Tr0ubledGuy

I guess it comes down to how you define a 'GOOD' guy. IMHO though I don't think a good guy would get involved with someone who is already

@ ur age. Spin the bottle comes to mind

Its never alright for a man to lay a hand on a chick. So why should it be alright for a woman if the man has never layed a hand on her? Get outta there

Well this is a pretty common question. Guys are always searching for how do chicks show their intrest toward a guy and inevietably come accross a list which includes this and other things such as when sitting legs are pointed toward you for example. And search out these signs from women. There is a basis for this list of subtle hints but they usually don't appear just in one form. It means she wants you, she wants you bad. Fact is the clerk is being paid to and she has to look at you. It would be rude otherwise. And just steightning her hair could be and most likly a comfort thing. Strands got in her face so she moved em or something along those lines. As the previos poster commented most likly a coincedence

I wanna thank you guys for responding. Its given me a few ideas

When you respond to someones profile on a single site with an email, what should your email contain? I am having trouble coming up with what I should write in it

I envy you. You have had a couple dates and am younger than I am. Its not that you repel women, its sounds more like you don't stand out to them, just another person in the background. Chicks appear to dig outgoing guys. Chicks usually don't just come up to guys and start talking with them just cause they are eating alone in the caf. Alot of people talk about joining groups/clubs to get to know women. This allows for easy conversation and allows them to get to know you a bit making for a comfortable environment. Good Luck

Let me start off by saying I am over the the age of 20 and never been on a date. However recently this girl gave me her number without me even asking for it. Which is cool, except I don't really have that same kinda of intrest in her. Which is my problem. I don't want to lead her on into thinking that I am interested as that is not me. But then another side says that opurtunities like this don't come along at all and there is no harm in going out once. H e l l she might turn around and not like me. I think I am just putting too much thought into it and stressing over something that is supposed to be a fun experience. What does the eNotAlone Community suggest I do?

Hey man. I know what you are talking about when people come hear to be told what they want to hear. Especially ones the ones that come on hear, make a topic about does he/she like me etc. And list reasons they think the other person likes them but don't provide any reasons for what makes them doubt whether the other person likes them. Some of them are really obvious which they already seem to know. Although there are some real legit ones. Anyways dealing with your problem. I have lived in Rural areas for most of my life, however I have had a longer single senetence than you so take my advice however you will. And what I say you probaly have heard/read it before. It is going to be tougher to meet someone in a rural area alone. You got to get into the city and get involved in whats going on. The rural community is like a small town, most people know each other, not neccissarily a lot to do.

This post is a little long but I had to write this down and hopfully some one could give me some helpful advice Well I have been thinking of death regualrly for about 2 years. In that time there has only been 3 times that I almost did myself in, although I never have phiscally mutalated myself on purpose (wrist cutting etc.). The thing is I don't feel like living any more, I want off this ride and my money back. Truth is although I am not thinking about killing myself, I would be just fine if not releived if I didn't bother waking up tommarow. I am tired of living, I never asked for this life or to be born at all. Most of the time I can repress what I am feeling until I am out of the public eye, but lately I have had trouble keeping my public exterior. My life isn't worth it. I never go out and do anything. I go to school and go home were I am most comfortable. I really have no intrests. My biggest problem however is I can't relate to people. This has always caused me problems since I was younger. I hate being in large crowds of people. I tense up really quickly in such situations. For instance if I get into an elevator with a medium amount of people, or walk down a crowded hall I will tense up and start to twitch. Like my neck will twitch and my head will shake. Not hard to pick out the freak there. Most of the time if I am walking down the hall I will look to the floor or out the windows as I walk by, or just straight ahead. I really have a hard time talking with others, in that I never do, just have no clue. If you can't interact with other people you are only stuck with your own mind and that is a horrible existence. Another thing is I have never had a gf. Not all that hard to see why, but still no comfort. I can't go on for too much longer living like this. I just don't want it.

I have a hard time asking chicks out. In fact I never have, why..... rejection? No quite the opposite. I know this will sound really stupid, but I am afraid that if I do ask a chick out or whatever she just might accept. Rejection is fine, sure no one likes it, but I can accept it. I am not even sure why I am afraid of this of all things. Its hell when what you want is what you are afraid of. I was wondering whether anyone has ever been in such a situation, or had such a fear?

Hey Man. I know what its like. I am 20 and am still really thin. I have had this weight issue my whole life too. Ya know there is nothing on the web about gaining weight, its all about supplements and thousands of ads for wieght loss, gets depressing when every one is trying to lose the very thing you are trying to gain and its being stuffed in your face Most advice is eat everything and its not bad advice, but if your like me you do that already. I also have a very lazy lifestyle, my day usually consists of playing games in front of my computer when I have free time, so by most peoples standards I should be huge. But certaintly continue to eat, eat more if you can. Its easier for people like us to lose the weight than it is to gain it. Pushups will do nothing in the way of gaining you weight, they are fine for keeping in a basic level of shape if you have nothing else. I have treid the pushup thing cause I was told it would help. The lifting heavy objects around the house sounds like a good idea, not sure how well it works though. Same with shakes I have no knowledge how effective they are. But the best advice is the gym. There is no better way!! You should join the gym, I understand how embarrassing it would be to go into a gym looking like you don't belong. I have wresteled with the thought myself. I would like to join a gym but currently I am attending school and can't afford it, can't wait for the day I can. You have to work up the courage to go in and check it out. Its tough, but you need to do things that you as yourself would not normally do. Thats the first step in changing. It feels good once you accomplish something that you didn't have the guts to do before. As for what people might say....... who cares. You can't hide from embaressment forever, the more you try, the more it finds you, facts of life. As for your potbelly, I have one too and as I have said I am thin myself. The reason is your frame and body fat. Muscle is attached to your frame so if you start putting on muscle your frame will need to grow to accommodate it. You have a potbelly beacause you are not as fit as you could be, and your frame can support the current fat by placing it in the normal areas (stomach, waist). Good luck man!

Your post is similar to a lot of other members posts on this board. Your post gives me the impression you have feelings for this guy. The thing is you arn't looking at this situation in an objective manner, you are looking for any behavior, anything that might give the same impression he has the same feelings that you have. You have provided us with a couple of things that might show he has an intrest. You may be over analyzing his behavior, but then again why not talk with him to see if he has any intrest in you.

I would have to agree with winkybear. Find out as much as you can before making a choice on a religion, and when do you chose, don't chose just cause it is something different. Make an informed choice. A great place to start is looking at websites on the buddhist subject, they won't cost you any money and you can get a lot of information from them. One that I frequent is link removed This site holds so much information it is amazing. It has info about the history of the buddhist culture, the fundamentals of buddhism, lots of study material. I would deffently recomend it. Good luck!

As the thread title says this is just a rant on my life. I just need a place to throw my thoughts down because its driving me crazy. I just turned 20 about a month ago, and the biggest thing on my mind is I've never had a gf or even been on a date. It has occurred to me before 20 and bothered me once in awhile, however I would eventually get over it, and be fine till I thought about it again. But since I turned 20 I havn't had a day yet which it hasn't occurred to me that I am 20 and never been on a date. It now drives me crazy all day long. Chicks just arn't interested in someone who is, oh say 20 and never been on a date. They are often thought of as losers and that they have some kinda problem. I am happy with who I am, but little good that has ever did me. I am currently going to college and just feel like sh**. Chics show no signs of intrest towards me, I don't know why except that I have never had a gf, its not like I have a horn growing out of my head (but at this point it couldn't hurt). I found this site a little while ago, and there are a lot of good articles here but the thing that has me looking at this site everyday is the community. Until now I knew in the world there were others that had problems similar to myself, but until finding this site (forum) I hadn't met any. I have read about other peoples relationship problems on this site and I know it sucks to be in their spot, and for that reason am glad I have never had to deal with it, but on the other hand they had some one that they felt connected with. I am feeling better for being able to get that off my chest.