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  1. run run run and don't look back. Anyone who could be so irrational and respond in such a way to the wonderfully kind and thoughtful e-mail you wrote her needs her head examined.... P.S. In future, I'd always advise talking face-to-face rather than doing such important stuff over the phone or e-mail....
  2. I was single, not by choice, until my mid 30's. Although most of the time I was happy being me I did, at other times get incredibly depressed about it and all I was "missing out" on. Then I met a guy and fell in love and thought I'd found my soul-mate although that said, the ride wasn't always smooth. 2 years ago in April he broke up with me - see previous posts if you are interested in how etc.... After that I was totally BROKEN and thought I'd never recover. However, over the past 2 years I've realised that it was great being in love - I learned so much about myself and my capacity to love another human being. Unfortunately I just chose the wrong person. When he broke up with me he destroyed a part of me that still hasn't recovered. I'm glad I got to love him and experience that but to me personally - and I'm now late 30's - I'm quite happy to be on my own. Ok so occasionally I get a bit sad but then I remember how bad it felt when it all went wrong and I don't know I could survive that again. I have a good life - my health, great family, good friends, a good job, my own home and I travel 2 or 3 times a year all over the world...have done so since I was 19. As I said on a previous post a few weeks ago, my take on it now is that you have to be happy with what you have and not keep going after what you don't have. I use my singleness to its full advantage and whilst at times I might be sad, the majority of the time I love only having myself to worry about. I know all too many people in unhappy marriages or relationships or who have teenage kids at my age - yikes!!! lol I've stopped looking for a relationship - I'm just happy being me and doing my own thing. If it came along then things might change but to run the risk of a heart smashed and a spirit crushed.... I'm honestly not sure I'd take that chance again..... Just my thoughts...
  3. Hey by all means give advice but please make it accurate. As previously stated Jehovah's Witnesses DO 100% believe in Jesus Christ and that he was the Son of God. Please check out your facts before posting....
  4. Couldn't agree more. Anyone who tells you after four months "you should be over it" doesn't know what they are talking about. It took me ages and ages to stop thinking that "he'd come to his senses and realise what he'd done"....sad thing is that nearly 2 years on he didn't. I, on the other hand, came to mine and realised what a loser he was. I didn't have the added insult of him immediately taking up with someone else. You are being WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYY too hard on yourself. I also don't agree with other posters who say you're doing this to yourself because of some "benefit" - that's unfair. It takes a long long time to get over that kind of betrayal - you are doing what you need to do to get through it. For me it took 6 months before I began to see light at the end of the tunnel and a full year before I began to feel better. Give yourself a break and don't worry - you will get through it - the hard part is that you can't hit fast-forward and believe me I wanted to myself. Keep strong
  5. Sales Consultant working for a company that sells psychometric profiling tools. It's great and I get to work from home which is even better
  6. Hey well done on asking her out to start with - I wondered what had happened. Perhaps you're a bit deflated because you were so hyped over it beforehand - just relax and enjoy
  7. Aah right. Yep you're right - sorry and thanks for clarifying the Mormon stance.
  8. Hi there I think you'll find they were referring to Jehovah's Witnesses here and not the Mormons.
  9. How sad that some Witnesses acted in such a crazy manner. The girl who acted like that in the school wasn't showing proper "respect" for the situation. Whilst it is true Witnesses won't do any form of "worship" to anyone or thing other than their God they are instructed to be "reasonable" and what she did sure didn't come under that heading. I know that the recommendation in a situation like that is a) ensure you aren't there when the National Anthem is being played - i.e if you know it's going to be played step outside or delay coming in until it's passed or b) respectfully sit quietly whilst others do what they wish. The only time you'd sit down is if you were in a situation where standing up would mean that you were included in the event. E.g. let's say you're all standing at an event and suddenly they started to play the National Anthem - it would be completely ridiculous to suddenly sit down. As for the Witness who put his foot in the door - another poor example. Jesus gave instructions when he was on the earth that where someone was not interested "shake the dust from your feet" and move on. This is wholly unacceptable and I'm not surprised your Mother no longer opens the door. Remember though that doing the door-to-door preaching is a non-negotiable part of being a Witness. Imagine it this way. A person is walking down your street and sees your house on fire. What would you want them to do - try and warn you and help you escape or walk on past for fear of upsetting you???? It's a little like that with the Witness. They believe that the Bible has a message that must be delivered as it involves people's lives. Obviously each person has the right to choose for themselves whether to listen but I guess all they ask is that this is done in a friendly way. Anyhow, only a foolhardy Witness would say that "no-one within the Organisation" gets things wrong or does something wrong. "let he without sin" and all that. However, they do strive to do what they know is right - regardless of how they are viewed by others.
  10. If you were married to a Witness who physically abused you, there would be no expectation to remain married. Christian husbands are instructed to "love their wives as their own bodies" - if he was abusing his wife this would be a matter for the authorities. As for the part of a community thing - if you are no longer interested in being a Witness then you just stop. Obviously people would offer help if that's what you wanted but if you didn't and you just didn't want to go anymore then that's fine - it's not a cult where people are held against their will.......
  11. FOZ DON'T GO Please don't go - it will be a big mistake. Why give him the power to hurt you all over again? Be strong. He's contacting you and messing with your head because, to a certain degree, you are allowing him. I've read all your posts along the way. I totally relate to the thing about being single and not trusting anyone not to hurt me like that again. My situation is different but the end result was the same. I have, however moved on and apart from a fleeting thought to the ex I don't bother about him. He tried to explain why he ended things the way he did in an e-mail in July 2005. I never responded...the power that gave me has sustained me over the darkest of times. It was the last communication I ever had with him and I ignored it. It's a bit like a game of tennis but now the ball's in my court and I will never put it back into his. He doesn't deserve it. Please don't put yourself through the heartache and misery. Change your phone, your number whatever but don't go. As you might have realised, I'm against you going (just in case you hadn't worked that out lol)
  12. Might I respectfully suggest you look up the definition of the word "cult" and you will see it has no relevance. Also, it would seem you perhaps haven't read their Watchtower magazine since had you done so you'd have found that Witnesses 100% believe that Jesus is the Son of God. Also, rather than give a link to some random site written no doubt by people as similarly misinformed it might be an idea to direct people to the site actually published by the Witnesses don't you think??? link removed Also, the claim about them milking you dry for money. I've never EVER heard that happening - see previous post. I'm all for free speech and all but only when it's based on fact and not fiction.
  13. Hi - they believe that God is God and his name is Jehovah as you've said. They believe that Jesus is God's son. Hope that helps.
  14. Hey you didn't offend me in the slightest so please don't worry. I'm sorry to hear about your situation - it sounds very unfortunate but obviously not knowing all of the circumstances I can't comment. I will say one thing though, the Witnesses aren't 100% right all of the time - imperfect people are bound to make mistakes and handle things wrongly. I am sorry that things turned out so badly for you and I personally don't agree with forcing anyone into making a dedication - neither should anyone who claims to follow the bible - it's not in there that's for sure. I hope you find some peace.
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