I am contemplating getting back into a relationship with a man who I really believe to be my soul mate. We dated for a few years about three years ago and ended it when we realized that we weren't ready for forever yet and needed to grow as individuals. Now we are discussing getting back together and I am concerned about one thing. When we were together before we had issues with sex because I am not physically attracted to him in the nude. I have NEVER said anything to him and know that that is not at all the most important thing in a relationship and love him regardless, but it did have an effect on our sex life. He is overweight and I find it hard to truthfully say that I find him sexy (in the nude – dressed he is a knockout). I don't want to be with anybody else, but I think it would really help our sex life if he were to be more in shape. I'm sure that I am coming accross as really shallow and I assure you that I am not. I would do anything for him and know that every other aspect of our relationship would be great. I just want to be connected with him in every way and when you hold something like that back, I'm sure it could eat at the relationship. I would never tell him that I found his body unattractive or that I wasn't sexually attracted to him, but I also don't want to get into a lifelong relationship without a sexual connection because I have learned how important that is to a relationship. I am not sure what to do. Any thoughts?
