Rozanne

Best be safe and get the morning after pill - works for up to 72 hours afterwards but most effective in first 36 hours. x x x

Hey Jitrenda, The exact same thing happened with me and my best gal pal when we moved in together. We went from being inseperable to having screaming matches daily. Sometimes living with your friends isn't the best idea. Sitting down and talking about it is always a good idea but if things have gone beyond that then it's probably best just to get yourself out of the situation ASAP. Things do get better though. When you stop living together you'll find that your friendship will heal and that you both forget all the bad times. x x x

If you really want straight hair then use these GHD straightners- or whatever your equivalent is in the US ( Hai Stik or Kodo I believe) hair-care.co.uk/Cats/GHD.html They do work absolute wonders and they have special mini straightners for men oe ladies with short hair. Pricey but worth it!

I am a lawyer in Scotland. I don't know what the law is where you are but in Scotland, and most common law jurisdictions, where a marriage has not been consumated it is voidable - this means that there never was any marriage and thereforeeee no divorce is necessary. I'm also not sure how this applies to same-sex marriages but it would be certainly worth your while to get in touch with a lawyer and see if there is any way of getting the marriage declared null and void and then you would be able to keep your house. Hope this helps!

I also have depression that doesn't really appear to be caused by anything and it has wrecked relationships. It does make life tough but she can't expect you to be her punching bag for whenever she's feeling bad - trust me - I learnt this the hard way. From this point of view, all I can say that is to be as honest as you can with her and let her know, although you love her, the effect that this depression has on YOU! You can't expect her to hide her feelings but she will have to learn to deal with them in a less disfunctional way. Perhaps you could suggest counselling and see if she would like you to go with her. Let her know that you love her and that you want to support her through this but not at your own detriment. Take care. xx

"On the blob"!!!!! That is the funniest expression for it that I've ever heard!!! I was thinking of telling him, if anything gets going, that it would have to be "his" turn tonight - if you get what I mean! What do you reckon?

I HATE the word period!!! Is there a non-horrible way of saying it?

Sounds like you're being too nice. Depression is a serious thing but it doesn' t allow her to treat you this badly. By letting her treat you in this way and always apologising to her - you are crossing the line between being understanding and being a doormat! Instigate NC - she will come back. But take some time to yourself and think about whether this is really what you want for yourself and whether you are happy to be treated in this way for the rest of your life. Something has to change or else it will only get worse. Best of Luck

Well since you're going to meet up with him anyway... First of all, let him suggest the date and time and then say that you're busy that day. You don't want to seem too eager or desperate! Accept his second suggestion of time and date though - you don't want him to think that you're not interested. Secondly, when you meet him, try and keep it lighthearted until he brings up any of the serious stuff. Make him tell you what he wants and how he feels before you lay your heart on the line. You seem to be doing all the right things so far - best of luck!!!

Here's a question for you! What is the best way to tell someone that you've just started sleeping with that you can't have sex tonight because you have your period? I'm not shy about letting him know what the deal is BUT I'm just trying to figure out a good way of putting it!! Please help!

Where are you? If you're in the UK you can get free M.A.P. from some chemists. Otherwise - go and borrow some money from someone!!! The cost of the pill is NOTHING compared to the economic and emotional cost of bringing up an unwanted child. Hop to it!! xxx

The urge to contact your ex is normal!!! I know that everyone here advocates NC - and they are absolutely right to do so - but it is not an easy thing to do especially when you've been in such a long relationship. I split up with my boyf of 5 years in early March and it took a good three weeks of me phoning him and turning up at his house snivelling and begging before I finally reached the no-contact stage. If are strong enought to instigate NC - then all power to you!! But if you can't then don't beat yourself up about it - don't be ashamed to have feelings and to miss someone who was such a big part of your life. As for waiting for her to come back.... Obviously, I don't know all the details of your situation but I have gone through pretty much the same thing recently so here's my advice... She may come back, and she may not. Unless you got a crystal ball sitting there then you have to assume that SHE IS NOT COMING BACK!! This way you'll be able to get your life back together, spend some time on yourself and enjoy being independent!! There is no way to loose with this method - if she does come back then you'll be a better person and if she doesn't, then you'll still be a better person. Probably what will happen to you is that one day you will realise that you don't want her back anymore. Time passes and the heart heals. My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best. Please feel free to PM me if I can be of any use. Rozanne

I would say to definitely wait until you've had your first argument. Married couples will always have fights and this is normal - it's healthy! - but the most important thing is to see how you both deal with the situation as a partnership. But anyway - best of luck!!!!! Let us know how you get on!!

I would definitely follow the advice of your doctor over your piercer! The doctor will know what he is talking about! Best of luck

I am so going through the same thing with my ex at the moment! He tells me that he loves me and because of this - we need to break up. He says that he doesn't want to hurt me anymore because he's strayed in the past. I'm meeting up with my ex tonight to give him an ultimatum so that I can get my life sorted out - Its not fair for him to keep tagging me along when he isn't sure about how he feels about me - I have a life to lead as well!! I'm afraid that I don't have any advice for you - if I did then I'd be using it myself. But I can understand how difficult things are for you. I can be really hard when you know that you should move on but they keep on giving you a glimmer of hope that delays the whole process. But whatever you do, don't have sex with him until he makes a commitment to you - I have learnt this the hard way. Keep your chin up!! Lots of love Rozanne