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It's supposed to be a turkey! haha the top of the L (|) is the beak and the ( _ ) is the waddle.

thanks for the response! i've seen a LOT of signs toward the positive. and some toward the negative as well. i just can't shake the feeling that there's something more there. this has been a roller coaster ride for the past year. i just need some closure.

what happened? anything?

Hi everybody! Next weekend I'm hanging out with a friend that I am head over heels for. We're renting some movies and getting some alcohol after we work-out at the gym. haha Anyhow I really want to bring up the topic of us being a couple, but I'm afraid to. Any movie suggestions? Any specific way to set the right mood? Anything to say? I'd appreciate any ideas! Also, how can I tell that it might be a good time to do something about it?

I agree Robowarrior... fear of rejection is probably a huge part of it. And also very true about masks. I just don't get why some people wear the "denial" mask. I just have seen a lot of this going on around me (friends, myself, etc.) lately. Crazy.

Why do some people deny love or show fear of loving someone just because of circumstances or certain situations? Why can't they admit it to themselves? For example, because of job situations, sexual orientation, other people, etc. etc...

That's great that you could bring the topic up to her! And I am someone that reads too much into things, so I would have caught that "partner" comment, too. haha But I think reading into things is always helpful! Who knows what she meant by that. Maybe you could joke about adopting kids with her sometime. I wish you the best of luck though! Please keep us posted! I know how hard it is to like someone and not know if they feel the same way...

That it does. haha But so does stalking... Every breath you take? haha

sorry to hear that she doesn't feel the same way. it's a good thing that you two are still friends though! btw, props on having the guts to tell her! unfortunately, freedom is right. i think the other way that you'll be able to get over her is by distancing yourself...OR...finding a significant other to get your mind off of her. i know the feeling of trying to get over someone when you see them all the time. it's pretty impossible. i wish there was something more insightful that i could tell you...

Hi everybody! I was wondering what your definition of a straight crush is. I've been seeing a lot about them (on other sites) and I'm not sure of the exact definition. If a "straight" woman has a crush on another woman, regardless of her sexuality, does that make her bi-curious? Or does it just mean she's that fascinated by this other woman, but has no interest in her sexually? How can you tell the difference between those two possibilities (if you were the person that was on the receiving end of the crush)? I hope that all made sense...I tried, really I did. haha

I'm sorry I know how it feels when things like that happen. Make sure you really don't want her in your life before you tell her to leave you alone. In my case, I care so much about her as my friend, I end up torturing myself by being around her. I just want her in my life in any way possible. People have also asked me, "do you think she's telling about about all these guys just to make you jealous, hoping you'll finally tell her?"

Hi! Welcome to the boards! I am in a situation just like yours, except mine has been in progress for a year now. haha I also told myself that I need to get over her by ignoring her. haha GOOD LUCK with that. I'd really like to talk to you in more detail about things...maybe we could help each other figure something out. If you want to, drop me your AIM screenname or something through a private message. Take care!

I have a friend that I feel is almost like a soulmate to me. We click so well. Things were very rocky between us this summer, but they have greatly improved. One small problem is she now has a boyfriend. I happened to find him online...I was looking for one of my friends with a similar name. I showed him to one of my friends (not a mutual friend). She then realized that she recognized him. It turns out that one of her friends has this guy on her friend list. So my friend's friend messaged him and asked about his current situation. If he was single or not. He said no but it's nothing serious. He flirts with her (they only talk online) like crazy. There's no doubt in my mind that he would cheat on her (my friend) in a minute. He really likes my other friend that he talks to online and tells her that quite often. The whole situation makes me SICK. I really want to tell her that he's a cheater and she needs to get rid of him before she gives him her heart, but at the same time I can't do that. If I were to tell her that I'm afraid she would resent me for it. Also, I feel like it's not my business because she never asked me to check him out for her. Does this make sense? I'm just at my rope's end. I don't know what to do. It kills me to see her smiling at him, holding onto him, liking him, and knowing that he has that little of respect for her. What should I do??? image removed image removed

I'm in a very similar position. I think it's hard because even though it is more socially acceptable to be gay or bi-sexual, we are still afraid of rejection from the people that we care about most. If you are still attracted to both men and women, don't try to cut off ties with men. I'm not saying date more than one person at a time or anything like that, but you could date both sexes on different occasions. You don't want to force yourself to be straight, but don't try to force yourself to only like women. In the end, worry only about making yourself happy. Because ultimately, you're the only one who matters. Hmm--- now if I could only take my own advice.

i guess i need to go into more detail... can someone love someone and not be able to place the feelings that they have for that person. for example, a kind of love they've never experienced before. they're in love with someone but they don't know how to realize that it's love. the reason i'm asking is because i am writing a story. my main character (a woman), let's call her A, falls in love with another character (also a woman), B. A doesn't want to come on too strong with B because she doesn't want to scare her off and she's not sure of B's feelings. B has done many things to show that she likes A for much more than a friend, but continues to date men, even though everyone can tell that they like each other. so my question is could B be in love with A and not realize it... not realize how to place her emotions and feelings. does that make sense yet? lol