GermanAngel

I am sorry to hear about your recent breakup. All I can do is give my best advice I hope I could give, considering the lack of imformation that was presented;which I cannot blame you its hard to type it all especially when you are so upset and confused and you just want people to see the point./ Well first of all you have every right to know and find out what the reason was she broke up with you. You have the right to confront her on the phone or whatever and ask her that question. And it is her respocibilty to let you know.. because then it wouldn't be quite fair. That is all I can really say for right now. That is all you can ask and see to find out hopefully from there on you two can discuss some hot issues. I wish you the best luck and I hoped I helped out a little.

Anyways this is mainly a question towards woman.. and of course males if they know anything about my situation. It has to do with pregnancy. My question to this is.. I am wondering if I am and how to find out. I have been sick with headaches,stomache aches and being constantly tired. I have also vomit a few times aswell. Anyways I have started all of this the week before my period and aswell after.. and I have had a full cycle of my period. I am just wondering if I am.. because my understanding you can still be even with a period.. but even when you had a full 5 day cycle of it? Does anything kow about my situation... and how do I find out if I am or not.. considering all pregnancy test are prior to 4 days before starting your period or when your period is late. So I really have no clue if I am or not.. can anyone help

Oh my god, I am so sorry to hear your situation.. and I thought that what I was going through was hard, after finding out the guy I loved and gave my everything to ..was seeing someone behind my back and sleeping with her everyday before coming to me and then I guess we slept together. And he at the end..- chooses that girl. There is only one thing you are able to do.. which is file for child support.. get it and then leave him. There is nothing you can do which will make him come back even though I know deep inside that is what you want./ You will have to move on .. you can't continue to keep on hurting yourself by putting yourself in thoes types of situation on trying to talk to him. It is clear he has choosen another life and you will have to let him be and have to live with your daughter and try to be the best mother you can be to her. Don't let her get caught up into all of this.. that can ruin a child's mind. It is going to be the most hardest thing in life you will ever have to be face with and do. And you won't get over it for awhile.. but by counseling it might go faster. I am sorry to hear that. Try to move on .. and try to go out occupy your mind because nothing you will do will change his mind and have him come back.. it is clear everytime he did he went back to his g/f. Divorce him at the end as well and go on with your life. Try to find the good things in everything and forget him. Don't keep on hurting yourself by comfronting him and always trying to see him to talk or resolve it won't change nothing,. It didn't with me either.. luckly we are no married but still. I wish the best for you.. May God guide you to right

Good Luck, lets u know what happens... hopefully all went well

I agree already with what has been already presented as an answer to your problem. Indeed you should talk to him.. and tell him that you still care for him. Because if you do not.. you will live a bit in regrett wondering.. what if I asked him or told him how I felt? .. maybe he would be with me?.. This way you will receive a clear answer from him. And find out if it is worth trying anymore once he gives you his answer. If he still is unsure and preffers to be broken up... then all you can do is pick up your broken heart, be his friend be their for him and try to move on .. even if it is hard. Good Luck!!!

Hmm well sounds like what you are going is what I have been going through this past month. I really can't share any advice.., then first trust him.. and maybe let it go this time.. by adding a few words of your own to this whole mess... and if you don't hear from anyone els about him cheating on you besides the one person .. then maybe it was all some big missunderstanding ..yet if you happen to hear it from more than one person .. I would maybe consider cutting the ropes.. because even if you do love him as much as you say.. it is only going to make you suffer out of this relationship and make you comtemplate about him cheating on you and doing something he is not suppose to when he is not around you. I hoped I helped... All I can say I know what you are feeling and going through because I am going through it right now. If you visit my webpage ..which thelink is on my profile and read through some of my entries you will discover how it all made me miserable by just holding on.. when everyone was telling me my guy was cheating on me. Good luck

Well what's the matter? Sounds to me that you like her.. so why not give it a shot and call her. See what is up. See if you can hang out with her one time with her. Nothing wrong with doing that. You can still be cool outside of school.. so why not give her a call and hang out with her. That is the only way you can answer you question to wether ask her the big question..but first you are going to have to hang out and then after that a bit more before saying anything.. but it looks like you know what you want .. so go for it

From reading what you have been going throught.. that is alot to deal with, especially at your age it's alot to process and accept all at once. unfortunately I am unable to give you advice that would ease your depression. You are going to be depresst for a long time considering you lost 3 people you loved and a b/f that decided to be with someone els when you needed him. My advice to you my dear is to go to councling. You are probably reading and shaking your head but trust me ..you are going to need to go to a counclor. I did when my father died last year ..it helped out alot.. Unless you are planning to keep on gathering help over here. It's alot you are feeling .. its alot you are dealing with. First of all get rid of your b/f-your ex or whom ever he is. Get rid of him.. don't waist your time on him.. all you are going to do is get worked up about it if you continue to stay with him. Trust me I would know! Experiencing guys like that. Things are not going to be like they used to. With him so there is no point.. you can't change him and the way he is.. there is no point on dealing with him any longer. To overcome your great depression you must try to keep yourself occupied. Get a job work.. hang out with friends.. so that way the loss of 3 people isn't so great and intense as they are now. About your sleeping problem that you might want to get check out by a doctor.. its common and normal to experience things like that after a great trauma. They will help you and get you back to where you can sleep. I hoped I helped at least a little. ~May you get back on track~ Life will get better, things will get better its all a matter of time. Wethere to a year or 3 years.. you can do it.

I like that poem..!!

Hate to say this, but you are going to still have to give her .. "Time" and "Space" she needs. She is obviously not ready yet for a relationship and not ready for you. If she is then she will be the one to come to you, she will be the one to call you. All you can do is wait or move on for your final answer about this. It's clear she needs her time.. and even seeing her last night and only exchanging few words does not change the situation. It won't be easy. And With V-day coming up.. horrible day for people who are single won't be an easy day to survive.. but I have done it.. and so have many others. You can maybe be sweet and send her something with a card attached stating that you miss her.. maybe that would work and make her feel special. Other than that give her time and try to move on. If this was ment to be.. then things will work out.

I agree, I do.. that was a very interesting and strong point you have put accross. Some things I have to admitt never thought of.

Reading all of this.. I am not quite sure what to say, than like you mentioned is leave him... I obviously see that you are giving it your all and doing everything he wants because you love him and you want to give him everything because you love him. Yet, it is clear to see that he just comes around when he wants something and leaves whenever he feels like it. And that is not the way to be, that is not a relationship.. especially when he chooses always to avoid you for a while before coming back to you. My advice to you- is that you have no choice but to leave him. It's all you can do, because it isn't fair for you to keep up the things you are doing and to stand and wait for him all the time!! That's messed up ) I am sure he feels something for you.. but it probably isn't the same on to what you feel towards him. Most of what he says is crap just to keep you to him. Trust me he is not your "soul" mate if he was.. things would certainly not be like this or even close to this situation you are going through. Love is not ment to hurt and bring you down. We all go through a hard relationship where we become blinded and believe the partner we are with is our destined soul mate, but usually at the end they are not, making it hard for us to leave them because we are so eager to love.Sure it was nice while it lasted .. but its obvious and the picture is clear that he isn't for you. You need to leave him, and for once maybe ignore him for a change. Doing this will not be easy trust me, I know from loving someone that I once thought was the one for me. (And I gave him everything) but he obviously isn't to considerit of your feelings because he always picks up and leaves .. comes back .. says the things he needs to and he is back in game. Leave him, or els you will get hurt even worst and be very unhappy. It won't be easy.. it might take a very long time to finally get over him, but once you do.. you will view world with another set of eyes... take from what you have experience with him as a life lesson.. and soon you eill be able to date other men that one day you will find to love just like you did him... if not even more. It sounds like you can never love another one like him, but you will.. just don't be in a rush of things.. take things slow enjoy life and don't ever have a man bring you down .. and make you his dog that constantly waits around for him and obiedently do everything for him.

I know exactly where you are coming from! I have never been able to trust a guy myself considering so many of my guy friends have chated on their girlfriends or done something they should not have. Or vice-versa my girl friends and sisters have had trouble with men. So it always made me a bit uneasy abuut a guy .. and trusting them. recently however, I have been with someone whom I have started to trust and the next thing I know I am finding out he is cheating on me. Can you believe it I finally find a guy I trust and he cheats on me. . I am not saying that what is going on with you is the same, but what I am trying to say is that maybe you want to take it consideration to speak to him. If he is worth it.. and he loves you then he will know where you are coming from and he won't freak out and get upset. Just make it a point that you kinda feel a bit insecure not that you don't trust him. Don't say that because then you will be asking for a fight. Just ask him about the girl in a nice manner don't nagg him and see what comes from that. I hoped I helped and didn't scare you with my story. I am sure it's nothing the same.. just ask him.. be cool about it.. and if he freaks out then you can rethink about your trust and all. And he could be playing you[/i]

I am honestly very sorry to hear about your terrible break-up. Spending 5 years of your life with someone.. is a long time. It is a shame that she was never faithful or true to you and to think that she mostly kept leading you on makes it even worst. All I can state and give you as advice is to let her go. That is all you can do is just let her go.. it will be a long time till you fully recover from it all, because right now you are looking at love and seeing that it is bad. Trust me .. "true" love does not hurt. And "true" Love is not ment to hurt or bring you down. "true" love is suppose to make you happy and the outcome will not be like this one. Take what happened to you as a life experience. Take what you have been through and going through as a life lesson. That nextime you do finally date again you will be more careful in choosing your partner. I know you are probably thinking that you never want to fall in love again or be with someone because you have seen all the bad sighns and things from it, but trust me it will be awhile but you will overcome that depression stage believe me all of us do .. it is just a matter of time. Keep your faith up and don't let hope fall down. She is not worth all of this.. and Believe me she will get what is coming to her. Everyone gets what they deserve !!!!! I hoped I help... If you go to my webpage you can read about some of my experiences and drama I am going through. You are not alone!!

She is obvious confused, and does not know what exactly she wants now in her life. And at the moment she probably feels best to keep you out of her drama, even if you are willing to stay by her side. Right now all you can do is stay by her side as a friend at a time like this. It is sweet that you love her but even if it seems like a very difficult task you need to give her space and be that friend for her. And I am sure that once everything is over.. you guys might come back together or she might want to leave it. Either way she will know what she wants.