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  1. newts

    No orgasm?

    Hmmm, I wouldn't worry too much, some guys can only ejaculate when they masturbate themselves unless they are prepared to tell their girlfriend how to make them orgasm and ejaculate when given a B/J or H/J. You need to understand what you do to make yourself orgasm and ejaculate when you do it yourself and then try to converse this to your girlfriend, don't worry it will happen, you both need try different things until you find out what works. Don't freak out, you have just started your sexual exploration together, communication with each other is the most important part of having satisfying sex.
  2. I totally agree will Melrich, She has certainly given you your answer. If she felt the same way as you she would have said I really miss you and love you too....
  3. I would say you may hear from her once you get back to NY, some people can't handle the fact that they are left behind by someone they care about. The most important thing to think about is listen to what people tell you, she said that she needs to be single because she just got out of a serious 2 year relationship - listen to her and give her that time, 2 years is quite a long time to be seeing someone else and then immediately jumping into a new relationship can be fatal. Give her this time and if she doesn't contact you when you get back to NY, then I would make one call and one call only to see if you can start from where you left off. Good luck and stay in the NC mode until you return (If she calls you or emails you, always reply, if you want to get back with her ignoring her could only make matters worse, just make sure she is the one initiating contact).
  4. Well today is a sentimental day for you and sometimes those sorts of days that remind you of your ex will bring these feelings to the surface. Just remember not to act upon these feelings and as more time goes by these sentimental things will just be part of your past.
  5. Hey, Next time he turns up where you and your friends are, politely pull him aside and tell him what you need to tell him. If he doesn't stop accidently running into after you tell him, go to the police and get a restraining order on him (make sure you mention that in your first talk).
  6. I have been single for just over 12 months and I am loving it! The best thing about being lonely is the freedom that comes with it. I am not single because I am scared of the hurt and pain a new relationship may bring into my life, I have found that this time around I have finally found out who I am and what I want from life and a relationship - I want just settle for the next hot man that walks into my life, there is a criteria and my next potential partner needs to meet this criteria and if that means staying single for a very long time, I am quite prepared to do so. I am happy with my life, work, friendships, my direction and renewed ambition and I finally love myself and have recognised my faults and am also working on those too. So loneliness is not all that bad as far as I am concerned.
  7. You both seem very confused about the relationship and it's causing you more confusion and hurt than it's suppose to. No contact is a way in which both of you have time apart from the relationship to really decide what you want for yourselves and your relationship. If after a month of no contact you are still confused I suggest another month. When you are in a healthy relationship you should be clear about the direction of your relationship - not confused or hurt.
  8. My last relationship was terrible. I had a problem with his drinking and he had supposedly had given up and then out of the blue he went on a bender with his friends, I abused him, ignored him for a week and he meet someone else 2 days after our fight, he was engaged to her 7 weeks later ( we went out and lived together for nearly 2 years) I changed my number, and he kept leaving messages for five months after I ended any contact. I spoke to him after these 5 months (telling me he loved me etc..)and he continuously blamed me for the breakup, it's only been in the last week that he has taken 90% of the responsibility of our break up and that is only because he has broken up with his fiance' and is finally doing a little soul searching. If he was truly sorry he would have asked for my forgiveness and tried to get back, however, he seems to have moved on from all of his past relationships. Do they come back grovelling - I think not, when people finally are rational they realise there is no future with the past. I am just so happy that he has finally accepted responsibilty for his destruction of our relationship. - that is all I needed to make me happy.
  9. Hi Heart Broken, I have a similiar situation to you, however, I am in the same shoes as your boyfriend. It was my exes Birthday last Tuesday and I called him to wish him a happy birthday. We chatted for about 10 minutes and then I ended the call. The reason I called is because he will always have a special place in my heart and even though we are not together and there is no plans of reconciliation, I genuinely wanted to wish him a happy birthday, nothing more nothing less.
  10. It's always nice to be able to help people that you care about when they are need. Yes, you maybe her doormat, however, as long as you feel content that is all that matters.
  11. My advice for not hurting him is to leave him alone completely. It is very hard for the person who still has strong feelings for the dumper to remain friends and have a normal friendship. When the feeling start to demish for him, then maybe the two of you can be friends, until this stage you can't expect to have any sort of friend. I am sorry, these are the harsh realities of a break up.
  12. It is very hard because it is actually final. I agree with R C, kept your distance from him and move on.
  13. I would say if you get the urge to touch yourself, try touching a litle more and explore the possibility of arousing yourself to the point of orgasm. I have heard some many friends say they are not very sexual and I ask them if they have ever had an orgasm and they say they haven't. It is hard to be into something which doesn't make it worth trying again or wanting to be turned on. My advice is to try to make yourself climax, explore just a little further and totally satisfy your urges.
  14. I agree NJRon, I have told him to do that, I told him there is no chance of that happening, I don't understand why he keeps fishing?
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