havent been to work. i havent eaten in days. i cant stop drinking. im so pathetic. i cant stop crying. one of the few things in life that i love is that show "lost"...and i didnt have the energy to even just see that. im so unattractive now. and damn does my heart keep aching.
  4. well he isnt taking my calls. or emailing me. or texting me. i guess we are really over. i was totally blindsided...i didnt see this coming. i was preparing to move with this summer. we talked everyday....i swore eternal love to him. he was my best friend. and now...pooof...nothing. i dont know how i could have missed this. i was being pathetic...calling like 5 times and leaving long voice mail messages....he didnt return a single one. i just cant believe he's gone. i hope if i leave him alone with time and space...he will come back. i feel so lost....this is my last card to play though...and its not a fun one.
  5. i got dumped last night by the love of my life. im soooooo sad. i can barely breathe. he said he just wanted to be friends to which i said noooooooooo. but he said my love for him was too intense and i was too codependent on him. he said he didnt want another relationship like that. and i do love him fiercely. i wish i didnt. it causes a lot of problems. i was supposed to move to be with him this summer now my future is so bleak and empty. i wish he would come back
  6. thank you raykay....youre right...you so are....im trying. im so insecure because of my ex and i need to not compare the two all the time. im trying to let him be his own person but at the same time...i need him so desperately that it is unhealthy.
  7. im so sad. i dont know what to think. my bf has always been there for me. we are in a long distance realtionship. im supposed to move there in a few months. as of the last week....he has been ignoring me....hanging out with co-workers. he doesnt call me. it makes me so sad. i dont know what to think. i would give up on him if he told me to. but he doesnt. i dont know what to think im so devoted to him and he doesnt even see it. he didnt call me at all yesterday and he is acting as if today is just a normal day. he said he has spoiled me by calling me everyday. he wrote me this today....i wish i knew what to do OK, I understand that, you need to know I'm ok, fine, feels a bit constricting I'll admit, but ok, I still have a lot on my plate, it is getting much better for me, there is light at the end of the tunnel, but I am not out of it yet, and now I have found a good way to blow off steam during the week... But remember, I don't push others away just because my life is hectic... More importantly, is that I think there is an underlying issue of insecurity... 3 out of 4 times I have communicated with you in the last week, you have either asked me if I am cheating, or if I want to break up with you, and to just tell you... And this is not the first instance of behavior like this.... Honestly, it scares me a bit... Followed by your seemingly growing dependance on me at times also scares me a bit....
  8. i totally agree boricua...i totally envy the chick that this was written about. i feel like the queen of scotland in braveheart....where she wished she was loved like how mel gibson loved his wife. and mun...im from mcallen too!
  9. i read this and thought it was soooooooooooo gorgeous. i didnt write this but i wanted to share it. She Asked A girl asked a guy if he thought she was pretty... he said no. She asked him if he would want to be with her forever... and he said no. She then asked him if she were to leave would he cry, and once again he replied with a no. She had heard enough. As she walked away, tears streaming down her face the boy grabbed her arm and said... You're not pretty, you're beautiful. I don't want to be with you forever. I need to be with you forever. And I wouldn't cry if you walked away... I'd die.
  10. i didnt write this but i thought it was very beautiful.
  11. im so sorry to hear of your pain. but honey...jack isnt good for you. he knows he can get away with murder. he knows the control he has over you by just threatening to leave. he knows youre a great catch but he takes advantage of your nature that allows everyone to walk all over you. he might love you...but he has an ugly side to him. andrew sounds like a sweetheart too. i bet you youre gonna be devastated when he finds someone else. you shouldnt have dated him so quickly but it's also a shame you dont wanna end up with him. he's what a lot of girls wish they had. maybe your self esteem makes you feel you dont deserve him? you are learning painful lessons in life. one thing for sure though....if you have a boyfriend....you dont see your ex behind his back. you should have either taken him or not go. but like how you wouldnt see andrew because of jack...you shouldnt have seen jack because of andrew. also...once you break up...i dont care how close of friends you once were...you stop talking to them completely. this is to allow you to heal as well as your ex. you should only break NC once you have no romantic feelings and your partner also feels the same. then maybeeeee the old friendship can resume. take care sweetee.
  12. if i was you...i would tell him everything i said above (but make it sound like you said it because he will throw it in your face that YOU are talking about him behind his back). but a few points need to be brought up... 1. to please be patient and understand that you are still healing. he keeps telling you he's understanding but his actions contradict that because he's presuring you too much. tell him it's not like youre not interested or it's not like you dont think of him as a great catch...it's youre still healing...and he cant speed that up. tell him youre not going anywhere...but you still do need some time and space. reassure him that you are devoted to him and only him and that you think very highly of him. when you bring this point up...i would ask him to not say anything first...to just listen...and bring up allllll his good points first and repeat them lastly. when people get complimented first...they dont get on the defense immediately. if you start to critisize him first...then he will IMMEDIATELY get defensive and not let you talk. 2. tell him to talk to YOU about the relationship and discuss private matters with you. tell him that it hurts and bothers you that he'd discuss this with members of ya'lls church. tell him this will not only strengthen his understanding of you...but it will make him less insecure and make you two much closer because good communication is a great foundation for your relationship. 3. tell him that him presurring you so much is NOT to his advantage and if anything...slows the process for you. tell him that if he gives you time and space...it will happen much faster because you'll get stronger without having to deal with you two constantly bickering. but i know what you mean...he might be a great guy...and you seem to really enjoy him and his company...but he is shooting himself in the foot by doing what he's doing. if he doesnt stop...then he is jeopardizing ya'lls relationship. and i bet you he doesnt even see it. i personally dont think he's mean or manipulative...he just wants to hurry up and be a hot n heavy couple kinda thing with you. it's actually sweet to a point....but...that still doesnt help things.
  13. to me...it sounds like this guy is getting frustrated. he told you that he is understanding that you want to take things slow...but i have a feeling that is lessening more and more so. i think he is pressuring you to hang out more because he is trying to speed up your healing process. that's the problem though...you cant. he can throw a temper tantrum (not to his advantage) to try and force you to do what he wants (which sounds manipulative but maybe he doesnt realize he is doing that). maybe he isnt inconsiderate...just insecure and impatient. but i would understand if you choose to end this just because he is trying to force you to hurry up and recover. and if anything...it is the WORST thing he can do to speed up your recovery. the best thing he can do is give you time and space. you'll go to him more when youre ready. also...i find talking about you behind your back with your "friends at church" or whatever is VERY childish. if he has a problem with waiting or with you...he should talk to YOU about it. youre the source. he should trust you and your answers. if anything...it totally strengthens your communication and trust and makes you less insecure to hear the reasonings from the source...YOU. PLUS...that's personal. it's concerning your relationship that is between you and him. adding other people into the mix that is not an agreed therapist of some sort is just asking for trouble. so yeah...that would also irritate me. it sounds like drama and im not a huge fan of that. take care.
  14. she sounds like she is fishing for you to say something...anything...to start a small convo to check that youre still not over her. what she did was kinda transparent. hopefully that didnt bum you out too much.
  15. thanks guys....i appreciate the feedback. it feels nice to feel like that for someone that likes you back. i FINALLY have someone special.
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