sour_girl

Thanks for your input peoples - some interesting points but basically I guess it means that he's not going to call, seeing as its now Friday. Stupidly I didn't get his number but ce la vie..you win some, you lose some. At the very least it gave me some insight into the dating world & that maybe next time a guy is lucky enough to get my number he may call. Thanks again!

I have to say I'm in a similar situation, however nearing the 7 day mark with no phone call which is a bummer as the guy I met out last Sat night was great & we talked for ages & there was definitely a spark between us. He got my number after asking me when we were going out for a drink &, well, I'm still waiting for his call - with little hope now! I'd say within 2 - 4 days is the optimum time to call. Obviously if a guy I really hit it off with called the next day after meeting him for the first time, called I'd be rapt, but think he was a bit desperate.

I met a really nice guy on Saturday night - I'm not in the habit of giving my number out to guys, so this was quite a change for me. But this guy is great - we chatted for most of the night & got along really well. He suggested we go out for a drink (this led in to him getting my number) & then I said "What about next weekend?" which he agreed with. So, now I'm in that stage of wanting him to call cos I want to see him again. I'm recently single after a 3.5 yr relationship, so am wondering if any of you lovely people could shed some light on how long is normal to wait for the first phone call to arrange a date. I'd be thinking today (being Wednesday) would be the latest he could call without assuming I'd have already made plans for the weekend..any help will be appreciated!!

Will try & keep the background to my question as brief & to the point as possible - bear with me!!! I went to a housewarming back in August with a good friend of mine. It was one of her work mate's do & although I barely knew anyone there, I met a guy she works with & the whole night me, my friend 'C' & the guy, 'A', chatted & mucked around. Anyway, a group of us headed to a nearby club/pub later on & 'A' walked it with me & 'C'. 'C' was getting over the atmosphere at one stage but I convinced her to stay for a little while longer. 'A' & I chatted for a bit, danced for a bit & then 'C' decided she was off home. As we live within a few blocks of one another, I decided to leave with her..leaving the others & 'A' behind. He's a lovely guy - very cute, great sense of humour & I can't stop thinking about him. And yes, I deeply regret leaving early that night ;-) A month ago I got 'C' to invite 'A' & another mutual friend she works with to a party I was having. 'A' said he had another thing on that night, but may come past later..he didn't (I wasn't expecting him to). Anyways, I don't want to bug my friend 'C' to invite him if we meet up for lunch during the week etc (she doesn't really hang around with him much) & as I have his email address, I was thinking maybe I should contact him & ask whether or not he'd like to catch up sometime..or has too much time passed (ie 2 months since I last met him)? 'C' is having a big party in November, to which he's invited, so I could always try my luck then I guess..Any advice from guys is welcomed!! Thanks!

Definitely have something specific in mind - whether it's coffee, movie etc. That way you're not going to be umming & ahhing over what to do when she says yes! Good luck!

The smiling & eye contact is always a good sign. It may just be that this girl is shy & is unsure what to say to you - the weekend question is always a goodie, I reckon keep persisting with this girl if you like her. Give her a chance to get to know you a little better (& for you to get to know her a bit better).

Well I don't know..he's got long hair, tatts etc - bit of a bad boy look about him. Whereas I usually would go for a clean cut type of guy. What attracted him to me wasn't his looks at first, but the conversations we have - we've both got some way out ideas & share the same sense of humour. Because of the fact that we get along so well that's made his appearance more attractive to me. If that makes sense.. After work last week he was telling me he was going for drinks with his high school girlfriend. I was like "oooooh!" in a jokey way but he said it wasn't like that at all, she was down from the country & had wanted to catch up with him, that was all. When he was leaving later on I said "Have fun on your date!" in a playful, teasing kind of way & he just shot me this look as if he was thinking "I can't believe you just said that after what I told you"...whatever!

What exactly do you mean by this??

I work with a guy, who I refer to as "Real Man". We get along great, we have the same lunch break & as we're smokers we end up sitting at the picnic table at work. I am very attracted to him & have noticed: **He always says hi & asks how I'm going if I see him throughout the day **He will laugh at my (often) smart @ss comments - not necessarily directed at him **He remembers things I've said & will refer back to these on different occasions **He'll sit either directly accross or next to me at lunch & will usually be the one to initiate conversation with me **We'll tease each other, but never touch. **A few weeks ago me, a girl from work & Real Man were meant to go out for drinks after work, but the other girl had to cancel. I should have said to Real Man, "why don't we just go" but was too shy!! Also he could have said the same to me. We ended up having a few after work at our work as it happened. I am planning to organise for the 3 of us to go out drinking in a week or so... I know there may not be a lot to go on here, but ANY advice on whether any of you out there think he's even the *teensiest* bit interested would be appreciated!!