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Yeah I've realized that what I'm doing is like going up to a stranger and giving him the keys to my house then give him directions on how to get there too....Then get mad and upset when I find out I've been robbed...LOL. Thats the same thing I'm doing with this chick. I leave her alone, then a week later she sends a text or leaves a message, then I call her and she never picks up or calls back. Take notes girls, if you don't like a guy that you know likes you, DO NOT keep contacting him, it's not kool, and guys if a girl shows sign of flakiness, don't sit there dreaming about how nice it would be to talk to her, run the opposite direction as fast as you can and never look back again. If I ever come here talking about calling this honey again, you guys have the right to do and say whatever you want to me. A wise man knows his limitations, and I've definitely reached mine. I pray and hope that she never contacts me and leave me alone, I can't stand people that play around with others' feelings. I have no attraction for her whatsoever right now.....

Here's an update: And the story gets crazier.... So after she called and left this message last tuesday " hi this is ---, haven't talked to you in awhile so I'm just calling to say hi, bye." I called her back the next day, and of course once agin she dosen't pick up, I leave a message saying I saw you called yesterday and I'm returning your call so give me a call back. that was last week wednesday and no call back still....LOL..okay so this morning around 9:00 freaking AM I get a text message from her saying " its my birthday"..... thats all the text said. I knew it's her birthday because she told me a while ago during one of our conversations when her b-day was, I guess she thought I forgot or something, but still we're not even at a "friends" level yet so I thought the text was kinda strange. Anyway like a dummy AGAIN, I called her and surprise!!!! she dosen't pick up and she still hasn't called back yet.

Yeah I know, she said " I haven't talked to you in a while, so I'm calling to say hi..." and I'm thinking you could've just replied to the call or two e-mails I sent you, but you didn't. I'm tyring to figure out the thought processes that went through head when she picked up her cell and decided to dial my number. If talking to me is something she's not interested in then why call? In some type of way I feel like she's saying to herself let me call him and see what he'll do...if he'll ignore me or respond..

she called last night around 11:00pm..... I don't think she's interested though. That much I can tell. If a girl is interested they behave and act in a certain way to let you know, but this girl isn't or rather hasn't. What made her call I don't know, but I doubt it was just a random call either. It's been two weeks since I've called her and I've already made the decision to cut her off and now she goes and call and has me doubting my decision. If we were friends or something I'll understand her calling, but like I stated she was just a girl I met in class last semester, and we e-mailed and called each other a couple of times ( mostly started this semester when I got that first e-mail from her in january yet after a month of not hearing from her ). I know that calling her back will be the polite thing to do, but yet I'm thinking she didn't call back until two weeks later, so why should I even call her back? what would you guys do in my sitaution?

wow......I finally get a call from the honey two weeks later, I missed the call but listened to the message. She says "hi this is *****, haven't talked to you in a while so I'm just calling to say hi, bye." At this point I don't even know if calling her back is the right thing to do. And this is why I'll never understand chicks, it's obvious she's not interested, so why call two weeks later? if you don't want somebody talking to you ( especially if it's a guy that shows he's interested in you, you don't play around with his feelings. ) It's not like we're friends or anything, she's just a girl I had a class with last semester.....

Yeah, but where in that line did I say she was a bad person. I choose who I feel like giving my time to, just like she does. But I 'm over the girl right now and just do not feel like talking about her anymore. Knowing me though, I just don't have the heart to be impolite to people, she'll probably send an e-mail in a day or two saying sorry she's been busy and I'll start talking to her and end up with what got me there in the first place.

I do not think she is a bad person, if I did I wouldn't even had wanted to talk to her in the first place, so I don't know where you're pulling that one from. The way I see it NOW, it's actually more my fault for all this....I made up my mind not to talk to her and a month passes, she sends me an e-mail saying sorry she got busy and I bit the bait and started communicating with her again, and this is where it all led to. I just said I wouldn't waste time or energy on someone that I don't need to But I never said she was a bad person, nice one though Batya33...

Yah, I've pretty much made up my mind, which is something I should've done a couple of months ago actually....she forwarded me a text last saturday that was just completely rediculous, my sister thought it might've been a joke... because it was forwarded, so my guess is that she didn't even write it ( which I'm glad because then I would have thought she was psycho ). seeing as she never called back or reply to my e-mail wishing her well, I didn't even feel the need to react to the text. I threw away her no. so theres no chance of me calling her again, I was going to take the high road and talk to her if she calls, but that's useless, some people just don't deserve ANYTHING, and right now my time is precious to me.

I guess the honey is still sick and dosen't feel like talking to anyone. Anyway I replied back to her e-mail in a casual way saying I hope she feels better and that she should take things easy and get some rest....

I forgot to add, In a situation like this, would e-mailing her back today seem like to early to respond since she sent the e-mail last night, or should I respond tomorrow.....I don't want to respond too early and have her thinking one thing, and I don't want to respond too late and her thinking another thing.

I just saw an e-mail from her sent last night, saying she's sorry she wasn't able to return my call and that I shouldn't worry it wasn't only me, she said she's been sick the past couple of days and couldn't eat, sleep or hold any food in. She also wrote that right now she just dosen't feel like talking to anyone...... Thanks alot for your responses Heloladies, it's kept me level headed..... I'll think about the next course of action to take and just proceed with caution from here on out as far as I'm concerned with her. It's snowing here, so I doubt I'll be running into any honeys to talk to, but I think thats my problem.... when I talk to a chick, I only like talking to one at a time, and I think thats why I tend to stress over it so much if it dosen't work out.....I think I'll start talking to multiple chicks now so I can handle situations like these easier next time...

well here's update, I still haven't heard back from her after I called her and left a message asking her if she had any days off this week that we can go out. So now you see the type of person I'm dealing with. Not even a call back for 30 sec. at the most to say sorry, I can't go out this week I'm busy.....I'm glad I came home, though. At least I got to eat my mom's good cooking, and I 'm treating my long time friend to movie and a dinner since his b-day was just two days ago, and I feel bad cuz he always does something for me for my b-day. As for the girl.., do you think I'll be considered a mean and rude person if I don't talk to her anymore.

HAHA....nice, I finally understand what you're saying. I'm probably taking things too seriously. Well it's been nine hours and she hasn't called back yet, so I've already made plans to leave for los angeles tomorrow.....I'll just talk to her when ever she calls I guess..

But thats the thing, she knows I like her in a romantic way and I think she's trying to play with my emotions or something. I like people being straight to the point instead of dancing around situations....I want her to tell me how she feels so I either keep pursuing or leave her alone, why make a complicated thing hard, I don't understand honeys sometimes...