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  1. damn its hard since i told him i didnt save it when he blamed me for spying
  2. thank you for your responce.. i really did trust him and even when it happened when he said no its not true and i believed him.. then i read the message again and it clearly says he is cheating i need to get him to tell me but im not a strong person.
  3. hello everyone cant believe im creating this topic and cant believe im in this situation, but unfortunately i am. the story is long but ill try to tell in short. i have been in a long distance relationship with my bf.. for years... he has been visiting me (i cant visit cause of visa problems). everything seemed fine. he didnt seem to be the one who could cheat and when he heard about ppl like that hed say it sick and disgusting. now he is visiting me again... the story is.. he is living with his ex.. who as he says wasnt serious even, just something quick. he is living with her to save money cause she as a friend lets him pay less rent, because at the moment there are financial issues. i have been trusting him for the whole time, 100%. there were signs.. ex would act weird when i called there, now she is calling here while he is here, he goes to talk to another room to hide from me, saying its cause he is uncomfortable to talk to us both. he kept making excuses on the phone to her about me, and he says its cause he doesnt need problems with her cause she helps him around there and when i ask why she acts like that (like his partner) he says he doesnt know, cause she is a woman. sure i believed this all too. yesterday after he checked his emails i spied, i clicked back and read her 2 emails. i was stunned. she mentions me asking him to tell the truth, and the line she wrote made me sick. she said something like... we make love and it means alot to me cause i love u, but is it just sex to u or u love me too?... i was shocked and sick and he came into the room and i asked if he has had sex with her and he says no.. i asked a few times as well as before, he says no he has not cheated on me. and said i shouldnt read other ppls emails cause i didnt get it right, cause it was about a different things and i cant follow the story since i dont know what was said by him in previous emails and by her.. mind u i believed all this crap. he became cold to me and blamed me for spying. closer to the end of the day i had another read of the email.. and the line about sex was present time. it wasnt said in the past (they used to date, but over 4 yrs ago), he explained like it was about past, but its damn present. i tried talking to him more, but he doesnt talk, he gets annoyed and tells me to go away and says he has answered (he didnt cheat) please need help, can someone give me tips on how to get the truth out of him, maybe some psycological way or anything. i want to know the truth. i want to add, the day before we talked and made plans for the future again, he sounds like he does love me and wants a family with me, but now when i read that i feel disgusted and cant believe he has been cheating. please help
  4. hello everyone in an age gap. I came accross this web site, it seems good - link removed good luck to everyone.
  5. well i wasnt sure to post or not to post so bear with me and my babbling. Well lately i seem to go crazy and there are reasons. The reasons are, uncertain future, not being able to be with my bf because its a long distance relationship (we have plans but they are so hard and crazy cause of that so its so stressful), so i live alone which is hard too, also school is hard, also i depend on someone who can control my life, so when i look into the future it just stresses me and i dont know where i will be, i know what i want, i want to be with my partner and dont want to be controled by those i depend on and live with them which they can make me do that. Well i want to learn to take things easy, i understand everyone has problems in life, so i would like some inspiration or something. Also all this stress and depression really turned off any motivation in me, so i need an advice about how to get motivated too. I just feel like i have no energy and i would like to learn to fight for myself, my life and get what i want to have.
  6. hey JStone, the best thing you can do is do some tests at the doctors, because there can and can not be any morning sickness and the same about home tests, they dont give you a 100% answer
  7. la la la.. i have said what i think and i know i am right, again, because the person asked about pregnancy, not about relationships and life problems. so i am out of this thread. And i hope she has a healthy baby and a happy family.
  8. Dako, there is nothing to disagree about, since the posters problem was "how to get pregnant" or "am i pregnant" and not "is it ok for me to get pregnant at my age with my bf who might leave me the same how any partner can leave you at any age". You said you just all asked details, but no, asking details would be "how light was the line on the test?" or "what color was it?", not "how much do you earn?"
  9. no, i am fine. yes i believe its because you care, but really it just sounds judgmental and mean, so maybe think about what you write when you care so much. And, again, you can care about those who ASK for it, this girl asked a question about PREGNANCY, she didnt say a word about her relationship, but you all managed to ask all sort of questions, even how much they earn, gee why the heck is that your business? She is old enough to make her own decisions, and she is not THAT young for a baby. Its a perfect age, having a baby is hapiness, not the end of your life. Many friends of my sister, who is now 28, got married and had babies early after finishing universitys, and now they are all happy, still married, and live normal lives. I have a friend my age, 23, she had her first baby at 19, cause she wanted to, and now a year ago she had another baby, and she is very happy with her husband, and i wish i could have the same. But reading your replies people made me sick, i wont be surprices if this girl doesnt post again Have a good day ALL
  10. wow why are you people so judgmental? she just said she wants to get pregnant and nothing about her relationship. Why question her with so many personal questions? its non of your business! the only problem she described is that she has been trying to get pregnant. if you people have some issues or problems, or some certain thoughts - its all yours! doesnt mean other people must be like you. She is old enough and if she wants a baby then she wants a baby!
  11. i also wonder how old he is.... such a childish behaviour
  12. i was lazy to read but im glad i did cause its a good story
  13. oh my god, his behaviour is just horrible! i am shocked. sounds like he never wanted children, an immature jerk, sorry.
  14. hi theantibarbie23 i just want to offer my (hugs) and say i hope things work out for you for the best. What your partner is doing to you is heartbreaking. I dont know your story, but if he loves you then the way he is acting is just immature and i dont understand that. My bf has a lot of minues, but he really wants a child with me and would be very happy anytime it happens (and we are not settled down yet and in an ldr), and reading some stories makes me realise that this plus he has means alot to me. take care and i hope your child is healthy and loved.
  15. yes now your question is completely different different ppl have different opinions about that one. some say that to love and to be in love are 2 different things, that "to love" you can your family and friends, but be "in love" with you partner, some say its all one same thing
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