carribean chick

Age is a number, it only represents the time that you've been alive o this earth.. it does not however, represent the maturity level of the person... that is what matters. And you completely shockd me when you said 12 lol

So many people... so many different theories... especially when you ask them what love means. There is a major difference between loving someone and being in love with someone.. and then of corse you have like/care for and lust. So many people can't differenciate between being in love and loving someone. Make sure that you don't start liking your good friend just because he likes you.. so many girls make that mistake. Good Luck!!

Yes he is older than me.. by eight years. Yes I could also take that as a sign that everythig is fine, except the fact that he and her friends say that the only thig missing from their relationship is the affection.. from what I've been told, and seen before we started talking He trys to be affectionate with her but she pushs him away, I guess she just wasn't brought up that way... I don't know. We talked last night about whether we should stop talking and seeing each other until he goes through the divorce and he can devote himself entirely to me and not feel guilty for loving me.. it's just a sticky situation because you love someone and you don't want to stop talking or seeing them. Selfish I know.. but maybe that's what it's going to end up resorting to.

Have you ever asked her why her father is so protective of her? Is it because she betrayed their trust before when they did let her date? Or is it just because he's an overprotective father? Why don't you find that out first.. but also in the meantime Try to talk to her Mom.. Most likely if you can win the Mom's heart she will tell the Father to back off a bit. And by "winning her heart" I mean find out a time that the Father is not home and go over with some flowers (NOT ROSES) for the Mom and try to sit down and talk to her about how you just want to take her daughter to dinner and a movie... and see where the conversation goes from there. Persistence beats resistance!

First off I want to thankyou two for the input... Peanut 15- I guess in my post I made things unclear when I said "so I did" . The truth of the matter is that I started talking to him just about everyday stuff.. wrok, our lives, we had never spokem to each other the entire time I've worked there.. so we didn't know much about each other. My intentions were not to fall in love with this man, or for him to take me to bed, which might I add has not happened. No it was not right of me to say that they need to get divorced.. who am I to say that? No one. He doesn't however say negative things about her.. like I said he comments on how she is pretty, sweet, smart and a great mother.. the only thing he says is that there is just no connection because they fooled each other in thinking they were someone else during all of the partying, they barely saw each other not under the influence. I am not trying to stand up for him, this is just what I am thinking. Ocean Eyes- I guess you really can't know how it "just happens" until you are in the position.. God hope you never are.. And I know that you are thinking that you won't be becauwe you won't let yourself, I am just warning you that sometimes things don't go as planned. Like I said to Peanut, I had no intentions of falling in love with him. . I just wanted a friendship with him. I understand that I am not right in any of this, and I am not trying to be defensive.. I posted this because I wanted to actually think what I was doing, and since I don't really talk to anyone about it I thought that I could get some feedback on here. And to be perfectly honest, about other girls offering themselves to him on a silver platter, he gets it everyday. I am a model and he is the agency Owner. So he gets offers everyday from beautiful girls. Now I know what you are thinking, then how do you know he's not doing it with someone else. I guess that I don't really know, I just believe that he's not.. just like his wife. So confusing. He has however not made any promises to me of divorce.. One becaue I won't let him talk to me about it in full length because it's not my relationship and not my business... and two because we discussed it and niether one of us want him to divorce because of us, but because he's unhappy with his wife. Again thankyou for the input!

I know that for many of you you have been on this forum have read numerous times about "the other woman".. I also have read all of the other girls, and what they did and the responces gave to them.. but I still seem to have this nagging part in my brain saying "it'll work for me".. Here's my problem: I am completely totally in love with a married man. I knew that he was married when I met him. He was my boss at work.. we barely spoke to each other.. I thought that he was gorgeous, but would never ever say anything to him.. until one day I looked over at him and he looked at me, and I just knew.. I had to tell him. So I did. I sat down with him at work at we talked for 5 hours non stop... and then the next day we did the same thing. He goes out of town a lot... he owns many business that he has to travel to and make sure are running correctly.. put people in their places, check on paperwork, collect money.. that kind of stuff. After two weeks of constantly talking inside of work and outside (he usually only work on Fridays and Saturdays, but started working almost everyday) he invited me to travel with him to one of the cities that he had to go to.. I said no because I wasn't really sure it was a good thing to do.. after all he was married. . and everyone that I worked with knew his wife, she use to work at the same place. Two weeks later, after continuing to talk constantly he asks me again.. I agree and go. No sex, just complete relaxation and awesome conversation and all around wonderful time.. I got to see him outside of work life which was very different.. good different.. he is very loving and adoring and just perfect. Months later we were still doing the same thing, talking all the time, he would come see me at my place everyday after the gym and I would see him at work or after I got off of work at a club. Out town is very small and everyone knows everyone so when they saw us out together (although not overly affectionate) of corse started talking.. we both denied anything happening. Months later I fell in love with him.. everything about him I loved, his faults and strenghs. We had talked numerous times about him and his wife and family (he has a 14 year old from a previous relationship that he's always had custody of, and a two year old from his current) and he would say how his wife is beautiful, a wonderful mother to their child, sweet and intelligent but they met at the wrong place. He said that when they met they both were into partying a lot.. and that they never really got to see each other true sides besides the times they were partying. So when they got married and decided to stop partying they found out that they don't compate well with each other... she is Russian and I guess from what I have heard about them from many people, not just him.. they aren't very affectionate at all.. and that's what he said was the only thing that was missing... she didn't know how to be affectionate and did want to learn how and didn't want him to be.. but they were before because of the scene they were in. The only reason that he says he's afraid to leave is because of him children. I completely understand.. if I had children I might forget what I wanted out of the relationship to have the children be with their father. The 14 year old and the two year old have formed a bond that children do and he would hate to break it.. plus she has mentioned that she would clean him out if they ever did break up.. he is very sucessful and she wouldn't sign a pre-nup. (I would sign a pre-nup because I don't want him money, or property.. just him). So now I am left with this.. I seriously without a doubt 110% completely love him... completely support him in any decision he makes... whether it is to be with me or not.. you can not stress about things that you can not control. We have also talked many times about our trust.. since we've started out not being honest to his wife (and I have meet her on a many occasions, very nice very pretty) I wondered like everyone else how I could trust him even if we did rise above everyone else and stayed together.. and we came to an agreement and understanding. I just wonder what's going to happen.. whether he is going to end up divorcing her or not. He has said many times that she is definitally not happy because she says it all the time.. from what I hear at work from her friends, she says they are about to get a divorce. . honestly I think she is definitally cheating because she has everything she wants, doesn't have to work, is young and has a husband that travels 3 weeks out of the month.. she is seen all around town with other men. They just need to divorce.. and move on. ... their children will be fine as long as he doesn't move far away (we've talked about moving into a house right down the road) and the children still see each other. I kinda just want some feedback. Sorry this was so long!!!