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  1. I met him in Soho house first time (public place). I met him for breakfast in a restaurant (2nd time public place). I spent afternoon with him. (public place - 3rd time) I paid for a separate hotel room. I was going to take a nap alone - I ended up watching a movie with him. (thats the hotel room part) - in my room. I went to his room the following morning. I do some level of due diligent - I usually look up people on white pages before I meet them - to see where they live, their name, jobs etc.
  2. I think he was a super person and we got along well - I would have liked to stay in touch with him - given his frequent travel - I feel hurt - he got "angry" at me.
  3. I wasn't into casual sex. And I don't. We were talking about having relationship before I met him. When he asked me why I didn't - I said I was "sussing him out" - trying to learn more about him, since he is a stranger, as you correctly pointed out. He asked me why I sent him a selfie - post-fact - I said - its because he's far away. I got a separate hotel room with that reason. I thought what he did was respectful on one hand. On the other hand - I got a weird vibe. His attitude just changed into being really weird with me - and then dropping me off being angry with that text.
  4. A guy I messaged on a dating site -was on the way to go abroad for work - he was coming from west coast - he suggested to make a stop on the east coast to meet with me. He said he made a few changes to his airplane so he could meet me.. His background is former military running nonprofits now in conflict zones. He turned out quite cute - but he had a stinky breath - I just didn't really kiss him - as evening wrapped I dropped him off in his hotel as I went on the way to home. He texted me that he'd like to spend the night with me - to which I replied I am home already. We met the following day I had evening plans but I was having nice time with him. He extended his stay Then my temporary apartment was booked so I moved to his hotel - separate room - same floor. We watched Netflix (his breath was ok then!) - and then as I was falling asleep- he left to his room. He texted me that he felt " couldn't sleep, didn't want to keep waking you up..Hard for me to sleep with that kind of tension"... I think he meant sexual tension but he hasn't made out with me - he just left!! The following morning (Sunday) - he said he had crazy dreams because of his PTSD. I came to his room, we kissed - but I stopped - he said he has some tattoos - and wasn't going to show me - (ie he'd have to take his clothing off) - which seemed like he didn't want to do. We went out for breakfast, when came back he said he has to continue going to Europe for his trip - then he tried to undress me (for actual intimacy) - but at this point .. He didn't quite make a sexual move until very end - and even with that he was making some strange excuses. The problem is I quite liked him. And the whole behavior quite confused me. Why would he leave the room and write me from distance he felt tension? Usually (active guys) - don't need an invitation to make a move or kiss or touch a boob! When he left - I sent him a sexy selfie - he said " why didn't you do anything when I was there?" I wrote him I was trying ot get to know him - I wrote him an emotional text which he didn't reply. Then I deleted it, and wrote ?! forget it"....He asked me why I deleted the texts ..I said was sick and when I'm not feeling well - I overthink. He replied "I have a lot going on without having to deal with that. Thats why I shouldn't date". I wrote him a text apologizing again. but haven't heard back.... The whole situation pulled a rug under me...and I have been feeling unsettled for some time. The behavior from his end was quite strange... I feel quite guilty because of communication... but also I usually have to fight guys off - not have the expectation Id jump on someone...
  5. Today he has messaged me and asked me to move into his house in nyc and then for us to move to Florida after his renovation is done. I had not replied.
  6. I met him 3 years ago. I did not know him but my impression however incorrect it was that he is smart intelligent, and was into new technology. It inspired me to start my masters. As I was studying, we would occasionally text and see each other (super rarely) - always about new technology, new medical advances - he added me to his medical innovation group - I was just mostly reading. That was super interesting so I didn't know him very well. After I graduated (degree in AI) - he started talking to me more actively and involved me in his businesses - zoom calls with introductions of his company people, etc. Everything up to now has been friendship, work interest and no sex. 3 months after I had graduated and have been involved in the zoom calls - he had invited me to Nyc to stay at his house. I stayed in a different room, there were two other people there - there was no physical intimacy. I was ok to stay since up to this moment we were friends. I stayed for a couple of days - he left abroad and left me and another girl in his house, then he had another family friend stay there. As a courtesy, I tried to leave the place clean. Normal, no? Romantic relationship started when he invited me to go to Munich. a month after nyc. There was no arrangement. That was in September - October October - November I worked in perestnation with his partners. I saw him again end of December when he invited me to go on a yacht. Originally it would have been over Christmas holidays (I took a week+ off work) - but the boat was not working and I ended up flying home and flying back in feb. We were together Dec-end Jan, and mid Feb- mid March. Mid-Feb to mid March - was when the yacht actually left to go across Atlantic. And the internet wasn't quite was I expecting. and I got to know him a lot better, we got closer and I saw not very positive sides of him. Mid march I left home and he to nyc. 2-3 weeks had elapsed since I saw him..Not a huge amount of time..but also not enough to go hang out with other women. I do not feel my connection with him was haphazard or an arrangement of any sort. My work collapsed during and after boat trip, with full on collapse this Friday. ( took two weeks).
  7. The explanation is simple: I had imagined him to be a different person than he turned out to be. In my mind I imbued him with more intelligence, and qualities than there are. I am going through disillusionment and its painful. What I had observed on that boat - crew quitting (4 successive captains) - turned out the same with his other project - our mutual friend/colleague had said his chaotic behavior transfers across projects. I observed him yelling at the top of his lungs at a crew member. He dismissed my work needs to prioritize his packing and his side trips. As a result my work has terribly suffered. Today they had let me go. In the last day, I had not replied to his texts, and he called. I had a conversation with him and told him about my work, he said he feels 100% responsible He wrote to me later: "I am shocked but I won't leave you and will work with you to overcome and come out stronger. We are a great team and you're especially great, greater than great'...Can you not hate me 100% but only 90 % lets get together and make a plan. I can come to California for your birthday" To this end, I asked him "come to California in what capacity?". I'm waiting for that answer. I am sure he appreciates me as a team member and does not want to lose me, but that's not what I am waiting to hear. Voile!
  8. Thats correct. I found out from our mutual friend - the disaster I've seen with the boat employees leaving - the same is going on with his other business real estate. Its the same personality creates the same problems across all his work, and across relationships. He is still planning to meet me after birthday. I just saw woman #2 in the video. She is another one he was corresponding with - and by conversation she feels they have been in relationship - knows him well. Woman #1 from last week is not around this week anymore. There isn't much to say here - and I don't think I would need to have a conversation about exclusivity anymore - things are so very very clear. I am just very grateful to all you guys who took the time to give your insight and life experience to me. When you're emotionally involved with someone who is manipulative, it is hard to see "forest or the trees". Thank you again very very much.
  9. I do not need to be pampered. You're hyper focused on that for whatever reason. The recommendation is that he was looking for a serious relationship, and that I would be a fit to him. No trinkets involved, don't get excited. This yacht trip wasn't really that great to be quite honest. I already have masters from a very prestigious university from a different field, not MBA.
  10. I am not in his head. I do not know what he is or not aware of on the day-to-day basis. I have my own life and my own priorities. I have a lot more passwords he gave me. I do not use them. There are two things that prompted me to observe him - after our trip - he did not invite me to go to New York, and the text messages I saw - this raised worry of mistrust for me. He promised to come and visit me instead.
  11. I do actually like him. I like the books he reads - I read the same, I like the same music and I like his politics - mine is the same. We like the same food. There are many many ways in which we align. I like his work ethics - I have the same. He has deep connection to my country. He is not ugly but he isn't handsome - but I still very much like him. He treats people who are not from wealthy background exceptionally well. He has interesting innovative ideas, he is dynamic, engaging. I He is a difficult person and a difficult character. But I learned to deal with it.
  12. Knowing him I would guess he is unaware I have all his passwords. He is generally very busy and has a short attention span and maybe not the best memory. I greatly doubt he would want intentionally to hurt me or avoid confrontation. When I disappeared (I stopped speaking to him for a couple of days) - he got really worried and started calling me a lot. In Addition, before I got together with him on a personal level, his friends wife - who knows him for 30 years told me that he is single because of his very busy life he is extremely hard worker as am I , and that specifically: he is not a player. Based on that - I felt it was ok to move forward with the personal aspect of this relationship, he came highly recommended to me,. I did not do it haphazardly.
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