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okay, good for you. but it sounds like he's got plenty of red flags which you're ignoring b/c you sound so impressed by his involvement with the music business (nothing to be proud of - it's a sordid industry when you're inside it). well, good luck is all i'll say!
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"Very into his mum,a mummies boy very into his family (nieces etc), spoke of his relationships and he came accross like hes always been 'the nice guy" that's what my ex was like AT THE START!! there is no such thing as Mr Nice guy - it usually masks a dark side and is mainly an act b/c the person 'swallows' all their true feelings to come accross as nice. my ex gave me to believe that he was always the nice guy in r/shps, always got treated badly, came off worse, friends & family and exes always taking advantage of him etc, but guess what? it turned out to be pure lies! (he was Mr Cruel Guy at the end) if i'd known the terrible price i'd pay for that false image of my ex - i thought he was THE Mr Nice Guy to beat all nice guys - i'd NEVER have got involved with him. also the mummy's boy thing is whack! again, it usually means the guy is very controlling (as i discovered) + it's not a healthy attitude to have (trust me, you don't want his mother as a 3rd partner in yr r/shp). but sadly you will only find this out when it's too late. my advice? don't go there! get yrself a man, not a boy!
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we don't forgive either - whether it's emotional or sexual, they're both unforgiveable. one-night stands are only slightly easier to forgive b/c they are ONE OFFS and with strangers... but both situations mean it's over
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i hate to say this and i don't mean to sound harsh or judgemental, but you are WAY TOO YOUNG to be tossing off a guy in the cinema - do you know how cheap you sound (especially when you say it like that)? maybe you think it's funny, but it sounds like you're not valuing yourself. to put it bluntly, if you don't know how to communicate these feelings with him, then you're not old enough to be taking things further. also, you should know that a woman's womb doesn't stop developing until she's about 17. so you have plenty of time to grow up and have sex then, otherwise you risk being more prone to getting infections. it sounds like you should be following yr guy's lead and take it slowly. he's trying to show you some respect, so why don't you try acting like you have some respect for yourself?
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monsieur, but that could be ANY day!!!! hormones do influence how we feel, but they don't CHANGE how we feel. ie the effects are only temporary. the point is if a girl isn't interested in you, her fluctuating hormone levels won't change that. also you cannot predict how a woman's going to feel: we are all different. i really think if you're relying on picking a 'good' day with this girl, then (sorry) but it sounds like you don't stand much of a chance in the 1st place. also, as i said before if she found out you were even taking this line, she would be seriously OFF YOU. you are barking up the wrong tree and making yourself sound freaky...
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okay, one final bit of advice and i mean this in the nicest way: BACK OFF from her periods. it will irritate the hell out of her if you start getting involved in them. i used to have a friend who would tell me when he thought i was getting my period b/c he became fairly adept at knowing when. this would BUG me to death whenever he said it, so if you want to put her off you, keep going on about her cycle - you will talk yourself right out of a date!! lol. let her OWN her periods herself. let her initiate conversation about them, but if i were you unless you're in a long-term r/shp with a woman, stay out of it (i'm telling you for your own good!)
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you got it! but in order for you to 'track' the 'best' time you would have to obsessively chart her periods, monitor them for a few months to see what pattern her cycle has etc, and that is plain SCARY and TOO WEIRD for any man to do, no matter how interested he is in a girl. you would scare her off BIG time if you took that approach and look like a total PSYCHO. if i were you, i'd save this info for when you're in a r/shp and can show yr understanding to yr gf. your intentions are too open to misinterpretation, which could really screw things up for you in the long term. i cannot emphasise enough how freaked out any woman would be to discover you'd been monitoring her periods. capisce?
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for your age (15), it's not uncommon to have an irregular cycle, especially when you first start them. how long ago did you start getting yr periods? it doesn't sound like anything to be worried about (in fact worrying + stress can actually delay menstruation) - but go see your doctor so he/she can put your mind at rest.
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generally speaking, 2wks before menstruation women's sex drive goes UP, UP, UP (it coincides with the body's last-ditch attempt to get pregnant that month!); one week/few days before menstruation you are just NOT interested in men, love, relationships (period! no pun intended!! lol). it's like you go off it as your womb starts breaking down its lining and bleeding starts (of course being raddled with painful water retention, swollen breasts, and your whole body generally s-l-o-w-i-n-g down + spotty outbreaks and mood swings kinda gets the majority of women out of the mood); during menstruation you feel closer to your partner and need lashings of TLC. hope that answers your question HOWEVER, it varies from woman to woman. you cannot 'get in' as you put it, depending on where a woman is in her cycle: she either likes you or she doesn't - you can't influence the outcome and any man who thinks he can get the better of a woman's menstrual cycle is a FOOL!! it's a loser's game, pal, LOL. these are hormonal changes we're talking about, not complete mind-personality changes.
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she is a guilty secret - but she is NOT your responsibility; her welfare is her responsibility and you 'enabling' her will only make her worse. it would not be 'callous' to let her do things for herself - for all you know she spins this kind of bs on every man she meets... you are embarrassed to tell your family she is a liability who will drag you down with her it is staring you in the face why you shouldn't have anything to do with her, but you feel you can't cut her off. are you sure it doesn't give you some kind of kick having power over her like this? (it IS a r/shp based on inequalities). i am just playing devil's advocate here b/c i think you need to ask yourself if you're being honest with yourself? are you sure you don't feel superior? is it a way for you to subconsciously rebel? do you find her 'danger' attractive? be honest with yourself about the REAL reasons you can't let go (is it an ego-boost for you to be with someone so less fortunate or capable?). i guess one lesson you've learned is not to rush into things so fast, huh?
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she is a guilty secret - but she is NOT your responsibility; her welfare is her responsibility and you 'enabling' her will only make her worse. you are embarrassed to tell your family she is a liability who will drag you down with her it is staring you in the face why you shouldn't have anything to do with her, but you feel you can't cut her off. are you sure it doesn't give you some kind of kick having power over her like this? (it IS a r/shp based on inequalities are you being honest with yourself? are you sure you don't feel superior? or are you sure subconsciously you're not trying to rebel?
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no, you don't sound needy, but you DO sound aggressive/angry with her. you just need to change the way you present your points (which are all valid). try and write from the heart, with some affection at least.
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the bottom line is you are incompatible + you are getting 'gut feelings' that something's not right - trust your instincts. you know the answer deep down, so don't let familiarity and force of habit confuse you into keeping her in your life. if she really intends to turn herself around, then hook up with her 6 months from now when she's in a stronger position. but it sounds unlikely. more than anything you are an open, affectionate person and you say she's not demonstrative. sounds like you need someone who can show you their affection, not leave you to guess/assume. don't settle for less than you give yourself. you can do better - and you know it.
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are you trying to increase your power or your speed? my coach sometimes gets me to wear weights on my wrists to improve my form when i do padwork (which is great - very effective!). is there a boxing gym near you? you could ask they guys there
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It's okay to hurt- Everthing does move on- FCTex
lgirl replied to FCTex's topic in Healing After Break Up or Divorce
mystik - i swear to goodness we are twins!! lol i totally get where you're at