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I do agree that there are a lot of people who oppose interracial dating but I'll tell you it not so the case in people ages 35 and younger. It's our parents and grandparents generation that have problems with it. Some in the 25-35 age group but not many. It's not a problem with the teens I can tell you. I read in either the Tribune or Times (in Chicago) that 65% of teens either have dated or would like to date someone outside of their race. That's a pretty high number considering less than 50 years ago interracial marriages were banned in some states. I say date whomever you want but be responsible and teach your children accordingly.

Nope very unofficial. I'm just looking at the way of the world and history. Each race and culture had their own beliefs and principals but through assmilation everyone is becoming more alike. I mean homogenous like all cultures are becoming like one. With a few exceptions, most societies on the planet are very similar. Think about how different are we really from the British, Irish, French etc. With each passing decade it seems all cultures are picking up on other beliefs and principals. But again this is just my random thoughts on the subject in terms why I believe God didn't mean for us to be separate.

Of course not. I just meant that I believe the reason God created different people in different continents and climates was for a reason. The reason in my opinion is that so people can one day come together, learn from another and create a new society. That being these great United States and slowing but surely Europe. I mean you don't get any more homogenous than the good ole' US of A!

Interesting...I've never gotten a sexual vibe from him.

Let me rephrase he calls me it seems every 30 days when he used to call me a couple times a day. How can that seem normal? He never wants to go anywhere anymore when I make recommendations before he used to jump to say yes before I even completed my sentence. Trust me women can tell when something is off. A month is enough time for you to know if you truly like someone.

I too am joing this club. But unlike the rest of you my pitiful self could even get the courage to tell him that I liked him. We had the strangest kind of relationship. We were co-workers/friends who went out to games, concerts, parties etc but our relationship was never established. Til this day couldn't tell you if we were friends or dating. It was never discussed. All my friends have told me that I've allowed the "window of opportunity pass". I think it's all crap because even though his actions may or maynot have indicated he was interested he should have said it somehow. But all my girlfriends claim I gave him the impression that I wasn't interested. (I won't bore you with all of the details, you can read it all of my post especially I believe my 1st and 2nd posts to get the jist) it breaks my heart to talk about if for too long. I haven't heard from him in a month (which considering how we used to communicate it's a big deal) He calls me every 30 days it seems when you used to call me a couple times of day even if it was to be silly. Plus he used to call me back immediately when I called now it's every couple of weeks. I've heard he might have met the girl of his dreams at a wedding he attended in either May or June. Which is funny but anyway. Plus his birthday is on Monday. The only reason why I haven't told him how I felt about him is because I didn't want to ruin the friendship but lately I'm beginning to realize there really isn't much of a friendship left to preserve so to speak. Don't get me wrong he's still sweet but he's just not my sweetie that I've know for almost a year. So guys tell me...on the off chance I happen to see him this weekend to celebrate his birthday (I wish)...should I tell him how I feel and be so bold as to offer him a birthday kiss. I might never get the chance again being that he no longer calls me to hang out like we used too. I can't believe it's been since April 22nd since we've hung out and we used to at least once every other week. Summer is almost over...oh...the plans we could have had. I'm trying to move on but ever time I meet anyone I like that's not my sweetie. Oh, God help me! I need perspective. In case my post sounds crazy I've known this guy for almost a year and things were great between us until about mid April.

I'll take the virtual chocolates since I have no business eating real ones, lol!

How cute that you are quoting Amy Grant!

I've tried that. But it doesn't matter I think he finally has moved on and has a girlfriend.

Well to be honest with you ShySoul if you lived in Chicago, I would definitely date you. At 22, you have more common sense than some of the guys in my age group. You have the right concept of what a woman is looking for and needs. Good luck! By the way...what changes in 3 days? As a female..I can honestly say for some strange reason women like men who treats them like &%$$. I for one can't stand bad boys. I truly like nice guys with a sense of adventure and whom are witty. Which trust me you can find in a "nice guy" I should Know. But unfortunately for me all I seem to meet and worst attract are bad boys who couldn't grasp the concept of treating a woman well if you handed them a detailed "how to" book.

As an African-American woman I can honestly say that there are mean African-Americans as well as Caucasian. Just because you were wronged by one group of people don't make them all bad. I've been treated badly by both if I were to feel that way..then I would basically hate people in general. In response to whom I believe is the orginal poster..I find it true that other nationalities do not approach African-American women, unfortunately from my experience unless they're fair-skinned or biracial. I can honestly say that for the most part I'm only approached by African-American men and I'm very friendly (even if we have the rep of being unapproachable)...so I have to assume that it's because they're simply not attracted. Although my heart (my male friend who I talk about all over this post) is Caucasian he's the only non African American male who has ever remotely seemed interested. God made us different for variety honey not because he felt we should only date our own. By stating that you are basically saying that God is racists and that would be blasphemist.

Once and for all anyone who cheats on someone is an idiot teen or not. Let's get back on topic... I'm still waiting on some pointers.

I'm fine for some reason I am no longer notified when people respond even though the boxes are checked.

No offense to your father but he's an idiot. I'm African-American and it makes me hot that in 2005 whether you live in the South or not that you would even think like that. God made people to live and roam the earth and to love whomever you want or he wouldn't put us in close proximity of one another. I used to hang out with this male friend who is white and we had the best time ever he didn't care that I was black and vice versa. Although people gave us stank looks. Actually...I was hoping our relationship would evolved into something but anywho. Tell your daddy to point out that verse to you and then email it to me so I can see how did he come up with than transcription.

No offense guys but guys are full of it when they say that. A lot of guys of will say they like that but if you do it it's another story. Plus it's a known fact that guys don't take girls who ask them out seriously. This ladies I find to be a very accurate. Don't believe see for yourself. Read the books, magazines, surveys, etc... Men don't marry women who makes the first move.