Island Gal

Yep Bron Bron23 you hit the nail on the head. I am not a dude (LOL) I'm a girl. Island Gal is the name I chose so everyone would know my gender but I dont notice the obvious myself half the time so duh no biggie. Nonetheless, advice is still advice and I really appreciate those given by Andrew and tiredofthelies!!! Re: Tiredofthelies I like your name because my ex told alot of lies and I dont understand people like that because lying is b*s* and really not necessary. My ex does say and do things to hurt me like I am a total b**ch when she knows I was always good to her and we could have worked out the glitches in our relationship if she was willing to communicate openly and honestly and make compromises as was willing to do and kept asking her to. Yes I do wonder why it happened and all I want right now is to have her sit down with me and be brutally honest so at least I can get the real reasons why she walked away without giving it a fighting chance. Thats more or less why I am angry inside and you seem to understand exactly how I feel. Thankyou for sharing. She is selfish I agree. Re: Andrew She made fun of me and ridiculed me with her friends in the background having a huge comedy fest at my expense. I never felt more humiliated by her in my life than at that point. So I live with the knowledge that they are snickering when they see me and probably poking fun at me even when I dont see them but they see me in public. Its like she enjoys stamping all over my heart and the feelings she once had for me even if they are no longer there dont mean anything now to her even if only out of respect for our past intimacy. I do feel helpless and worthless like I am a failure at relationships and you know whats the appeal of the other girl over me....stuff like that keep reverberating through my mind. You said alot of things about your experience that hit home because it is so real for me right now in my situation. I appreciate you opening up and making me feel so not alone in this b*s* I'm in. I always treated this girl like fine china and did whatever I could within my means to make her happy and always looked out for her best interests. I cant see how a person can just f you over and then walk away not giving you closure. You are right though she left a gem ... ME!

I was dumped recently by my ex amidst rumours of her having an affair with another girl. I have asked her just to try to work things out and she has spurned me in some very cruel ways and shows no interest in reconciling. I am hurting so badly words cannot describe because I stood by this girl and was always there for her through thick and thin in our 1 1/2 year relationship. I am not perfect and I made mistakes as all human beings do in relationships. I admitted to them and asked her forgiveness as I am someone who believes in owning up to ones errs. She says she has forgiven me yet brushes me off all the time on the phone never having time to talk to me. By the way I did not cheat on her but rather the mistakes I made that hurt her could be forgiven. I have asked her to sit down and talk to me face to face no strings attached because I just want to be able to understand what went wrong completely and even if it is because of this other woman I can at least have closure knowing that is the real reason we broke up. She hangs phones up on me no matter how nice I try to be when I call her. She told me to please just get over it. This girl used to want to be with me all the time and loved me to death so how can someone just turn against you like that without even giving you the time of day? How can you leave someone hurting and in limbo when you just need to be honest with them and give a little of your time to help them accept your parting and move on hopefully maybe even as a friend in the future? I am angry and hurt and of course feel like this new girl must have some quality or something over me why I was dissed by my g/f. I am going crazy inside with these feelings because I always felt my g/f would have my back in any situation and being cruel to me is not necessary. I have made so many sacrifices for this girl and even though she says she appreciates all of them I feel like that isnt true because actions speak louder than words. If she valued me as a person and someone she once shared a very close intimate relationship with whom she really was in love with and cared for why is it she cant talk to me one last time to help me resolve all my unanswered questions? Anyone in a similar situation who truly understands how I feel and has advice on how to get through this heartache without closure if she never gives it to me please respond. Thanks a bunch. I'm an emotional wreck because I cant just walk away and forget her but her actions makes me feel like I never meant anything to her. I know thats not true deep down inside but I it feels like she doesnt care how I am hurting and knows she has the power to relieve a little of it but wont and I practically beg. I feel low and demeaned and embarrassed because her friends know I am still in love with her and I want her back and they have me as a laughing stock (crying...) I know alot of people lose control of their emotions when they are heartbroken and thats how I am right now. Only someone who has experienced this would understand what I am feeling right now. Help ya'll. _________________

I was dumped recently by my ex amidst rumours of her having an affair with another girl. I have asked her just to try to work things out and she has spurned me in some very cruel ways and shows no interest in reconciling. I am hurting so badly words cannot describe because I stood by this girl and was always there for her through thick and thin in our 1 1/2 year relationship. I am not perfect and I made mistakes as all human beings do in relationships. I admitted to them and asked her forgiveness as I am someone who believes in owning up to ones errs. I did not cheat on her but rather the mistakes I made that hurt her could be forgiven. I have asked her to sit down and talk to me face to face no strings attached because I just want to be able to understand what went wrong completely and even if it is because of this other woman I can at least have closure knowing that is the real reason we broke up. She hangs phones up on me no matter how nice I try to be when I call her. She told me to please just get over it. This girl used to want to be with me all the time and loved me to death so how can someone just turn against you like that without even giving you the time of day? How can you leave someone hurting and in limbo when you just need to be honest with them and give a little of your time to help them accept your parting and move on hopefully maybe even as a friend in the future? I am angry and hurt and of course feel like this new girl must have some quality or something over me why I was dissed by my g/f. I am going crazy inside with these feelings because I always felt my g/f would have my back in any situation and being cruel to me is not necessary. I have made so many sacrifices for this girl and even though she says she appreciates all of them I feel like that isnt true because actions speak louder than words. If she valued me as a person and someone she once shared a very close intimate relationship with whom she really was in love with and cared for why is it she cant talk to me one last time to help me resolve all my unanswered questions? Anyone in a similar situation who truly understands how I feel and has advice on how to get through this heartache without closure if she never gives it to me please respond. Thanks a bunch.