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  1. Im not sure if its embarrassment i feel...i am very open about my sex life..but i just feel like i have a hard time saying no to guys who at the time seem attracted to me/interested in me. I think what i meant to say when i said i felt disgusted , was it disgusts me that i am obsessed with guys. Does that make sense?
  2. I absolutely HATE that line. "Lets take a break". You might as well be saying, "Lets break up, so i can go sleep with (name)." I know that i may have come off a little harsh there..but more than likely that is what is going on. Your girlfriend should not be telling you that she wants to go on a break because she is having confusing feelings since she has never had a serious relationship. Its like you are telling her, "sure go out and do him..i'll be right here waiting." It is not fair at all to you, to be waiting for HER to be ready to commit. Maybe im wrong...but who knows. But to answer your question..should you be worried? Truthfully? Yes...i believe you should. Anyway, good luck.
  3. First off, i am 18 years old and i feel disgusted with myself at the moment because as of yesterday, i have slept with 7 guys. To some people it is a big deal, to others its not, but to me..it is. I have been in one serious relationship in my life (16 months)...which in all honesty i wasnt very serious about because i slept with 2 of the 7 guys while i was with my boyfriend. I'm not the type of girl who can just sleep with someone, without feeling anything or getting attatched, either. I slept with a coworker of mine in october..and i thought we could hit it off. Nope. I slept with another coworker of mine last friday...and i thought that WE could hit it off because he has alot in common. Nope. I always go and sleep with the guys and then that ruins everything because i have learned that most guys arent going to want a relationship with a girl who "gave it up" so easily. I dont know if i am just attracted to the wrong kind of guys..or if i am just a pathetic, desperate mess. My friends have told me that i am just falling for the guys who tell me exactly what i want to hear. The guys i have slept with were all pretty boys..you know. Which is why in my head, i think i felt so attracted to them and wondered to myself if a relationship could develop. I guess what i am getting at in the post, is that i dont know why i sleep with all these guys. I feel like i really get to know them because we talk about EVERYTHING for days/weeks before anything happens. The last guy i slept with, we had an 8.5 hour phone conversation which is why i think i developed feelings for him and felt like i really knew him. How do i control myself? I love dating and having fun with guys..but i always end up feeling hurt and used. I know i will probably get the typical response.."just control your hormones because you are only 18." But i think i need a little more insight..i feel like it goes deeper than that. Help?
  4. I'm trying to cut most of sugar out of my diet. I stopped eating junk and have been successful for 12 days. What i am wondering though is, how many grams of sugar in food/drinks would be considered high? It would be impossible to cut sugar out all together so i need to know what to look for when i am reading labels. I heard that more than 10 grams or so is considered high, but im not sure. Anyone have an idea?
  5. My sister was recently talking to me about her new years resolution. She plans to buy lots of cardio exercise tapes and be on the slimfast bars/shakes diets. She is a little bit over weight, but mainly in the thigh/hip/butt region. Basically she wants to get toned. Supposably she read somewhere that slimfast is a good way to tone your body, along with exercise. I just dont think she will see any results. Slimfast contains alot of sugar right? Wont that sugar go right to her butt/love handles? Can anyone give me any feedback about this idea? Or suggest a new one, other than the basic, eat right and exercise response. I think she has a hard time sticking to that, as do alot of people. Any feed back would help! Thanks. Sarah
  6. If you have been following my story, you would know that me and my boyfriend of a 16 months broke up about 3 weeks ago. Since then, i have been seeing one guy. Its been all fun and games though, i wouldnt mind it getting serious but i dont feel like i will ever become close to anyone again. I want to move on but a part of me cant because i always mess something up. I know it has only been 3 weeks since the breakup but a part of me doesnt want to let him go. I was the one who broke up with him, he needed to get his priorities straight and i couldnt wait around forever. I just feel like i need to let him go though. Some days i am fine and im not missing him. Most of the time its usually because i am talking with this new friend( i guess you could say )or im simply just out keeping my self busy. A part of me still wants to call him when i get good news or when im bored because that is just what i am used to do. I have actually caved a few times and called him. He talks a little but the conversations are a little uncomfortable because i told him i didnt want to speak to him again..and then there i go..bothering him. I guess my question is, how do i get closure in this relationship without hurting him? I have mentioned a few times that i cant talk to him anymore and he gets very upset by that. But then i end up apologizing ang changing my mind. Im not sure if thats what i want but i feel like if i do keep talking to him then eventually im going to crawl back to him. How do i end this "relationship" and move on with my life?
  7. Recently i met a new guy. Everything seemed to be going good for a week and then tonight i get hit with the big question. Where do you see this relationship going? He tried being nice about it but ive heard that line TWICE before. i got out of a serious relationship last month and i have to deal with THIS my first time back out there. Read what he wrote to me..in an IM! and tell me what you all think... "i wanna be a man about this and be honest with you because im not looking right now for a relationship from anyone really im just looking for friends and if they are willing to have fun then i will but i gotta know what your plans are" The two guys who gave me the same line both found gfs within a week or two. I know its not the relationship that they dont want...its me. How do i find these guys? Why dont i notice it? What do i do wrong to make them all of a sudden ask that dreaded question. Everything goes great, we make plans to hang out and all of a sudden, bam that question. I'm not canceling my plans to hang out with this guy tomorrow, i wanna see where it all goes and get him to "be a man" and tell me the real reason. I saw something between us and the way we talked all week long, i thought he did too.. What do you all think? I dont know why i fall so easily for people i know i wont ever have a chance with..It just all seemed to perfect. I should have known
  8. Recently, i just met a new guy. He goes to the same college as me and works at the same part time job. All and all he seems like a nice guy but something he said to me has me wondering what it meant. We were just talking one night and jokingly, i started talking dirty. I then said I hope you dont think im a sl*t because im not... He told me he doesnt believe in the word... What would you think when you heard that? he doesnt care about a womans sex life? Or he doesnt believe in the word because he likes girls who sleep around and fool around... I just dont know how to form an opinion about this guy and feel it would be rude to ask this soon in the relationship. Anyone heard that line before and/or used it?
  9. I didnt do it. I couldnt. yes i still care for him and want him to know that i am sorry but i feel like i would be sending the letter for all the wrong reasons. I feel bad about how i ended it but i was going to send this letter with the hope of getting back together with him. I realized that these feelings are coming back to me because 1. i am lonely and 2. next week would be our 2 year anniversary. I just have to deal with the fact that he has some one to love and i dont. I've also decided that this is the time in my life, to date around and have fun. In high school, i did that but was mostly concerned about having a steady boyfriend. Now that i am in college, im gonna live it up and meet fun, interesting people. =) Just had to get that all off my chest. Thanks for all the advice.
  10. If you have read any of my previous posts then you would know that me and my boyfriend of 16 months broke up 2 weeks ago. It was because of his life choices and no motivation that lead me to end it. This is kind of long but i would love some advice. Anyway, throughout the whole relationship i always felt like something was missing and ive figured out what it was. My ex before him. Me and him only dated for 8 months and i wasnt always the best girl friend to him. i was young and stupid at the time. Looking back i hate myself for how i treated him. Now that i am single it is killing me to see him with his new girlfriend of 10 months. I have known her for a long time but ive become extremely jealous. When i was with my boyfriend i wasnt as jealous, it was the kind where you arent jealous of her, but you just remember being "that girl" Now i am jealous of her and after 2 years want to take everything back. I woke up early this morning because i couldnt sleep and wrote him this later. Im not sure if i should send it or not. Please let me know what you think and be honest. Dont worry about hurting my feelings. I've learned to hope for the best but expect the worst... Tyler, I need to tell you something. I dont know where this is all coming from or why i'm doing this now but i just feel like i need to tell you. I am writing it in a letter because it would be too hard to tell you to your face. I'm sorry. I'm sorry for 2 years ago. I'm sorry for treating you the way i did and never wanting to hang out with you. I hate myself for how everything ended between us. I remember the exact conversation we had that day. You called me after i acted horrible towards you that day and asked me if i was happy..and i didnt respond, just hung up. I never got to tell you that i was happy. It was just a mutual breakup. I guess it was for the best. I was just young and stupid and didnt know how to have a relationship. I regret it everyday that i let it end that way. I wonder all the time if i had said yes i was happy, would things be different? Were you happy? My guess is you werent. Im sorry for that. Now i know you and i have both moved on but a part of me never did because i never told you all this. I know this probably means nothing to you after 2 years and you're thinking i'm crazy. Or you're thinking you dont care or remember about any of this. I just wanted you to know that if i could go back and do it all over again then i would in a heart beat. I'm not looking for a response back or anything, if you choose to then thats ok too, but mostly i needed to do this so you knew i was sorry, for everything.. What do you all think? I'm not asking for him back or anything, im just apologizing because i feel terrible for hurting such a great guy. Yes the idea of getting back together is in my head but i know the chances are slim to none because he is already in a relationship. This just feels like something i should do.. Help
  11. Well, i did it. I broke up with my loser of a boyfriend today. Dont get me wrong, i love him to death. We were together for 16 months, i just couldnt do it anymore. In a nutshell, our situation was , hes 23, no license, didnt go to college, lives with his parents, and works in a grocery store... I straight out told him today that i couldnt deal with him not doing anything with his life. He would always tell me to give him time, but he has been out of school for 6 years, how much time does he need?? I still love him with all my heart but i cant be with him. It wouldnt be fair for him to wait for me or for me to wait around for him to change. We broke up 2 months ago for a few days, but i gave him the benefit of a doubt to change..and nothing happened. I also dont want to fill his head with false hope. I want to be with him but i am away at college so i cant guarantee that im not going to meet someone. Those things happen. He took the break up much better this time. He was upset, yes. but he understands that he needs to change. What i am wondering is, will i be in the way of him changing if i am still around, talking to him like we used to? Should i initiate NC? The last time we broke up i thought that he needed me to keep him going but when i was around, he continued to be lazy.. Sorry, i know my thoughts were all over the place in the post but im just so confused and stressed at the moment. Help
  12. This question is directed toward the guys on the forum..I, like most girls im sure, tend to think about my ex boyfriends and ex lovers. If i pass them in a hallway, street, etc. my mind fills with memories of being with the person. I'm in a serious relationship right now, so its not that i wish i was back with the men in my past, theres just certain things i miss and certain things that trigger memories. Lately i have been thinking about my ex because i am seeing him more often at college in my classes. I just sometimes wonder if hes ever thinking of me. He has moved on also..i just cant help but wonder. I sometimes feel a relationship was more important to the woman than the man. What i am wondering is, do guys do this too? If you see an ex gf or lover, do you think of a time you spent together. And girls, do you think of your ex's or are constantly reminded of them when you hear a song, or by a certain scent?
  13. Please dont judge me when you read this because i know i was very stupid not to do anything. Last july i had unprotected sex and a few months later i found out the guy was into drugs and had multiple sex partners. I went to the doctor the following may(i was having discharge and a odor since feb. at that point). I waited so long because i was nervous and uncomfortable with the situation. They told me it was a yeast infection, Put me on meds and 2 weeks later, nope it couldnt be that. I went back about a week later and saw a new doctor. She told me that it was a bacterial infection. I got some sort of cream and a pill i had to take twice a day. It was gone, so i thought, but it was only gone long enough for me to get my period and i had the same problems again. I have been really paranoid lately. I've heard that an std could cause infertility. I have waited over a year to get tested for an std. Am in incapable of having children now? Did i damgage my system? i know that may sound like a silly question, and what i have done is dangerous but im just worried about my future.. I know getting this test is important, but i just find it embarrassing to ask a doctor or gyno. I am going to planned parenthood in a few weeks( thats the soonest i can get in between work and college). So i guess my question here is, how long can you carry an std before you become unable to conceive a child??
  14. How do I get rid of Mr. Wrong now that I've led him to believe I wanted to grow old with him? Background: Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 16 months. We had some trouble in the past which is why i am questioning the relationship. He is almost 24, works in a grocery store part time, without a license, and hasnt gone to college. I know you are all thinking, Loser. I dont know what his problem is. He blames it on his parents not having enough money. Neither one of them work, and his mom is the only one who works. He also has a bit of a temper. He blows up about stupid things, hes always paranoid that people talk about him, and when we are together around other people he acts so different than he does with just me... I'm beginning to think that this isnt what i want. He is not the guy i was supposed to end up with. I know my chances of having a perfect relationship is slim to none but thats what i feel like i deserve. I dont want someone who wont be able to support me. I do care about him and i do love him, i just dont think i am IN love with him. Its not fair to be leading him on, i know. I just cant hurt him again. About 2 months ago we broke up for a week because i told him that the fact he wasnt doing anything with his life was dragging me down. he promised he would change if i gave him time, but nothing has happened. He tells me every week that he just needs to figure out what he wants to do. I've had enough. I dont believe in him anymore. I dont think he will ever change. All of these feelings were brought up by watching romance films with happy endings. Ha sad i know.. I want someone whos arms i can jump into. Someone who i will love so much that i cant eat or sleep when we are apart. i want romance and passion. Is that so much to ask? I dont feel those things with my boyfriend. Sure, i felt them in the beginning but thats before it got all serious and before i knew that he was never going to do anything with his life. Am i crazy to have stayed with him this long? I do deserve to have the happiness in a relationship that ive dreamed of right? I just worry that it wont come to me. Im the kind of person who will get lonely and settle with my boyfriend if we ever broke up again. Thats what im afraid of because i did it 2 months ago. How can i get out of this relationship without hurting him? I am the first girl hes ever been with, sadly. And i finally understand why.. Help
  15. Well...even though 17 is the legal age to have sex in your state, 18 is the age you become an adult. Before me and my boyfriend were official, i was 17 and people gave us problems because they said i was underage. I would always get really upset because 17 IS the legal age of consent in NYS but then i realized that its not socially "ok" until you are 18. To the law you may be legal at 17 but to others they still saw you as a child until you turned 18.
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