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I asked the same question last year, hope this helps (add to it also) 1) Dinner and movie 2) Bowling 3) Out for drinks (coffee, beer, etc...) 4) Concerts 5) Sporting Events 6) Shopping 7) Performing Arts (Blue Man Group, etc.) 8) Pool/ Billiards 9) Putt-Putt Golf 10) Arcarde/ Go Carts 11) Festivals 12) Wine Tasting 13) Museums 14) Amusement Park 15) Picnics 16) Walk on Beach/ Park 17) Hiking 18) Reading 19) Aquarium 20) Dancing 21) Tours 22) Chess & board games 23) Cooking 24) Rollerblading

Lady bugg I know exactly what you are saying, as I am going thru the exact same thing right now. I like this woman, and I found out last week, that she is seeing someone, and Im pretty sure its sexual in nature. But when I found out, there were 2 scenarios I could choose: 1) say the hell with this, there is more out there or 2) I have been acting like, hey thats cool, he isnt here now, & ill be your friend and in doing so, I think I still have a chance.... Now the kicker, I am very attracted to her, so its not like someone where I can say oh well, your loss, etc.... the more I learn about her, the more I like This sounds just like what you are trying to decide, and I think you have 2 choices: 1) cut your losses move on 2) dont let it bother you, be friends, and maybe it will happen for you (just dont let it be as a rebound or whatever, but on your terms) Good luck with this...

Ok, I need alot of advice here today guys, cause i am about to take a dive of the deep end tonite!! ok, this weekend, i saw my favorite bartender. I brought her a little gift, that just made her nite (it was just something to snack on I knew she really liked) and she was thrilled. Something happened that nite with someone getting sick, etc... so we really couldnt spend alot of time talking, and she made sure she told me she is real sorry she couldnt spend more time with me.... ok, the first time i had talked with her, i told her about an upcoming concert coming to town, and she said that band was the first concert she had ever been to. so then i said well, if i get front row tixs, you going with, and she was like hell ya!! so nothing had really been said about it until saturday nite. she asked me how tickets were coming (which arent onsale for another couple weeks) and she goes cause I will have to arrange getting the nite off from work!!! ok according to this info, do i dare ask her out in the meantime?? I havent really dated in several months, so i really dont want to screw things up.... part of me thinks its a go, the other part of me thinks she likes me bacause she gets hit on constantly, I have never asked her out, or hit on her per se!! Need some good advice guys.........

ok DN, its not the response I was looking for, but I guess you are right, I need to not pursue her........ I will still go there and see her, as I think we are becoming good friends, and i will leave it at that for awhile.

Hi all. Its been awhile since my last post, and I love the advice I get on here, so Im back for a spell. Ok, my not so average situation. I met a girl a couple weeks ago. She is a bartender where we were at one nite (I am an ex-bartender also). I had been in before and we had eye to eye before, but never talked until recently. We got each others name, etc... So the last 2 Saturdays, I have gone in kinda late, when the bar crowd has slowed down, and sat and talked with her. My buddy who was there the first Saturday nite, even saw how well we clicked and laughed all nite together. The last 2 times I have been in, she has said that she is not like herself... I would like to think its because I bring out the best in people, as I am pretty outgoing, and like I said, we do have fun.... So I was gonna ask her out this past Saturday, but then the guy sitting next to me (didnt know him at all) & I started talking, and he told me he over heard her on the phone before I got there that she didnt get home until 330 that afternoon, and she had to be at work at 4. She had been out all nite, and something about the L word... So, when she came back over to us, he asked her about it, and she said yep she still had her same makeup on from the nite before, and that whoever she was with kept using the L word way too much, which she didnt care for.... Well, she is very pretty, so I guess I should have known she would have a boyfriend, and I am ok with that.... I did feel a slight jealousy in me, which kinda tells me, i really like this girl alot.... but now it has got me thinking that maybe she was not like herself because she is seeing someone else, I dont know.... But my question to all on here, should I continue to pursue her, as a little competition is good, and I am really not looking to be exclusive or anything... or do I drop out of site for awhile, or I have even thought of taking another girl there?? Anyone got any thoughts on my situation?? Has anyone ever been thru something similar??

Thanks for the replies. I am thinking that she wont call back, so I have decided if I dont hear back today or tomorrow, I will move on again. To be honest, she is part of my past, and I have been doing really good at leaving the past in the past!! But i agree, I will keep collecting phone numbers, and flirting with women and making friends at least..... If she does call, I'll let you all know........

Hi, havent posted here in along while, but need some advice... Went to concert the other nite. Had a good time, had a few to drink and overall was feeling good. Ran into a girl I hadnt seen in a few years. Eventually one thing led to another, and I got her phone number. Well, this was Saturday nite. I called Monday at lunchtime, and left a message. No answer as of yet. Is this a bad sign, or to early to tell?? If I dont hear from her tomorrow, do I call again, or what do I do??? need some advice please...... thanks

hahahhahaha i agree with ya keefy!! you gotta get out there and show people the real you........ and if all goes well, you wont want the ex back, and as soon as they know this (like a sixth sense) then they want you back, its uncanny!! Hopefully then, the tables will have turned, and you can call the shots, or walk away!!!

Sorry to hear your pain octopus.. We all have been there, which I know it doesnt make it any easier to hear that. I think you all may have moved too fast to begin with. How much do we REALLY know about someone in 5 or 6 months?? I mean the "honeymoon" phase is in the beginning, and everthing is all GREAT, but once that wears off, this is the time that will make or break a relationship, right!?!?!? Give him some time, but also give yourself some time to think things through, to see what direction you want to head in....... This way too, if you all do see one another in 3 weeks, you will be stronger and more sure of yourself!! Good luck to you, keep posting which helps to get it out also.

ok, let me ask this of you all, and ask this of yourselves, "what is it that you TRULY want from your ex??" This is a very important question that sometimes gets over looked. If you answer this question, truthfully, this is step 1...........

hey thanks keefy, glad to be back. The last few months have been up and down, but now I am 100% over the ex, so I am moving back up.... As for my new situation, we have not discussed anything, although she has told me she wants me to come over and see her new place, she said we can go gamble together sometime, stuff like that. I have let her express all her thoughts, I have yet to say anything to her about what I want.... although today is her birthday, and i gave her a little something, and it really made her day I thought of her.... And I guess, if something does come about, it will have to be secretive, for no one can know at work either....... but you are right keefy, i will take it slow, prolly let her call the shots or whatever.... and I do know it would be a rebound as well, so I know I couldnt wear my feelings on my sleeve... just be her friend, cause we all need friends thru times of crisis!!

I got a new question for everyone...... I have got a friend, we work together actually, who is moving out this weekend from her husband. The two have been miserable for a good while now. Well, for a long time we have had a serious connection, joking and flirting with one another, etc.... we both know each other real well, and each other's problems, and there has been an attraction since we met few years ago...... My question is, is it ok to date someone who is separated?? What is the legal aspect for her? Granted I know if we do go out, one thing will lead to another, etc... and I want it to happen any advice would be greatly appreciated.....

Ya I hear ya keefy. Its a definite roller coaster ride. Just keep yourself busy and occupied, it does help keep your mind off of things. Before you know it, it will be Day 15, Day 25, etc.... And ask yourself, why do you really want to talk to her? Just to hear her voice? Do you have something you have to tell her? Chances are whatever you come up with, it is not good enough reason to have to call her!! Its just like me calling H. Sunday, now that I think about it, I called her cause I wanted to call her. Sure, I had her drawings, but Ive had them for awhile now, it was just an excuse to call her I think!!

Hello all. How did everyone fair over the holiday weekend?? I had a good weekend, just went toooo fast!! Cant believe its Tuesday already!! That sux. Well, I do have some bad news. I found some of my EXes drawings while I was packing up some boxes getting ready for the move. I wanted to just throw them away. but I couldnt. They are too good to throw away. So, I called her and left a short message, call me back if you want them back. Well she called back, said she wants them, asked if she should come to my old house or NEW house, apologized to swearing at me the last time we talked. Well, this was on Sunday. She called me several times yesterday and left messages just to talk, etc... I called back and we talked for about 20 minutes, and she started getting into stuff I didnt want to talk about, so told her I have to go.... I have no clue what will happen next....

Wow, it looks like we all are following the same lead, dont really care to get back with our EXes at this point in time!! Well good for us!! Blue is doing good, Coda is doing great it sounds like, 'cept for the food poisoning BLAH! (hope you are feeling better coda), keefy you are making strides, and I think about my EX here and there, but I am refusing to give in and stoop to her level!! I could call her up, suck axx, and get back in her life, but I dont really care to be a doormat to her, I need doormats for my new house!!