kere

guy....I haven't posted in awhile but something has come up and I just don't know how to deal with this anymore....its kinda long but please just listen.... So I met my gf when I first moved to NY right...that was in sept 05. We were great until I found out that she was interested in another girl...lets call her C. My gf swore to me that it was a lie and she would never do that. Come to find out that not only was it true....she started a relationship with her Dec 05......FYI....we go to the same school and I see this girl everyday!!!!!! So we broke up in Dec and I went to Virginia to visit with family and just to get away and clear my head. Now...she calls me in VA and again swore...this time on her mother's life...that its over and it wasn't that serious. I believed her!!!.....I went back to school and again...I have to see C everyday!!! During this time....feb - june 06....my gf and I had some problems with C hanging around the club room where we hang out....my gf told me that she only comes to see other ppl..not her......I believed. By this time we were trying to get our relationship back to where we wanted it to be.She was there for me whenever I needed her...a few times we had arguments over trust issues...but she assured me that nothing is going on.....i believed her. In Dec 06...we had a conversation don't remember what but I caught her in a little lie about C and when it ended....she admitted to me that she was still seeing her in Jan 06...after I came back from VA. We had a blow out over this. Now..thanks to the Internet......I found out that she was still seeing her up to V-Day last feb. We had an argument again...but this time she told me that she ended the reationship....NOT in Jan....but JULY 2006!!!!!!!!!!!! Which means that all that time at school she was still sleeping with C...and get this...everybodyelse knew except me. At that time we were not working and i would put gas in her car every week....so she can drive C around!!!!!!! But u want to know what the worst part is????.....i lost my best friend of 10 yrs over the relationship with my gf and C....long story....but the point is she knew how this affected me and she still carried on with the relationship...and we just moved in together jan 07!!!!!!!!! My family doesn't speak to me anymore because of our relationship...I have no friends here....What am I suppose to do now?...where am I gonna go?????....and y can't ppl just be honest???? Guys....I just don't know what to do right now...i feel so low and stupid!!!!!!!!!!...please help.....

Hey guys, Does anybody have any info on getting married??? My gf and I want to get married this summer in Connecticit...Civil Union....anyway, if anybody has any info on how to go about that please let me know. Thank you.

Honestly, I think you should end this relationship.....ur partner is disrespectful and it seems to me that she is a little shady!!!! She is obviously going though some stuff that only she can work out....u have an obligation to urself and ur happiness. She is not in a place where she can give u want u need & deserve so u need to do what u need to do. It makes no sense to be with someone who makes u unhappy!!!!! gl kere

I feel u foxlocke...any way prufrock06....u didn't chicken out...the time wasn't right. When the right time comes around u will find the strenth to do what u have to do. gl kere

Hey girl, I guess you are cought between a rock and a hrad place.... i am not sure I have any advise for you but i will say that you need to get out of this relationship!!!!!! ppl fall in & out of love....sad but true.....I can't remember if u said ur living with her...if u r, do u have anywhere else u can stay for awhile??? I really think u need some time from this girl. Then oce u both cool off for a while then u can both decide if counseling is something that can help or if u both want to end the relationship. But i think u should stay away from her for awhile....sorry I can't give u any solid advise. gl kere

WOW....R u serious????....ok first of all, u cannot stop her from calling but u don't have to pick up.....u canot stop her from bringing her girl over but u don't have to let them in. Get away from this girl, she means u no good. Focuss on getiing ur life back together. Obviously u are not over her so a friendship cannot be had here...not yet anyway. gl

Go get ur girl sassy!!!!!

I know how u feel I am going through the same thing.....u want to know but u don't want to make a big deal cuz then next time its a lie just to avoid a bad situation...u don't want to nag cuz u don't want to push him away or make him mad...he makes u feel like ur being silly instead of trying to prove ur wrong...and if its nothing and ur love me y are u still putting our relationship in jepordy but still talking to her????? Girl, i feel u...listen to ur heart and follow ur intuition....a woman's intuition is never wrong, if it looks like a duck and smell like a duck and sounds like a duck more than likely it is not a dog..... I know u love him but sometimes u hav to to put that aside for a minute and focus on the love for urself and ur happiness and now the happiness of ur baby. Talk to ur husband set some rules!!!!

Hey girl, Listen, this girl maybe staright as well as she may not be!!!! That is easy to find out though. Do u have friends u hang with??? If so u can start up a friendlt conversation with ur crush and casually invite her to hang out with u and ur friends after a game or something. If u have mutual friends with her then find out what she likes or places she like to hang out at. That could be a good start. U have to move ur relationship with her away from the proffessional mode that it is in that this could be a good way to do that. gl kere

I was cheated on recently and am still very angry, having said that I strongly believe that we are responsible for our own actions and labels as superficial as they may seem are attached to us based on our actions!!!! If we are good then ppl say we are good, if we are bad ppl say we are bad, if we cheat then that is hurtful and inconsiderate and that is exactly what we should be called. Maybe I am just in a bad place right now but my ex cheated on me and I am angry and sad and very low so forgive me if I cannot find it in my heart to see the good in cheaters.

hey gxx, Breakups are hard especially aroung the holidays when its all about love blah blah blah....I am going through some mess myself right now and even though we haven't broken up yet, that is where we are headed. I figure, try to get through the holidays and then deal with the emotions that comes with the end of a relationship. I stay distracted by focusing on my family and not spoiling the mood. But I hear you when u say u feel miserable.....all I want to do is close my eyes and go back to the time when we were happy but I cannot do that so I have to find a way to deal with it and pray that I get over it soon.....so happy holidays and take it one day at a time.

u know what, if i had listened to u guys before i would not even be in this situation!!!! i have learnt my lesson and i just hope i find the strenth to move on and get over all this drama. Right now i want nothing to do with any of them. They totally played me for a fool but u know whta hurts even more.....my best friend's betrayal!!! I don't need ppl like that in my life so now i just have to take things one day at a time until I can say i am over it!!! Thanks alot guys.

after i posted the question, my gf came and i did someting i had never done in my life!!!!!!!!......i lost it!!!! i saw my best-friend...sorry ex best friend talking to Camille...the girl my gf cheated with. they are friends and she knew what was going on from the beginning, she also knows that they had sex but still she is friends with her. I lost it and started hitting on my gf....she hit me back....infront of Camille!!!! i am done. I am so angry with my best friend and my gf. i am so hurt right now i cannot even think straight. how can ppl be like this??????

Hey guys, I am not sure where to even start......well my gf cheated on me!!!! A few weeks ago I made a post about my gf wanting a "hook-up" with some other girl.....well she got it!!! If i had listen to u guys i would not feel like such a fool right now. I feel so low and drained...I cannot believe she did that to me. I have been nothing but good to her all this time. and all this time she has been trying to get with Camille!!!!!! She said she is sorry and won't do it again....i don't know what to do. I told her we can try to work it out but every time she touch me i think about her touching somebody else. and to make matters worst, i have to see this girl at my school!!!!!!!!!! I love her very much and want to make it work so tell me.....is the saying, once a cheater always a cheater true..????

hey, I know this must be hard for you but keeping all this inside will do more harm than good. I am sure a real reason is behind all this. You are not over reacting, your gf obviously know what she is doing I think she owes it to u to let u know exactly how she feels. Maybe it is as simple as u guys are spending to much time together or too little time together. Or she is feeling disconeccted or she just wants some attention....females are crazy like that...I know cuz I am one....we don't say what we mean we just expect our partners to just know!!! Talk to her...not in a confrontational way....ask her what u really want to ask her and make sure your questions come from a good honest place. Let her know how u really feel and what you want and make suggesions as to how u guys can work things out ....if that is what u both want ofcourse. Good luck Kere