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Yep.. about 8 or so months.

I dunno man.. this girl really seemed like she liked me (read my previous posts). I don't think she would just completely reverse those feelings after she broke up w/ her bf. Maybe shes just overcome with her feelings for her x, and she doesnt want to talk to me because she has feelings for me too, or maybe she just doesnt want anyone liking her or wtvr. That I could understand. Ugh.. then again i am probably wrong. I still can't understand why she still isn't talking to me, it's been two months. I knew plenty of girls that were in the same perdicement as her, and they got over it after a few weeks, a month at most.

If you read any of my previous posts, you know my situation. Well... that girl still pretty much ignores me. I don't know why.. and whenever I ask her why.. she never gives me a straight answer. I asked her why she never answers her phone and she said "we can talk online". I also told her how i missed actually talking to her etc and she just says "lol theres nothing to talk about really" I mean.. COME ON She can't still be depressed over her breakup. It's as if this girl was told that i'm gay or something. I call her.. she NEVER answers her phone, I try and talk to her online.. and she STILL doesnt say anything besides "hi, nmu, bye", I try and talk to her after class and she just says hey, smiles, then quickly walks out of the room w/ her friends. She sits accross from me, and everytime I make eye contact with her she just looks away as quickly as possible. There is one thing though that might suggest she is still involved with her damn x: she still talks to the kid. She told me she went over his house on valentines day, I asked if they were gettin back to together, she said she might be. Anyway I don't think they are. I didn't give her anything on valentines day .. lol, I don't know why. So there you have it.. I'm stuck. I have no idea what to do. I can't just get over her, believe me, I have tried. Sadly enough.. I wil have to find someone better before I can get over someone like her

You see.. I don't really have enough information right now to make any decisions about his girl, so im just going to wait it out; talk to her occasionally, just to make sure she knows im there for her and i will always like her. However i am going to keep my options open, if i find someone i like better than her, then i'll forget about her. Here's the catch though: I've been trying to do that for the past 2 years.

again, thanks for the advice.. if you would like to know more about my story w/ this girl, read my earlier post "girl i like broke up w/ bf.. now im totally lost". That might clear some things up.

Ugh... its been 3 weeks since this girl broke up w/ her bf and she still does not want to talk to me, she hardly says anything to me online, doesnt seem to answer the phone, and doesn't really say anything to me in class (she transferred into one of my classes, she sits accross from me and talks w/ all her friends). She does seem happy however, but still makes herself unavailable. I talked to her once after class, she did keep direct eye contact w/ me but we talked for like 30 seconds then she had to go so we just went to class. Also today I asked her what she was doing and she told me she was talking to her x-bf. For like all of today she completely ignored me, and its really pissing me off. I keep thinking about it and its depressing me like crazy and im gettin all jealous, and I hate being depressed. Valentines day is this friday > .. should i give her flowers or something?? Or is it too early? If she's still upset I really want to make her feel better.. but what if shes not and shes ignoring me on purpose. Is that possible?

Ugh... its been 3 weeks and this girl still does not want to talk to me, she hardly says anything to me online, doesnt seem to answer the phone, and doesn't really say anything to me in class (she transferred into one of my classes, she sits accross from me and talks w/ all her friends). How long is she going to be like this

Thanks everyone.. i think i know wut to do now. Sorry about all the cussin and swearing, i'm not angry or anything, its just the way i talk.. i live in new york city

Ok, first off, here's some background info: I have liked this girl for the past 2 years. We first met in bio class where we sat together. We really didn't talk that much, however I still loved this girl's personality. A month or so into the semester her seat was changed and after that we really never talked. Later that year for some reason I was really depressed and wanted someone to be with, so I decided to send this girl a love letter in the mail. After she got that letter she emailed me telling me how flattered she is etc. I started talking to her on AIM but I didn't bother to ask her for her digits. So we were just friends for about a year and half only talking online occasionally. She knew I liked her but she had a bf and didn't show any interest in me at all, then again I really didn't make any effort to reach her since she had a bf. Now the fun starts. Just two months ago I really started liking her, and I finally asked her for her #. She was depressed because she was overloaded w/ school work, and although I still didn't call her (lol), I managed to cheer her up online. She kept saying how ugly she was, I kept telling her she's the most beautiful thing I have ever seen in my life. I told her I'm there for her and I'll help her with any of her school work or wtvr. We started talking allot, and she actually started IMing as soon as she signed on (this girl plays hard to get to the fukin extreme bro, her IMing me first is like a miracle). We took those online tests (link removed link removed) together, talked about our problems, and talked about school and shit. She told me how I always make her feel good and everything. Keep in mind she had a bf that she had been going out w/ for the past 8 months this whole time. Aight.. after that I put up my webcam and let her and her friend watch me on it. They loved me hehe. The next day I called her and we talked for about 3-4 hours. We talked like 3 more times that month for about 1-2hrs each time. We really loved talking with each other, we made each other laugh and we learned allot about each other. Once I asked her if she thought I was attractive, and she said she couldn't say because she didn't see me up close (she's right, we never really talked in person) and she said she has to see me "in like good clothes" . She did however say that her friend that watched my webcam thought I was really cute . Now I was like glad I made her happy and that she sorta liked me and shit, but still she had a bf. I could not wait until she got rid of that preppy, stuttering, ugly, braindead pretentious (censored). The mere thought of her kissing that skumbag made me put some very unwanted holes in my walls. You can only imagine what happened when my thoughts went beyond them kissing.. ughhhhhh... Anyway.. 3 weeks ago it finally happened.. skumbag and the girl broke up. She never told me about it, I found out a week after it happened; I asked her a question where I referred to skumbag and she told me 'he aint my bf anymore'. After that, she totally broke down. She either was never home or never answered her phone (she has caller id but I tried blocking it and I called from friends houses but she still never answered). Online her vocabulary was limited to "hey, nmu, yah, kewl, o0o, awe, bye". I completely (censored) up , I bothered her too much, I kept asking her how she is, and she kept saying she's fine when obviously she isn't, so I kept her asking her how she was every day and got the same response. I told her I really want to make her feel better and that I'm there for her, she just said "thanx". She completely (censored) ignores me now. I know that girls get like this, but why is she ignoring me out of all people??? I talked to her the other day when she seemed to be in a good mood (yah i know you cant tell someone's mood online), and joked about driving to her house and ringing her bell. She said "lol y?". I told her I was kidding, but then of course I couldn't help but ask her why not. She said "cause". I said "cause wat..." she said "this isn't to be mean or anything but im just not interested". Wow.. that really hurt.. I almost flipped. I just told her "that was NOT cool" she said "it wasn't to be mean or anything" then I said "well it sure as (censored) hell was", she just said she was sorry and the convo ended. Yah, I'm an impatient moron, eh.. make that idiot. I kept telling that I'm going to leave her alone but of course I didn't. She told me shit was going on, so naturally I couldn't resist talking to her because I didn't know what was going on w/ her and I really wanted to help her w/ her problems and I wanted to make her feel better. 2 days ago my friend said he saw her crying in the halls in school. Then I said another stupid thing. I told her I felt bad for her. I'm a (censored) moron. She said 'thanx but please I don't need pity' etc. etc... and now here I am today. I don't know what is going on and I don't know what to do. Sadly, I have never been in this situation before, so I am completely lost.