lonesome gemini

I've been talking to these girls over the internet and we talk and connect and i'm really sweet to them and theyre wonderful and i care about them both and we really really connect we talk everyday since Ive met them for like 3 times a day. they want to see me, be with me, i actually have feelings for both of them but am afraid to give one up. I know what one looks like and she is HOT the other I dont know but she is the sweetest, however so is the HOT girl. Looks arent that important, their personalities are. I hate to admit but Ill probably never meet either one of them but I just feel bad for sayin practically the same things to these girls. I dont wanna quit talkin to either of them, though

Hey man, read your story. Really hits home. Listen, no matter how beautiful she is and how much you are attracted to her, you gotta be yourself. The reason she may like your friend is because maybe he is a liitle more outgoing than you. From my experience, I think about 90 percent of women are only attracted to outgoing guys. My tip: Outshine your friend.(unless you're shy by nature.) Make a fool out of your self, but not too big a one, okay? If you want to wait for this girl you're in love with, go ahead. Only date if you want to, not because you feel obligated to for experience. Maybe that's a really good idea. If you date, she'll wanna know what these other girls you're seeing are getting. And if she likes you even a little bit, that will make her want you more.

You need to decide which of the guys makes you feel good to be around, also which one cares for you more. The guy at school, do you have fun with him and attraction to him? And the other guy, does he feel the same about you? Once that's figured out, you should be able to choose. Whatever happens, I hope you make the choice that'll make you happy. Good luck!

I didn't realize i wrote that much, sorry. First of all, I'm not a psycho, I just have had these feelings for such a long time I don't know how to handle them anymore. They're causing me to make so many mistakes. 1. I asked her why she was so mad at me andwhy did she run away from me. 2. Anytime I have the slightest tone of anger in my voice, if I close her car door the wrong way, and if I act disappointed that I didn't get to do anything with her she gets pissed off at me. That should answer your questions. Whenever I'm with her, all I talk about is her. I explain my actions to her all the time. On all occasions, except one, I complement her, ask how things are going, why she acted this way to that and that way to this, I've even told her how I felt about her(once). I care more for her than I do myself, we have known each other for over 2 years and have become really close. She knows things about me that noone else knows and I know things about her noone else, even her closest friends, knows. And she doesn't seem to care if I'm happy or not without her. That's it, thanks for listening.

Hi again, eNotalone.com, I haven't posted anything in a while, because alot of things have been going on and I've recently fallen into and gotten out of the most severe depression state I've ever been in. Things are better now after a month and a half. So i have decided to post an update on things. I have an advanced situation, however. Girl-related. One month ago, there was a night where all my coworkers(including my one and only ex) and me were at a restaurant hanging out after work on a Friday night. There was alot of us and we squeezed into one booth, and ex and her best friend(she works with us,too) were pushed close together, obviously. However, sitting there next to her, all she did except for a few glances at everyone else, was stare at her best friend and start continuously to scratch and tap her shoulder and "accidently" grab her breast when she put her elbow on her shoulder. After we got out of the place, I needed a ride to my car, so I asked her if she would take me and she did. Before I got out, I asked her if there was anything she wanted to talk about. She said no. So I brought up that what she was doing with her friend made me uncomfortable. I asked her if she had been having any urges or if she was feeling alright and that she was awfully "close" to her friend and she replied "If I was a lesbian, I'd tell you." I also said that she doesn't need to think that way, because there is a guy out there for her. I know now that I offended her. She's pissed now, understandably. Pretty much doesn't like me. We have bumped into each other ALOT lately, haven't really exchanged words, but I hear from friends things she said, one of them was we were planning a six flags trip and she said she wouldn't go if I was there. I want her to like me, I really do, but I just keep doing dumb things. I also still want to get back together, I still have feelings for her. Here's the real news, though, one of my friends that's gotten to be real good friends with her as of late, told me something she said about me. He brought up the question of how she felt about me and she said, "Don't tell him this, but I think he's a sweet and funny guy, and I still think about him." She also said that she would like to get back together because she still has feelings for me, she just isn't sure what those feelings are. She told him this a couple of days before I brought "things" up. This makes me feel better, and a little mad at myself. I tried to apologize to her by calling her, but she said that I was just trying to get her to feel sorry for me. Which she interprets things wrong all of the time, so that really doesn't surprise me. I'm just not sure what to do and I hope I didn't completely change her mind about me. But I really hurt her and for once, I'm more mad at myself than her. Help?

You're not ugly. The guy was drunk, and he just needed a ride. As for the situation, VERY insignificant. If you're interested in him, tell him you had fun at the party and ask him if he wants to do something with you. Hope that helps.

I am going on 20 years old and have NEVER had a real relationship. I've posted before about my coworker that I fell in love with, but that it going nowhere and I am absolutely sick of holding on!! I met someone recently and got her phone number, but just can't seem to get conversation started and not a whole lot of chances to be alone with her. I bump into her quite frequently around where I met her. And I get the feeling that I shouldn't even try, b/c she doesn't even act like she wants to talk to me!! most of the people that are around me seem so happy and I just feel like I'm destined to be without a hand to hold, or kisses, or sweet phone calls or ANYTHING!! The girl that told me that she liked me dumped me right after I fell for her, then I saw a beautiful girl(WITHOUT A BOYFRIEND), got the courage to ask her to do something, and got the digits! Why isn't it going anywhere? I've been told by quite a few girls I work with that I'm gonna charm someone so bad, or that I'm a great catch, and that I'm gonna find someone that will care about me. It would just be nice if the girl that I just met would be like,"Why haven't you called me, lately?" or "When are we gonna do something?" b/c I have called her and tried to get her to go somewhere with me, but it never works out. I would be dumbfounded if coworker came back to me....and happy. If that ain't going to happen why won't the person I put effort into give me results? Why did I even bother?

If you're happy with big'uns, be thankful your girl has them. It's one of her physically attractive qualities. Caring about them? as to basing looks as to every woman should have them? No.

Hey, good job, the hard part's over. Now that he knows, he's either totally blown away and not sure what to say, or afraid of what to tell you. I suggest you meet up with him FACE2FACE and discuss your feelings, shy or not, if you do not hear from him soon. If you two are even moderately close, I'm sure that both of you will benefit from talking in person and you might get a little action afterwards. Wouldn't it be great if he got close and kissed you? Talk to him and come back with what happens.

I asked hot girl, you know, 19, Jacksonville, blah, blah, blah..... if she wanted to go see a movie she really wasn't that interested in, by her own admission, and she told me so. So I asked her if she wanted to go see something she was interested in. She said,"Umm, it sounds like you're asking me out on a date." I'm not going to tell you what I answered with, because even though it's definitely impossible, I'm afraid that someone would reach out and slap me in the face, but just to give the general idea, it involved the words "go","as" and "friends" and then I brought up the "other girl problem". So she said we would talk about it later. I know what you're going to say, idiot, dumb***, but when she said "date" I panicked! I was afraid of: 1. Rejection 2. The other girl (which I brought up, by the way) Now, it is a definite, sure thing that I am going to call her and clear things up a bit more, possibly trying again and taking whatever answer comes without fearing rejection or..........a yes. Now, I never, EVER toot my own horn, but is it even 1 out of a million chances possible I disappointed her? Did she want a date with me? Then she probably thought I was messed up in the head by asking her and mentioning someone else? What should I tell her to clear this up... And bear in mind, I WANT TO MOVE ON, but I just can't let go of someone I cared about so much. Do you think this girl could help me let go if I got a date with her and spent time with someone else.

sit her down and talk to her and make sure you let her know that you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her. You just want to make sure that you have the right job to make enough money to support the both of you. Education is a must in our world to get a job unless you want to work the rest of your life everyday 9 hours a day at a K-Mart and nobody really wants that Reassure her that you WILL commit to her, you could even go ahead and give her an engagement ring and tell her as long as that ring is on your finger, you're mine to have and to hold til' death do us part. That's romantic, right? too much? Well, you get the idea. True love is NEVER too late.

I really liked your response, I'll come back with what happened... but I still want to know if it was a bad idea to ask someone else when I know things aren't closed with "the other girl". Why can't she just come to me and tell me how she really feels about me, then I won't have to worry about her, I would know. She says no chance of it, go with hot girl, she says otherwise, continue working with her and possibly go on from close friends to something better.

Sorry to hear about your hard time. Hopefully taking time away from his life and loved ones will make him realize how much he loves and cares for you and your children. Think about the good times you had and how much you cherished those moments and then think about how those memories are running through your mind and those same thoughts are in his mind. Along the way, try to contact him every once in a while, but not constantly, until finally he'll understand and you can work out your problems, say you're sorry, and then he'll come running to your open arms and have an even stronger, deeper love with you and he'll appreciate the time with you even more. (WARNING humor ahead) Passing time...beer works (humor ended)

Moving on...slowly but surely...still in love but trying to let go... I sorta kinda maybe a little bit like this other girl...she's 19, goes to Jacksonville State, home for a coupla months, HOT in the body, pretty in the face, beautiful and sexy all over. Don't talk to her much, but I do talk to her. A couple of my acquaintances had been ribbing me about asking her out, so after a little nervousness and a drop of sweat I finally did today after knowing her for 3 weeks. However, it was, "Do you want to go see (movie's name) with me and a (friend's name)?" and then she asked what time it was for and where we would meet. And I asked for her cell number and she was about to give it to me and I said we could just meet at the theater if she wanted to, so she didn't write it down. So then I clenched my fists and tried my best to keep my eyes open and asked if I could have it anyway. She gave it to me and we said bye and i walked away a little more happy. Now I couldn't tell you how new I am at this, but I'm asking for a definition of what did I just do and was it a bad idea? I still have strong feelings for my coworker-want-to-get-back-together-ex-girlfriend but the status just isn't getting any better and I'm attracted to this girl so much I'm embarrassed to say I (get a little too excited when I'm around her and even moreso when I think about her. it's so bad even as I'm writing about her So maybe i've found someone new?

Hi, I am not new to this site, but I haven't posted anything here in a while. However, something's been burning in my mind for a long time now. I'm in a "tiff" with this girl right now, I've posted things about my problems with her before, but all that's behind me. We're really good, undoubtably close, friends now after trying to date a long time ago. She didn't have romantic feelings for anyone including me and admitted she wasn't ready, even though she is 18 and has never done anything including a first kiss. I'm 19 and not "experienced" as well, but I'm ready and have been for quite some time now. Now that we're friends, I still have feelings for her, but I have done my absolute best to hide them, including turning her down for her senior prom, even though I regretted it , she was beautiful in her pictures. After all of that, I don't see her much at all, and did every thing in my power to get a chance to do something with her, but in doing so, I said stuff like "haven't seen you in a while"and,"I miss you". Which I guess tipped her off, even though I was hoping she realized she still liked me, too. I've sort of avoided her for a bit, no phone calls or anything like that. And then we were at work and we talked a little bit and I THINK she tried to invite me to a movie with her, her Mom and two of her friends who are also a couple. I'd have been cool with that, I know all of them pretty well, but I said something about going with my best friend before she could. So she just said, "maybe I'll see you there." I bumped into her later the next week, and we talked some more, and then I was doing something and she walked over to me and pinched my side right before leaving which I stopped her and said something, she stopped and we walked out together but I got stopped by a friend and I talked to him after she had left. I miss her like crazy and want to see her and I thought I would this weekend, but she was busy with something else. Should I call her or just wait to see her at work, since we work together, All I can do is ask myself, "I wonder what she's doing right now?" I know what I'd ask her to do, but I'm afraid she'll say she's busy or has other plans and that would make me feel stupid for calling. And even stupider when I see her again. Sorry for the length, just wanted to get the point accross.