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  1. If my BF gets a boner while I make out with him, I fine it sexy and sort of a turn on. LOL...yes, it's exciting to touch down there and find him with an erection and to play with it in my mouth or hands. LOL!
  2. Suicide is a sin, yes and no. (Please, note this is based on Christian beliefs and will reflect those beliefs) If you do it knowing full well that what you are doing is wrong and are sane, then, yes, it is a sin according to Christian beliefs. If you are seriously not able to comprehend that suicide is wrong, then it isn't. You have to know something is sinful to commit a sin. However, most are able to know that what they are doing is wrong. This leaves room for those that are SERIOUSLY mentally instable. God will judge those that kill themselves accordingly, whether they are given mercy for their sin or condemned. This is what the Catholic Church says (I italicized parts dealing with depression and salvation): Suicide 2280 Everyone is responsible for his life before God who has given it to him. It is God who remains the sovereign Master of life. We are obliged to accept life gratefully and preserve it for his honor and the salvation of our souls. We are stewards, not owners, of the life God has entrusted to us. It is not ours to dispose of. 2281 Suicide contradicts the natural inclination of the human being to preserve and perpetuate his life. It is gravely contrary to the just love of self. It likewise offends love of neighbor because it unjustly breaks the ties of solidarity with family, nation, and other human societies to which we continue to have obligations. Suicide is contrary to love for the living God. 2282 If suicide is committed with the intention of setting an example, especially to the young, it also takes on the gravity of scandal. Voluntary co-operation in suicide is contrary to the moral law. Grave psychological disturbances, anguish, or grave fear of hardship, suffering, or torture can diminish the responsibility of the one committing suicide. 2283 We should not despair of the eternal salvation of persons who have taken their own lives. By ways known to him alone, God can provide the opportunity for salutary repentance. The Church prays for persons who have taken their own lives.
  3. Hehehe...what a funny thing to say. I think I wouldn't have replied as well. I would have either deleted the comment or been really really scared.
  4. Yes, your point is probably what my mom would understand best. I mean had it been an emergency or something...hey, no problem, she's one of my friends at work. But this was just so she could go home and fool around with her BF. My mom demanded I give the money back, but she has forgotten all about it so I tucked the money in my "money for a rook piercing" piggie bank (LOL...$20 from my grandpa for xmas went into the piggie bank. I think I am going to tell him I am going to spend it on jewelry or something. ). My mom is so funny at times. But yeah...I agree that this payment wasn't affecting anyone but my coworker and I. I mean if I was paid to keep my mouth shut about something or do something bad...then that would be a completely different story. Thanks y'all! If my mom remembers and brings this situation up, I'll remember the points you all mentioned. Maybe she will not see this as being immoral as she thinks now.
  5. Is it bad to take money offered by a co-worker to finish working a shift? My shift was supposed to end earlier than another employee I work with. But she wanted to go home to sleep (since she and her BF were up all night if you know what I mean). She offered me $10 to work her last hour. I took the offer and worked her last hour. She was excited that she got off an hour early and happily walked out the door with her BF. $10 isn't much really but my mom was surprised when I showed up an hour late and someone gave me $10 to work an hour. This was her cigarette money (she's in her thirties) more than likely. You think it was bad to take her offer? I see this kind of payment all over work and it seems fine and pretty normal to me. Last minute bribes are the only way to get people to finish working shifts and take shifts that people procrastinated trying to switch or ask off. Though my sister, who also works at this part time job, has yet to see this going on. It's mostly an evening shift thing...all the daytime workers are fulltime (like this employee that I took the hour from).
  6. I thought you said you weren't bitter and that you were calmer and all that jazz? Sounds to me like you are and that you want to attack him for being a jerk. If you really honestly have this need to send it...wait at least a week. It's better to not send it really.
  7. Welcome to ENA! I agree that the letter shouldn't be sent. That's the type of letter I always write on a piece of paper and then destroy the letter. For some reason just writing it makes me feel better (even if the letter is never sent). Yes, breaking up with you with a phone call was bad. But you should just let him do what he wants and move on. No need to be seen as the crazy ex (by him) now.
  8. This is an old post. Mods lock it.
  9. Hahaha...when I talk to people I act as if I have it "all together". But in actual fact I am sick and tired and just want school to be over. I am worn out...I have plenty of time to study and all that but I have been doing the studying for finals for the past week and a half-ish. I had two huge finals last week so that's where that came in. Been studying since Friday for a test on Wednesday. It's a final in Design of Experiments and I will be excited to get an A, pleased to get a B and won't complain about a C. It's one of the worst classes I have ever taken. The teacher has gotten the Grim Reaper Award (hard teacher) and the Bloody Paper Award (picky grader...just gives everyone a bad grade!) for a long time. She just keeps getting them every year and I think she's proud of that. Freshman year people told me never to take her, but I had to sinec she was the only one teaching the course and I couldn't fall another year behind. But yeah...life will be great in 24 hours!!! But after her test I have to start studying for linear algebra. Pretty easy course but I don't understand linear transformations that well. Everything else I understand perfectly...it's just all that similar matrices junk. I wish I could have all my exams at once instead of this long drawn out stuff...I have little to no motivation left. I think I will have a burst of motivation after my exam tomorrow. I think I will go cheering outside after it is all over because her class will be finally over. I think I will get all A's but that one Design of Experiments course. But one more week...and it will be all over. I can't wait! I have two things planned for the break. I'm getting my rook pierced this Saturday as a reward for surviving finals (I only have one hole in each lobe...that's it for piercings. I just fell in love with the rook after seeing it on my sociology professor this past semester). Then I will be going to a Red Hot Chili Peppers concert over Christmas break.
  10. He's going home for the holidays. That means little to no contact over the break. It's not an issue with being alone for the holidays. He won't be around. I mean I'm just going to be with my family all christmas as always. I already started dropping hints that I am not sure about the relationship. But I can sure fake a happy atitude towards it all. melrich, I tried to make it work. I post about my problems only but I mean...I'm at least going to give it a few more months. Which okay isn't fair to him...but breaking it within the next week isn't fair to him either. It would be horrible to do that to someone so close to finals. I also don't want to ruin christmas for him. But...yeah. I can't be open with him! There is no communication that is even worth anything in this relationship. Everytime I try to be open I am immediately shot down. I tell him something and he automatically starts shoving his opinion down my throat instead of listening to me trying to open up. Then he will complain that I "never open up to" him. At what point am I supposed to be like everyone has their quirks and at what other point is it like this is an issue?? I mean I realize there is nothing wrong with him, but yet there is.
  11. Do you think I should set a deadline for myself? I don't want to just hop out of a long relationship, but I can't help feeling like things aren't right. Like the relationship isn't working out chemistry-wise. I'm not attracted to my BF physically. I stopped being attracted to him awhile back and while I know it is shallow to judge people based on looks...I don't like kissing him or anything. No snuggling...no kissing...just a hug and maybe a kiss of the cheek. I am sure my BF notices it. He's stopped bugging me about it all. I guess he knows. But I mean if he at least brushed his teeth and had good dental hygeine! Also there is a lot wrong chemistry-wise. I really do find him way to laid back and apathetic for my tastes. Pretty much...he's dull. Often enjoying his TV and video games more than chatting with me. I'm not about to cause any break up any time soon since I am giving myself a deadline. If I still see things as they are in a few months, I know what I have to do. But I can't explain it...something is missing! He's a great guy with good morals and really sweet. But I can't be open with him and I have tried. I'm afraid to be open because he's just a little too judgemental. Nothing until after the holidays or being so close to finals. It's sad...he's perfect in his morals and beliefs...and we never fight. But I'm not that happy. I don't want to just leave because all relationships have their faults. But I dunno...
  12. Oooo...ooo...can I reply! 1. Of the sexual partners you've had, how many are/were actually good in bed? 0 2. Have you slept with everyone you dated? I've slept with no one...LMAO! 3. Have you indulged in casual sex? What do you think? No, never have I indulged in casual sex. 4. If you answered NO to #3, how did you feel between relationships? Nothing...I've got an incredably low sex drive. Doing sexual things actually doesn't really appeal to me that much. 5. If you could live your life again, what would you change in your sex life? I'd do nothing different.
  13. I used to listen to blindside...but they lost me as a huge fan after releasing About a Burning Fire. A Thought Crushed My Mind will always be my favorite CD by them...LOL! And I could never get into Pillar despite several people telling me how awesome they were. Maybe it was just the CD I bought.
  14. The cap was for those under 21 I believe is what the op meant. Like those over 21 could date whoever they want as long as they don't mess up the 7 year cap for under 21s... but those under 21 had to have a 7 year gap of course. That's how I read it.
  15. I love music and perfer music that speaks to me. My two favorite bands are mewithoutYou and Project 86. Both have amazing lyrics and the emotion in the songs are just...wow! MWY especially...but they are one of those bands you have to listen a few times to appreciate and understand (and the lead singer doesnt sing...he recites poetry in a dramatic way with varying tones and stuff!). I find the music by those two bring out feelings and emotions I never knew were there.
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