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I developed feelings for 2 of my closest friends, who were both girls. They never really go away. I'm best friends with one of them, and a good friend with the other one, and I definitely still carry those feelings with me somewhere inside. It's been about 5 years. I can still move on and have relationships, but as long as the friendship continues, expect him to always have feelings for you in some way. For some reason I thought this might be relevant.

Dating a best friends ex is a NO-NO. Asking him achieves nothing...he'll say yes, but still be upset about it in secret. Just don't do it. When its just a drinking buddy, then it becomes a little more complicated.

ok, thanks guys. Sometimes you just need to hear it...when you care about someone, you tend to persuade yourself to just forget about the problems and forgive them for everything, but I don't think I should here, and its good to be reassured.

I wasn't sure where to post this topic, so I put it here. Here's the situation. There's this girl who I've seen on and off in the past, and now that I'm home for summer, I've started seeing her again. I've always had stronger feelings for her than she has had for me, and that might very well be the case now, although she tells me she really likes me. While I was away at University, she became VERY...slutty. She would get drunk, and while drunk, she would fool around with alot of guys and have sex with pretty much the first guy interested. This happened for about 4 months, then she seemed to stop and regain control of herself. However, sometimes when she's drunk, she still gets into that mindset, and is VERY VERY flirty. So for the past 2 weeks, I have been to her house, where she has been having parties. She has been asking me to go early and hang out and talk with her before hand, which I"ve done. She usually shows me alot of attention and flirts with me alot. However, once the night gets going and she's drunk, she'll start to completely cling to other guys and act like I'm not there. She'll be VERY physical with them, even kissing them at times, and a couple weeks ago I left kinda of mad, and she ended having sex with a random guy again after I left. Each time this happens, she'll call me the next morning upset, and says that she doesn't know why she's like that but that she really likes me yada yada. This happened again this morning, but I got mad at her saying that she can't keep doing that and its unacceptable, and that I can't even be friends with someone who does that, because it shows that she has a COMPLETE disrespect for my feelings. She's displayed this time and time again, so I've come to the conclusion that she simply can't care enough...so I don't want to talk to her or hang out with her. But I"ve been thinking about it alot, and my question is...is this reasonable? I want to make sure I"m not overreacting. We're not BF/GF at all, so she always tells me that I really have no right to get mad if she flirts with other guys. But its something that bothers me, because she tells me she likes me but completely contradicts that with her actions. Any ideas/opinions/questions? I tried to make this as clear and short as possible, but there's alot of backstory and other factors so it was hard to say everything concisely.

So, its a friday night, I just got home, I'm a little tipsy, I heard a sad song on the radio, and now I'm in one of those "thinking" moods, where I just ponder my feelings. If my friends knew I came home writing this, I'd be ostracized as gay. Thats why I love the internet ;o So I was thinking about my friends, and it dawned on me...I really love some of my friends. Some are girls, some are guys, but this probably applies more to the girl ones, I have a different "closeness" with them.. I just care about them HUGELY, and would easily give my life for 5 or 6 of them without a thought...I'd do anything for them. I think about them alot, and I genuinely just love them. And I got to thinking...how many of them feel the same way about me? And the more I thought about it...the more I started to doubt that my friends loved me as much as I loved them. I'm just not convinced that any of them actually think about me daily, as I do them? Would any of them cry at my funeral? How far would they go for me (think SAW the movie) ? Meh, thats pretty much my post. Does anyone else ever think this way? Do the rest of you love your friends as much as I love mine, or am I weird? If you guys care about your friends seriously, then maybe mine care about me as well ;o Thats my friday-night monologue, thanks for reading

its sexy when girls take the initiative

I laughed...you big man you...

You're going to crush your guy friend. You might not know it, you might not realise it, but you're just not attracted to him sufficiently, and you could be using him as a rebound because you're now lonely.

tease, tease, tease

I've been on the other side of this coin...he'll expect some animosity, but just don't make scenes and everything should be fine.

If you have no relationship with this girl, I personally do not believe love is possible

I'm not sure what they teach in college but... From my experiences, and all my research, the answer is no. Beginners can usually do both, but this isn't sustainable over a long time. To do either optimally, they must be done separately. Anyone serious about body building goes through phases of "building" (muscle) and "cutting" (fat) I should add that for your purposes, it might be completely possible to do both...but not if you want to seriously build muscle

I can only offer you my experiences. And that is, the last time I told a girl I liked her, she became WAY more friendly towards me, and it just confused me more. But her feelings never changed. Girls love the attention of a guy who likes them, and they don't want it to end...unfortunately, it can be very misleading for a guy

muster some courage, tell her you're sorry, and ask her out..you're set here

move on dude, sorry. You're not going to get anywhere with this girl