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I disagree with talking to her... simply because if she is even slightly interested in you, it could cause problems with her current relationship. If it were me, I would talk to her about your feelings without telling her that they are for her. i def. to agree with talking to someone about your feelings. Sometimes it is easier to clarify and really analyze your feelings with another perosn present.

I understand completely. People continually tell me that im stupid for being with my girlfriend, but you have to do what is right for you. Whatever that is. Time and money cannot touch the happiness and joy love can bring... that is my opinion. Do what you feel is right and no matter what happens, youll know that you followed your heart.

Oh wow.. where do i start? Ok. here it goes. I was iwth my girlfriend once before for 9 to 10 months; we didnt have agreat relationship. i had alot of things that I relied on her too much, and took my emotions out on her. All in all, we ended up breaking up at a very unexpected time. Throughout the six weeks that we werent together; she was rude to me when we talked. We talked and decided to try again, and things are much better. Basically, the reason for this post is b/c I feel so lost right now. Not just in my relationship with her, but in my life period. I love her and want to be iwth her more than anything, but Im so scared to get hurt so bad again that I find myself holding back... protecting myself. i just couldnt take another heartache like that... All the things that Ive alwasy cared about.. i dont anymore. My passion for softball has ALWAYS been there.. since i was like 5, but I dont even want to play anymore. I dread practice everyday, but I cant quit because it is what Im suppose to do. I cant talk to anyone about all of the things going on inside me bc no one understnads... no one can know. People talk to damn much where I live... I dont trust people much. How do I find myself again? How do i care again? About softball... about school.. about life... dont get me wrong I dont want to die.. i just want to feel something besides emptiness. And with my girl... I know that she loves me and doesnt want to hurt me... how can i completley trust her again to give her my whole heart... we talked about it a couple weeks ago.. but idk... what do words really mean? Do they mean anything at all? THink of this quote: "In every truth there is an ounce of a lie." Is that true? Do we ever know who ppl really are? Do we ever actually know ANYTHING, or do we just think we know? I just.. I just want to feel again... i want to be happy... I want to not question everything about my life anymore. ive never been that type of person but lately I find myself crying and wondering what the heck im doing... Sorry if this is confusing and random.. i have so much going on inside my head right now.. i cant even sort them.

I have never been in a situation like yours, but just a thought. Maybe she doesnt want to be more intimate wtih you b/c she does care so much. You said that she has had many sexual relations with guys, but nothing has ever come from them. And She told you she wanted to wait bc it would mess things up. And from what you say.. that is all she knows.. is the mess up. I could be totally off base, but if i loved someone with all of me, I would do anyting to avoid prior mistakes. I know it must be VERY frustrating to not have that intimacy, but you waited 30 years... whats a little longer to find out what is gonit on inside her head. You def. need to talk about it though, even if you have to make her.

Its so hard.. bc we both still love each other... but... its just too complicated... and we've been together... like friends first and then more for so long that... idk what to do... my hometown is really small.. not much to do.. and my parents are so strict, i cant do much anyways.. except homework.. but i cant even concentrate to do that.

My girl and me broke up this weekend. Dont want to share.. anywyas... I cant stop thinking about her. Everything reminds me of her... and when i finally escape my thoughts for a minute... someone asks about her or something... it never fails. I need to stop thinking about her... Any advice... Thanks

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For the past two months are so, Ive had blood in my discahrge and stuff when im not anywhere close to being on my period. Is this a serious problem? If so, what could it possibly be?

The only way to stop lying is to stop seeing/talking to each other. If you are in contact behind your parents backs... somehow you will be lying.

Ok so my g/f and i dont get to spend much time together... she just started going to another school and we will see each other even less. Anywyas... so today i had planned on going to this skating and break dancing thing that was happeneing... i told her that i really wanted to go yesterday... she siad maybe bc she didnt know if her parents would let her. And i cant go without her bc my other friends would all be partying. So today she gets out of babysitting at 615... it starts at 7. She says maybe, bc shes really tired. At exactly 7 after ive already done my hair, makeup, and dressed up... she calls me while shes in the shower to tell me that she is too tired to go. Am I a punk for being mad? I mean... she knew that i really wanted to go... and she knows i wont go with anyone else. Also.. last weekend... i came home from a tourney that i played alot of games... i was dog tired... but i went to see her. Yeah... i was tried and slow... but the point was i went to see her. Someimtes i just feel that i put her before everything else and its not always returned. Dont get me wrong... shes gotten into a lot of trouble for talking to me and i hate that although there is no way that i can change it. idk i just needed to vent and know if im just being a punk and need to get over it. P.s> when i tried to call her back about 30 mins. later... she didnt answer... not that surprising... often she doesnt answer if i call when she is at home.

If we attend the same college, her parents will refuse to help her at all! I do not know if we will be close... she never wants to talk about college. She just wants to focus on now... but I need to know about the future; however, I leave it alone until she is ready to talk... which isnt anytime soon i dont think. Beinbg away from her is a big deal to me bc i love her so much and dont want to lose her.

I am senior. I am trying to decide a collge to go to, whether to play softball, and if my girlfriend and I will stay together. She is very scared about the future and tries to avoid it at all costs... i, on the other hand, am constantly hounded about colleges by my parents. i do not know how to live in the present. I was always raised to prepare for the future. This is my senior year.. im suppose to be enjoying myself; however, so far, its been horrible. I dont know what to do aobut any of these things. I have no one to talk to, bc i dont want to worry my g/f with it bc she has enough problems at home. It wouldnt be a burden to her... but I just dont want her to worry about me not being there or something. The few times I have attempted to talk to others about my situation, they tell me that we prolly wont stay together and the age old saying, "If it was meant to be theyll come back..." blah blah blah. Im told i can survive without her... but I DONT WANT TO. I dont even want to TRY living without her. Is that so wrong? Sorry... im just venting... Im done now... anywyas... how do you live in the moment and prepare for the future at the same time when everyone around you tells you that it cant/prolly wont happen?

So do you think its possible to be in love with a girl, but not actually be a lesbian or bi? Just curious... I have these same feelings also. I am very much into my girlfriend and occasionally look at other girls however have only been seriously attracted to one other girl besides my girlfriend. At the same time, I sometimes check out guys too. I dont know who I see myself with down the road... i hope with my g/f now... and if not, then I have no clue. Is that bad?

SarCareBear, I can relate to your feelings. I felt the same about my current girlfriend. I liked her for a year or so before I ever got the nerve to tell her how I truly felt. I wasted 10 months of that time on a guy I was trying to convince myself I loved so because it was "right" top be with him. The only reason I told her was because of a rumor about us. I wouldnt have had the guts to tell her on my own. If you do... I think thats great. Like someone else said, if you decide to tell her... stress that you just want her to know the truth because you are such good friends. I dont think she will put you out of her life completely at least not forever, unless she is totally against homosexuality and maybe not even then. You must assess if it is worth that chance though. Good luck, sorry I wasnt much hope and I wish you the best. PM me if you ever need to talk. Luna

I guess so. I just write when it comes to me.