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Can anyone tell me if there are sexual positions that women like better than others, positions that help a women climax or possibly even ejaculate? My wife and I tried a position last night that I have been wanting to try for a while, she has told me that she really enjoyed it and how fun it was. She also came pretty quick, which was odd because she thought it would take a while and may even possibly hurt her in that position. Anyone that can help out, I would appreciate it.

Is it possible to attain a multiple orgasm from masterbating? I have had them a couple of times before, during intercourse or oral sex from my wife but dont know how to have them again? Can I give myself one? Is there something that I can do in order to help make this happen? Anyone who can help, speak up! Thank you, I appreciate it.

I agree with you....it could be a test, maybe not...but its definitely not worth it. As for finding someone, thats my concern, even if I did agree to do it....I consider myself very picky and clean, I am not willing to just pluck one from the crowd to do this with (even if I could find someone willing). As for her, I can see how you feel it is wishy washy....but she is not like that. I think her feeling is that, she cannot provide it and she wants me to experience it. With that said, she is willing to put her feelings about it on the back burner for me to try it once. Now, keep in mind, its not priority for me....its just like alot of other things, if you havent tried your just curious what its like. But, I hardly require it....

OBVIOUSLY....you dont know. I have never asked her to do it, in fact, when we dated prior to her surgeries she tried to get me to do it and I declined. I did not want to do something that would be uncomfortable for her, I want us to both enjoy sex and based on her past I knew it would hurt her. But, now... Because she cant do it, she IS insecure. You are right. I could have done it in the past with her or other women and didnt, so obviously its not an issue with me. She doesnt realize that, no matter what I say, she is insecure because she cannot offer it....wether we would do it or not.

Yeah, I would have to agree with you guys, I dont think its worth it. I mean, like I said, it wasnt even a priority for me when I was dating years ago. I just think its more of an insecurity for her now.... I am sorry if I came accross rude to anyone, I just want everyone to understand where I am coming from. I dont sit around and try to make her feel bad about herself, asking her to let me do it or whatever the case may be. It was just something that has been brought up several times in the past 4-5years and I was curious what outside people thought about the topic. Thanks for your help.

I agree, part of being in a healty relationship is making your partner feel good. I AM NOT DEMEANING ANYONE. What you dont understand is that I am not pursueing this, your making it seem like I am pestering her to let me try it with someone and that is not the case at all. I am just curious what could happen? Why she mentions it? If I am right by thinking it could hurt us? etc.

Well, like I said, I knew when we were going out and engaged that she had to be operated on. With that said, I knew that anal sex was not an option for us. However, she has explained on more than one occasion that she would like for me to experience it. She knows I have never had it and its not a priority for me (if it was, I wouldnt be here), its just a curiosity because I have never done it. I definitely dont lose sleep over it. I think from her standpoint, its an insecurity. I think that she cannot offer it, so the only way for me to experience it is if I do it with someone else. Even if I was selfish and wanted to do this, I think it would do nothing but cause problems down the road?

I have a question, my wife has a medical condition that prevents her from having anal sex. I have never experienced anal sex before and I knew that her condition would prevent us from experiencing it together once she had her operation. We have been married since 1999 and this has NEVER been an issue for me, however, my wife is insecure about it. She feels (she told me this) like less of a woman and wife because she cannot offer this option to me and allow us to experience it. Here is my question... It is not a priority for me to have anal sex, since I have never tried it, I dont know what its like. However, my wife has mentioned on more than one occasion, that she would consider allowing me to try it with an outside woman to experience it one time. Wouldnt this cause more problems than it is worth? Like I said, its not a priority, I would by lying if I said I had not thought about it though....but its definitely not a priority, its more out of curiosity as to what it feels like. Anyway, to me it seems like it cause more problems than its worth, but at the same time, it seems like everyone could be involved and it could be fun? I guess I am just not really convinced on the idea though.... Any help would be appreciated. Thanks.

I am curious to know how many women have sent flowers to THEMSELVES, to try and get attention from their husband or boyfriend? From what I hear, this is somewhat common, but I dont understand it. It seems like if a man saw that his wife or girlfriend received flowers saying how beautiful she was but had no name as to who sent them, it would just upset him and make things worse with the couple. Has anyone done this? Why did you do it? What happened or what did you want to happen from it? Thanks!!

When I found out about my wife cheating on me and confronted her, I wanted to hear ever little detail about what happen, her feelings, why she did it, what she did, etc. I thought this would help me in understanding her, but now I have more uncertainties than I did prior. I dont understand alot of what she did and how she acted. I dont understand why she lied to me when I brought it out? I dont understand how she could not consider my feelings? I dont understand why she did not protect herself or us? I have many things that I am hung up on, mostly because I believe I dont understand, which is preventing me from moving on. Would you want to know the details? If so, how do you try and understand the mindset of your partner? How do you let go and move on???

Yes, I would have to agree, it was the most amazing feeling....but it only happened during oral sex. I have never had it happen during intercourse. The few times that it happened, she was giving me oral and I came....then relaxed for a moment and then exploded. It was unreal. We have tried a number of things but dont know what to do in order to get that to happen again? I have also heard of men getting these from masterbating? Is that possible? Has anyone heard of this?

I am interested in knowing if there are any tips on how a man can achieve a multiple orgasm from a woman, either during sex or oral sex?? My wife has given me two multiple orgasms before and we cannot figure out how she did it?? Anyone have any tips or pointers?

So, the question is.... How do I get past how I see her NOW? It is very difficult for me, obviously I thought she would never hurt me, but now I know she is capable of much more. How do I get past the resentment I have towards her for not saving herself for me, physically and emotionally? How do I see her like I once did?

I am interested in everyones opinion, but I would like womens opinion on this too. Yesterday I posted my story, I am interested in knowing if anyone thinks that things can get better after infidelity has occurred or if there is no hope for things to get back to where they were before it occurred. My wife insists that NOW is our chance to start over, when I insist that I dont look at her the same since I found out about what she is capable of. She is telling me that things can and will get even better than they were before, when I am worried that I am just going to waste more time and have resentment towards her for the things that she has done in our relationship. PLEASE help, read my other postings and lend advice.... WOMEN, I am interested in knowing what you think after reading my story and what my wife has said.

I guess even though I knew what happened....I wanted to believe she didnt do that to me and to us. Yes, sexually, I have a hard time with her....I am not into it like I used to be with her because I find myself thinking about what she shared with another man.