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I have this going on with a friend. It's been going on for a while without any problems. I think the trick is not abusing it, and doing it with someone you are not excessively attatched to. As someone said before, repetitive sex with a person WILL eventually lead to an emotional response. It CAN be done, but it requires that you both are VERY honest about your feelings and what you want from the beginning. Its no good starting it off thinking "I'll stop it if it doesnt go the way its supposed to" because that just CAN'T be done, specially with two people involved. It can be dangerous, but it can definitely be done. Who old are you? this is an issue that varies greatly with age and maturity. Cheers!

sex and handcraft, no problem with me whatsoever. In fact as someone before said, i think it feels better. Now about going down south, i dont think i'd have a problem doing it, but my gf wouldn't let me, so i can't say if having tried it i'd have been disguted, but in principle it doesnt pose a problem. Cheers!

Whoa dude, how i envy you. i'd never be able to do sth like that. Heck if u like it, u got nothing to lose! (well perhaps the possibility of a more subtle attempt later on) My reaction is the same as Brahman's. ARE YOU NUTS!!!??? but that's only because i'm a real chicken and not brave to try and do sth like that. And it sounds like a great (and very erotic) way to get sth started. go!

Its never a good idea to come out when you are not ready, but there's also never necessary to come out to EVERYONE. Also, I think before coming out u should sort out whether you are actually bi or lesbian. If you come out as bi and then turn out to be les or vice versa, people won't really take it seriously and tell you you are "confused". god how that one PISSES me the F**K off. Being bi, the way it is for me is that I would have a fling, and i am sexually attracted to both sexes. However for a long term relationship i would probably choose a woman. I however don't rule out the possibility of having a stable relationship with a man. See how you view men, and women, find out in what ways you are attracted to them and then come to a conclusion about your sexuality. Your parents don't need to know, and possibly dont want to know. Heck i've been outta the closet for 4 years now and my parents still don't know. don't stress about it. cheers!

I think the best way to come out of the closet is just to "slip" out of the closet. You don't need to go around with a t-shirt saying "I'm gay and i love it!" and wearing a gay flag as a cape, but you know, just don't hide it, don't shut up. If the topic comes up, mention it. I guarantee once a couple of people know, it'll spread like fire. In this day and age, there's gonna be very little reaction from the straight community, they are used to us by now, but this dramatically increases your chances of meeting someone. Not every gay/bi etc person is hard partying and stuff. Fine a lot us are, but i have plenty of gay friends who aren't exactly social animals. And one of them has a wonderful boyfriend. At a certain point lots of people start getting nervous about not having a boyfriend and stuff. Chaging the way you are (ie, start going out and drinking and all the stuff u don't really like doing) to find a boyfriend is a recipe for disaster, because the person you will find won't be what u're looking for. Just be patient, and you WILL find someone. after all, we ARE 10% of the popultion. not that tiny a proportion.

treat the **** out of urself!!! Go to tiffany's, and then go somewhere nice get some clothes to go with the new jewelry! go to a spa, get a massage, go get a new haircut (but this one's potentially dangerous as sometimes hairstylists get too "creative") Go get that cake u really like just after the spa when u feel best, and have dinner with some female friends (if u can get that working with so little time) to celebrate ur time away from that bastard and how much we men suck. U know in spanish there is this one popular saying that goes "much better alone than in bad company" Have an awesome day tomorrow oh and post pics of whatever u might buy! cheers!

Annie u never heard of a condom slippin' off? i sure don't wish it upon you, its a horroble experience... it happened to me and my gf (and NO, it didnt have ANYTHING to do with sizing!) and its really screwed up. In any case, if the condon slips inside you, you can either as u said poop it out or just pick it out. believe me, if your anus was stretched enough to take a penis, you can slide two fingers in and pick it out. As the others have said, i think this is completely loco. Whether u're gay or not, giving ur anal virginity to a guy u dont even know is just plain screwed up, at least from my point of view. And remember we're not talking just some innocent fun here, some innocent fun is when i did it with my friend whom i had known for a LONG while and i knew was perfectly clean (and even then i was taking a risk). you are talking potential death. but! if you're cool with it, and use protection or just dont care about dying (hell i know a bunch of people that dont, including meself, but i just dont fancy a slow death), then go right ahead. Penis is actually really great!

U know the pink triangle thing actually has very dark origins? That symbol was first used to set homosexuals aside in nazi concentration camps. Most homosexuals were executed. And here u have us today, using it as a means to publicize our homosexuality! people are weird. In any case yeah, a rainbow belt is pretty much of a givaway. Cheers!

dude u say u're concerned as if being bi was a bad thing (some people do think so, which i find a perfectly respectable attitude though). you are bisexual when you are attracted to people of both genders. That means u see a man and think "whoa he's cute, i wish i could get into his pants" and u see a woman and think "whoa she's cute, i wish i could get under her skirt". Watching porn gets ANYBODY aroused, its just the way humans work. if you wanna find out, dont check out straight porn, just check out pictures of naked women, or just women. If u don't know where to find them, PM me and i'll give you a hand. And about ur parents, relax, they neednt know... My father is a homophobic bastard and i've been out of the closet for about 4 years to the whole world except my family. They dont know, they dont need to know, and its all just smoother this way! one thing is realizing you are Bi, and a completely different one is publicizing it to the whole world. Cheers!

Narh, sticky hands aren't usually a problem when its your OWN computer... However once a female friend borrowed my laptop and she started yelling when she found a pube while typing out her theory of knowledge essay...

It depends on how its said, who says it, the tone of voice he uses, the situation... Lets just say that there IS a huge difference between calling someone gay and calling him a goddamn faggot, or a goddamn dyke, however gay can be used as an offensive word. However if its used in a derogative way against me i'll go off like a rocket against homophobes... Its not in the word, its how you use it.

I would say time has come for drastic action, and you are both in the same situation! She can't be sure whether u like her or not, and she doesn't have the balls to ask you, and you can't be sure whether she likes you or not, and u dont have the balls to ask her! its pretty obvious she's a les, just ask her out! u get turned down, well that sucks balls for you, but at least u'll know what's going on! Damn, too much "balls" in this post... must be becaue of the golf hehehehe

Whoa dude, I remember when i was coming out of the closet (I'm bi) the thing that got me ENRAGED (and still does) was people telling me either of the follwing: 1: That I was confused 2: That it was a phase 3: That i was lying and that it was just to get attention. Don't let ANYONE tell you whether u're confused or not, or tell you how things SHOULD be like. If your mom don't like the fact that u like other women, well tough luck for her! Believe me she'll eventually have to accept it, possibly after u start taking girls home... hehe. In any case, unless your mom isn't stopping you from being yourself or from doing stuff, ignore her. U've already told her, and she'll eventually come round. She has no choice anyway. About the LGBT group, It doesnt need to be a highly-pubicized association of any sort, just create your own! Start meeting people and people will pop up, and u can relate to them. Dude we LGBT make up 10% of the population. out of ten people u cross on the street, one of them is gay, you're BOUND to find some. Cheers!

lets see how long it takes a chick to pop up writin' about how lame men are for measuring their penis...

I fully agree with Ken. once the "in love" is gone and things start going downhill, and trust dissappears, there is very little you can do to salvage a relationship. I gather its your house, well suggest politely that she should leave. At 31 you are obviously working, well start hanging out with your co-workers! dont "bump into" their group, but u know, just start getting a bit more social, ask them if they mind you joining them for coffee or drinks at some point. If you don't really know many people you're probably shy, and that's gonna be a real problem. You're gonna have to overcome thy shyness in order to carry on. It can be done. you're probably feeling like sh¡t at the moment, but u'll see how everything starts getting brighter are u start knowing more people and u start enjoying life. cheers!