-Perplexed-

Thanks for the input. A few things. I ask her out in person but we kind of have to use the phone etc to make it final because we both work etc. Also I asked her why she didnt call me on MLK she said she is really bad about calling people back and that I should call her...... This makes no sense to me... If she likes me shouldnt she want to call me and make our date happen? Or does she want me to prove I like her in hope I will ask her out? I hate mind games. I saw her tonight at a practice for our school. We didn't talk much but she hugged me goodbye. Guess I will ask her what her motives are tomorrow. Thanks again.

Heres the situation Its kind of long so I am going to break it down as short as possible. I girl who I liked asked me to homecoming then on a date. We both liked eachother but I didn't know how to show it. We have gone on numerous dates and had a blast. We hold hands in the hallway etc but we dont consider ourselves gf/bf. I never kissed her our asked her officialy out like gf / bf and I thought she was getting mad at me. We both work and one day I told her to call me when she gets her break since I should have just gotten off my break. I was hoping to set up a date but she never called me.. Even though she said she would. I didnt talk to her the next 2 days but on MLK I called her. She said she was doing homework but she was avaible later and that she would call me when she was done... She never called though. I was pretty pissed. My friends said she was playing hard to get... Who knows. I kind of forgot about it and we ended up bowling the other day. We had a blast bowling then at her house she showed me all of her yearbooks and then we played Halo Im horrible and I think she let me win but who knows. So i would say it went really well. She has been holding onto me at school etc but here is where I get confused. So I asked her a few days ago if she could do something today. She said yeah probobly. Well I called her afterschool and we were going to go watch a movie but she had to wait for her brother to get home. She said she would call me back when he did but she never called... What is she doing? She seems so intrested but never returns my calls. What do I think? Does she want me to call her even though she said she would call me back? Should I approach her ask her what her motives are and say she is really confusing me. Thanks for reading this really long and garbled post but I am confused and need some insight... Thanks again.

Ok.. From a guy's perspective.... How do you initiate the exclusive talk?

I know what you mean. I would rather hear the Im not intrested etc rahter then this other stuff. I was with one girl who I was shy with etc and we kept going out on dates holding hands etc but I never kissed her or brought us up, so we really were never officialy going out ,gf/bf. So as she lost interest or became frusterated or who knows she decided to not call me when she said she would. Makes me feel like crap. Today is the last day. She called me to ask me a question and I asked she if would like to do something later. She said sure but it would have to be later since she is doing hw. Guess what? Never called. This is like the 3rd 4rth time. Makes me really pissed. I know its my fault for not pushing after her about us or a kiss but this is kind of mean. Sorry to hear about your misfortunes as well. Good Luck.

I don't know what to do. This girl and I went to homecoming and going on dates for close to two months. I never asked her out though even though her friend kept telling me too. I kind of felt like it was never the right time to bring it up. This goes for kissing as well. Though that was probobly just nerves. I have had a job but its hours keep picking up and she just got one a week ago. We hold hands etc at school but we haven't been on a date in almost 2 weeks or so. We have both been really busy and see eachother everyday at school and at practices for teams. Heres where things get even more intresting. Friday I had to work after school. I had a little bit of time before I had to leave so I walked with her to her car. Shes a nice person and was giving some classmates a ride home. Her car was full and I ended up giving one of them a ride home. The girl I gave a ride home too I know very well and she is friends with my girl. This is the girl that keeps saying that I should ask her out. I asked why and she said that my girl would kill her if she says anything but I kept giving her weird looks and asking why. She says that there is another guy in the story and I shouldn't wait. Thats all she said before I dropped her off. After I dropped her off and was on my way to work I call my girl and just asked if she could call me when she goes on break from work(hopefully to make plans for monday when we both have off). She said she would call me. Well I didn't get a call on friday but thats understandable I guess. She sometimes works till the weehours of the morning and her break might have been short. But she didn't call me on saturday or sunday either. I tried calling her again on Sunday but I think she was working and I didn't leave a message. Whats going on here? Should I try calling her again today and see if she wants to do anything or am I missing something? What do you think? Is she really busy with work that she can't call me or? Thanks for the help.

Go out with them.

I did a lot of research on this. Heres my opinion. First 11mg is almost nothing. And a double shot of expresso is well over 75 to 100. No Doz are about 100mg I think. From what I read that are just about 0 negatives to taking caffeine. You can get addicted and if you were to stop taking caffeine you get a headache(big deal). So yeah... I don't see any reason not to... Just don't take too much and you should be fine... Also I am pretty sure that its not 11mg...

Well... Things unravelled again. My friend calls and asks if I want to go see that movie with him. I told him I was taking his ex he said he wasn't comfortable being there when she is. I call the girl back and say that I can't take her because I have to take my brother because my mom says I have never taken him for free. She says she will just hang out with me and my bro then. I tell her that my friend is going too and that he isn't comfortable and she says she understands and that maybe we can go to a different movie another night. I felt bad because I probobly made her feel a little worse since she still likes him and wants to be friends and he wont even go see a movie with her. My friend tells me to call my girl and he will try to get someone to go. I didn't want to call her but he insisted so I did. I knew she had already seen it witht his other guy but I asked anyways. She says she should probobly work on homework and that she will see me tomorrow but I still felt a little stupid. Anyways so nothing really went well. My friend's ex is probobly a little upset and I feel bad but I didn't intend that. Well thanks for the input Jimbo. Seems I kind of got out of the mess I guess. Thanks

If you have read any of my other posts you know that me and this one girl are casually dating. IE we haven't really talked about a relationship. We hold hands at school and have gone to a fair shair of movies. Last week when I was working at the theatre I saw her goto the movies with this other guy. I was a little put down since I had hoped on seeing the movie with her but forgot about it. Me, her, my friend and a girl went to see a movie the next few days and we had a blast then went to dinner. Everything went pretty good, except I thought it was odd that he took this girl who I knew he liked even though he had a girlfriend. He said he had asked his gf but she said she couldn't go. Well my friend and his gf ended up breaking up because of that night. She says he told her that he still likes this one girl and that he never called her and she was upset. She says she still likes him but doesn't know what to do. And that he wont talk to her. I kind of felt bad for her and we barely see eachother at school since she is 2 grades lower. Well today she saw me and said hey and I asked if she was intrested in seeing a movie. I don't know why, it kind of just popped out. I am not sure if I was trying to cheer her up or what. Well she said sure but I didn't know if she was serious. She called me today and asked when we were going to the movie and with who. She kind of did the talking and said she would meet me there in 3 hours but she needed to hear who else was going. I am kind of confused it happened so fast. I just want to cheer her up but I don't know if this is such a good idea. ** She has already seen this movie with her little brother. I don't know what to do. Do I just tell her its just me and her that I thought she might like to goto a movie? Or what? I don't know what to do. Should I try calling a few other people to go or? What have I gotten my self into. Thanks

Just casualy ask her what her grounding includes. I use the term grounded very loosly. Just ask her.

Maybe he is a bit shy? You could try asking him out to a movie or next time he tries to hug u / kiss you on the cheek you could always give him a kiss on the lips and see how he reacts... Just my $.02

Well. I went to the movie and had a good time. We didn't kiss though. After the movie we went got some coffee and drank it as we walked around the lake then to her car. We talked at her car for about 30 mins and she said she had to go. But there wasn't that time I could have kissed her. I am sure I could have, it just didn't feel right though. Anyways... Today me and my buddy got off work and said we should do something. We each called the girls we like and were going to watch a movie at my house. His girl couldn't go and mine said she was driving her brother home and she had to ask and that she would call me back. She calls me back and says she can't until later cause they have a dinner guest. She said she tried to get out of it but couldn't. I told her we hadn't planned on starting it until 9 anyways. She said that she thought that would be fine and she would just have to double check and call me back..... She never called back. My buddy and I just watched a movie at my house anyways with a few friends but I didn't know why I never got a call. Hmmmmm? WEll I g2g

Hey thanks a bunch strider your a big help. I do have one small question. We both have cars and such and if we are going to a movie should she meet me there or should I go pick her up? We are going to a movie today in an hour. We had planned on me picking her up but she just called me and said she was at her dads(her parents are divoriced). I didn't know where it was, but she said she needed I disc from her moms and I could pick her up there or she said she could meet me down there. I opted to say I could meet her there for a few reasons but do you think its better to drive her? Its just that hmmm I don't know, its just that I think it will be easier for me to maybe kiss her goodbye if its at her car where we can part rather then on her door step or something... I don't know.. I'm crazy. Thanks again. *!*!*-Brief Which is better? Driving seperatly or Pick up your date. I know you should pick her up for something big, but what about a small movie date or something. -Thanks, Perplexed

Well we had planned to go to the movies after I got off worked yesterday but my mom went crazy again and said I couldn't go. She said I was supposed to mow the lawn. I had asked her if she was sure becuase it was a little wet outside. She said she didn't care so I said I wasn't going to do it. Once again she said she didn't care. Only then to say I am grounded and they unhooked my computer and took it and everything. Go Figure. I called her and left her a message saying I couldn't make it to the movies. I guess she got it cause she wasnt there when I left. The next 3 days I work from 6 till around 11. None of those really sound prime for going on a date but I keep thinking about her, and I just hope she is not losing intrest or going out with this other kid. I don't know what to do. This is really bugging me cause I don't want to ruin this. Thanks for listening to me rant. -Perplexed-

Turns out she didn't call cause she was at her friends till 3 in the morning. She ending up going out with her family and I just stuck at home with some friends and watched Chronicles of Riddick(Worst movie ever?) was thinking of her though. I was kind of sad we wouldn't be watching a movie under a blanket in the basement cause today as the last day since my brother's college friends are taking over the basement for the next week. I left a message at 8 o'clock and felt dumb afters cause I got nervous when telling her to give me a call and mumbled. She call me back and we talked for 20 minutes. I asked her if she wanted to see a movie with me after work and she said she would love to. So I can't wait for that but I am still kind of confused. She brought up the kid she went and saw that movie with. She said he called her last night and asked if she wanted to go bowling but she told him she was at a friends. She just saying that randomly? She says he never used to call but now he is, what is she trying to tell me. Does she want me to ask her out. I don't want to feel like an idot and get rejected. I also don't know if I should tell her I had bought her the first season or just forget about it. Thanks for listening to me ramble and ramble. -If you have been reading my posts do you think I should kiss / ask her to be my gf tomorrow? Don't know about this other kid, I don't think she is intrested but who knows. Double Thanks