Brownbabie

Gee, you make me wanna check my yahoo 'scopes. Been doing that a lot lately, I think I need to leave it alone and attend church a little more. They are pretty good though.

I worked at a Holiday Inn. I am very lazy. I was only a drink (it wouldn't let me say *ocktail) waitress, I was too lazy to do food. It's hard keeping folks from getting wasted, but the money was cool. The better I looked, the more I made. Guys made good money where I was too, 'cuz there was a whole lot of middle aged ladies that paid 'em to just talk to them and pay them some attention. Middle age men rock, the tipped five ten bucks just for you to pour a beer and pay some attention to them too. Blue collar folks were much better than blue blood, or couples, unless they became your regulars. Hotel bars are cool. You get to network, and I did find a job in a ad agency from the owner of the agency that hung out in the bar. You also get to meet people relocating to the area since there jobs put them up until they find a place to live, so you get first dibs on lot of folks coming into the area. I usually brought home at least a hundred a night, and since they had a band usually, you are are at the party and getting paid to be the host. I didn't bartend, they made more. Did have some bad nights, for meaness I think my boss booked a polka band, I made 'nutin. Go for it and invest in a good pair of shoes.

Just do the best you can. Enjoy what you have, cherish their childhood and make it something that they will look back on later and say "Dad did his best, we were happy." Lots of kids don't have a picture perfect two parent household, but they grow up to be fine citizens anyhow. Find support groups in your area, try to attend events that discuss raising children alone, or look to the web for many ideas and solutions. Tailor this information to suit your needs. Be happy that you can walk away from a situation that was not meeting your needs. Realize that you deserve to enjoy life to a certain extent, even if it's just indulging in a hobby, finding a new one, or lending support to another person in a difficult situation. Make friends with others in your community both young and old and expose you kids to some good people so they will have opportunities to learn about other people. It takes time, but you can do it. Don't worry about being Mr. Mom, do the best you can. My mom raised me as a single mom, and as a girl without a father after age eleven, I grew up being a very independent lady. She allowed me enough freedom and the opportunity to travel as a young girl, the ability to go after my education and dreams and talent. And she was a poor country widow. Hope this helps. Hang in there, things get better.... I never heard let the universe drive the big car before, but I like it!

Just chill. It will happen eventually. It takes some people longer than others. For me it took a very long time, can u say YEARS....but it happened. Prior to that, I ran into a lot of wrong guys. When I think about all the time I spent chasing guys, now that I am older, I realize that I could have put some of that effort into getting myself in order, more education or money, or spent more time with relatives that are now gone and I miss 'em. Time spent running around in circles for 'nutin honey. I met my match about eight years ago, married 'em two years ago, and we are simply made for each other. And I met 'em two blocks from my house, and he lived about a thousand miles from me. Enjoy yourself, do things you really want to do, hang out with people that you enjoy, be yourself. The oldheads used to say there is a pot for every lid. Don't sweat finding your pot, or your your lid, whatever side of that equasion you might be. Running with every chick you see. Hmmmm, I never liked being called at chick, kinda made me feel like they couldn't appreciate a sho nuff lady anyho, and in my area lots of "chicks" have stuff they ain't got pills or needles 'fer, dude!