Nick82087

Hmm... quite a few mixed opinions here. Its either, no way shes not interested, or, yeah shes testing you in some way... move on it. I'm not sure which one to choose, but depending on how my things go with her this week, maybe I'll move on it. It may not be the best timing, since we have spring break coming up next weekend and we're both going out of town, but maybe a weeknight outing would be appropriate? It may be difficult since we both have a bunch of tests this week, but hopefully I'll manage something.

She did say she spent most of her high school years with this guy, and has been broken up with him for almost 2 years. She also said he was the worst boy friend ever! I don't know if this info helps with your input, but when she talks about him, its more of a relationship between things I say that she may have experienced with him, or that she can relate to him; not just flat out talking about him specifically.

So essentially, I may be getting friend zoned? Thats a bummer, I really am interested in this girl and would like to persue it more if she too is interested. However, I fear I may have let it go on for too long with out asking her out though. I've seen her almost daily since mid january due to having classes together. I got her number more than a month ago, and have only called her once or twice to meet up to study for classes, not really anything outside of school related things. Have I just totally screwed up my chances with her, or is there still oportunity to be had? Should I just go for it, or let it be? I've been pretty pressured and stressed out with college lately, so I've had a lot on my mind. Any further input would be great!

The other day, while this girl and I were supposed to be studying, we went off on random tangents all the time. We would get into random conversations, all of which were good conversations, and she would consistently say, "my Ex...blah blah blah ", after I would say something. Seemingly relating a lot of the things I would say to her, to her Ex. During this time, she later apologized for talking about her Ex so much, saying she related to a lot of the topics we were talking about with her ex. I wasn't sure of what to take from the apology. In my mind it was unnecessary since we are not dating yet, and I don't think any friend of mine that is a girl would apologize for doing the same. What do you all think of this, is it normal for a girl to apologize for talking about her Ex so much unless she is interested in you?

Yeah dude, I do feel disrespected, and I'm pretty pissed off about it. She showed alot of interest when I met her, and even on the phone two nights ago, so again something may of came up. But as you said, until she redeems her self by returning my call and apologizing, I'm not calling or talking to her again. Your right, I'm not her puppet and I'm not going to wait arround for her since she hasn't had the decency to show the respect of returning a call, so I'm going to continue to meet new women and have a good time doing it.

Right, thats what I thought. I dont plan on calling her again until late august (college starts, and we share alot of classes). Anyway, like you said heloladies, she'll have to make the next move, otherwise... nothing spent, nothing gained.

Well, its 6:30 pm the day after I called and still no call back. I am kind of confused, because as I said, she responded quickley to my call the night before that. I'm not sure if she has lost interest, had something come up, or just isn't good about returning calls. What do you guys think?

Yeah dude, same thing happened to me today. I met this girl on wednesday at a college orientation thing, and we seemed to get along really well. At the end when the two of us were alone, she and I exchanged numbers. She said we should hangout or party sometime this summer, then she said maybe this weekend. Later she hugged me then we both left our sepparate ways. I called her last night to see if she wanted to do anything this weekend, probably today. I got the machine, left a message and waited to see if she would call back. Well she did, fairly promptly too. It was no longer than a half hour after I called that she called back. She was in a noisey area so she tried to carry a conversation the best she could, but later said "how about I call you tomorow morning". I said sure that would be great. So today, I got up, showered, and carried out my usual morning duties waiting for her call. I waited for a while so I thought, if she dosent call by 1:30, I'll call her. I thought this because maybe she expected me to call. So I did, left a kind message, then went off to go mountain biking as I had planned before she said she'd call me. Now its nearly 8:00, still no call, so I'm not sure of what to take from this, especially since she was very prompt about returning my call last night. Any idea whats going on? Maybe something came up?

Dude, Air Force, cool I'm probably doing college AFROTC hopefully for pilot school sometime. I also want to be a veterinarian too, so I'm gonna have to choose one or another soon. I hope everything works out well for you, just today I met a really nice girl at my college orientation, and within just a few minutes of talking, we became prety good friends. She and I share most of our classes together, so we'll be seeing lots of eachother. She and I both want to hang out sometime before classes start, so hopefully things develope positively Anyway, good luck to ya man, and I'm proud of the service you do for our country.

So, your saying if I call this girl, you'll call the guy... right? Well if thats so, dont worry, you'll be calling him. I plan on calling her tomorrow (thursday), because I just got back from my college orientation, it was alot of fun. The thing is, I met a really nice girl, yeah shes also beautiful, while I was planning classes arround my major. We talked alot and planned our schedules out so that we share nearly every class together. She and I kinda flirted with eachother, and exchanged phone numbers. She and I both would really like to hang out over the summer before classes start, so we may do something this weekend, depending on if I also call her sometime between now and then. In my mind its kinda wrong to try to establish a relationship with 2 girls, but I also considder that I'm not dating either one yet, and I have more of a probility of seeing this girl who I'm attending college with than the girl who this post is about. I plan on calling both girls soon, but will definiately not date both at the same time... in a way, I just want to keep my options open incase things go one way or another. If you guys have any opinions or advice, feel free to comment.

Well, I still didn't get to call her yet. I had planned on calling her today, but I didn't finish my business until about 8:00 pm, so I figgured it was alittle late for a casual call. And I'll admit, I'm a bit nervous about the call. I want it to go well, but I fear of that awkwardness, and the fact that I havent spoken to her in nearly 2 weeks. So as its probably going to work out, I'll probably end up calling her on wednesday evening. I want to have time devoted to this phone call, so incase it does go well, it can last as long as it needs to. I'm probably over reading all of this, because as you have all said, she was definiately into me. I guess I'm just a bit nervous about calling after awhile of not speaking to her. I still plan on calling her, so wish me luck.

Ya dude, I was pretty stunned. I was pretty happy the whole day with the way she was acting. The thing is, I havent seen or talked to her in 12 days. I really want to see her again, because we both graduated and are going to different colleges, but at least in the same state though, we may never see eachother again. I want to ask her out sometime, naturally because of the way she acted that day, but also because she is, in my mind, one of the most perfect girls I've ever known: personality, body, intellegence, etc.. My concern is that since we havent spoken in 12 days, calling her may be awkward, but I know if I want to see her again, I need to call her. So unless somehow I randomly see her sometime, I'm gonna have to give her a call. Wish me luck

Yes, I do plan on calling her, but I know I better do it ASAP. I just think the longer I wait, the more strange it would be of me to call. I've just been bussy since that sunday 2 weeks ago. I had very minor neck surgery, went to visit family in different states, and this week I have college orientation and class placement tests on wednesday and thursday, I've just thought I had better wait until I can plan something arround both my schedule and hers. Lets say I called her today, I'm occupied on weds and thurs, so I'd have to plan something for friday or this weekend, would calling this early in the week and planning something later in the week be inappropriate? Also, could I possibly text her to kind of break the ice, then in that text convo say, "I'm kind of bussy, would you mind if I called you later", or would that also be inappropriate. Sorry, I'm just alittle concerned about this since I havent talked to her for about 12 days. If you have any opinions now, they would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Nick

A girl who I've been friends with for years and have also liked on and off during the time had asked me to join her at her graduation party, she made it clear that she really wanted me to come in the way she asked, she kept saying how she hoped I'd show up and how she really wanted me to be there, so of course I went. I showed up and went to great her, when I did, she seemed very happy to see that I showed up, and also said "I'm so happy you showed up". Since it was an event which envolved family members and alot of other "older people" who I didn't recognize, I decided to let her visit with them and do what she needed to do instead of occupying her time, so I casually hung out most of the time there. I often noticed that she had her eye on me alot of the time, and once while I was seated talking to a friend of mine and his family, she passed by me and stroked her fingers through my hair while I was sipping on coffee, when I looked up to see that it was her, she gave me an unusally sexy smile. After that I made it an effort to be near her and talk with her often. She continued saying how glad she was that I showed up, and also introduced me to some of her family. After the party had nearly ended, she introduced me to her mom and said how sweet I was staying the whole time. At that moment, after her mom moved on, I decided to ask for her number, she gave it to me, and I then said I was going to my other friends graduation party and I'd see her there. At my other friends party, she sat next to me on a sofa in a pretty cuddly position and again said how happy she was that I came to her party, she did this about three times, I acted flattered and said "I dont know what to say" in a humerous flattered tone. After awhile, she came up to me and said "I'm going to the other party, I'll see you there" then left after smileing. At the other party, she made it a point that I saw her. When that party was over, we went to another party. On the way out we noticed it was raining heavily, so I offered her my sweat shirt. She took it and said, "ohh, your so sweet". I then asked her if we were going in one car or more than one, but durring this i noticed that she stood very close to me, giving me a very affectionate look. Anyway, the night went on until we both went home. This all happened on a sunday about two weeks ago. Well, I decided to call her a couple days later on tuesday. When I called her, the conversation was short and seemed awkward in my mind, we pretty much just chatted for a few minutes, but by then I thought the conversation was too awkward, and decided not to ask her out to dinner, which is the main reason I called, so I ended the conversation by saying, "I just wanted to see how your doing", she said" ohh, thanks", then I said "cool, see ya later" and hung up. I was also driving durring this conversation, so I was not totally focased on the call, which may have also made it seem awkward. That call was about 11 days ago, and I still want to ask her out to dinner, so my question is, would it be weird or awkward to call her after 11 days of not seeing or hearing from eachother? Its just a concern I've had for those days since the call. So what should I do? Ohh, thanks for reading if you did, I know its alot, I just thought alittle history would be beneficial in understanding the situation. Any responses are greatly appreciated. Thanks, Nick

I dont know dude, you've got to evaluate your situation. If you both had a good, strong friendship, give her a call. I would make the call very casual though, you don't want to come off too strong since you didn't get her number from her. Good luck