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Very long story short: My boyfriend of 11months and I have separated. I initiated the break-up because I have been going through h*ll mentally in our relationship. It always hasn't been that way up until the past 3 months. He is somewhat over protective and has a jelousy issue. Sometimes I feel as though he is so worried about other guys "taking me", that it could mean less if I was there to be took? However, he is bound and determined that we will get back together. Which I wouldn't mind if things were to change drastically. However, there is another guy in which I am starting to like. He is my manager's son. "M" (managers son) told me he had feelings for me and had never told me because I was dating my ex. I too have recently begun to like him. I spoke to my ex about this and told M as well. My ex is heartbroken and I as well. However, it seems as though all he cares about and talks about is how "M" is the $#@* who "took me". Is it wrong for me to love my ex and want to date a few people for a while? (Things are too serious, he is talking about marriage and I am only 18 and he is 17) I know that someday I would like to have a realtionship with him again. But in my own time and only if things were to change. Is there anything wrong with me seeing other guys and he and I talking (restart our friendship before we enter into another relationship)? *Sigh* Thanks

Sounds like a date too me and that she likes you. The girl is making your favorite dinner! Good Luck!

I won't tell you that I know how you feel but I will say I can assume rather closely how you feel. I have been in simillar situations as to where I thought I wanted to just "end it all". I also have made several attempts as well. Sometimes you wish it would all end, or you could just stop it all for just a little bit until things get better or sometimes you even feel as though you wish you could fastforward. The truth is that you can't, and that makes you feel helpless. Are you on anti-depressant pills? I was and over time they eventually made everything worse, I would talk to your doctor about changing them or downing the dosage. From what I have read it appears you have a guy that really cares for you, maybe not like a boyfriend would care but you do have someone that it effects to see you hurting yourself. And look on the bright side too, you did say it appears that he may like you more than a friend. My suggestion to you is to take all the negative thoughts and time you put into them and exchange them for other hobbies. Say...learning something new about Dom each day? Then you will be smiling and you won't have to fake it. It all may seem impossible and "Easier said then done" but I delt with depression since age 8 and I made the change. Plus, I found someone who cared...and you will too...yourself. Good Luck and keep me updated.

Simply put...You don't. Don't worrie yourself over this guy. Trust me I was in a very simillar situation asking myself the same question for almost a year and a half. That is how I found this fourm, needing advice because of this guy. Feelings were hurt and it was a lot more trouble and heartache than it was ever worth. So I suggest either A. Forget him or B.Just ask him (which if he is a true "playa" he will try to act like he has not a clue as to what your are talking about...hence option A comes into effect) Good Luck and keep me updated!

This was unexpected and we were unprepared and irresponsiable. We have already took the necessary precautions incase it were to happen again. I have scheduled an appointment with the local Health Department to see about putting me on a form of birth control. As for my cycle, it is due around the 17th. It ususally occurs the night of the 16th or the night of the 17th every month. I have been told that sex can cause an early period, is this possible? Thanxs..

I need advice, not a judgment please. This past Sunday my boyfriend and I had intercourse for the first time. We didnt' use a condom, however he was only inside of me for about a total of two minuets. I bleed some what, almost like my cycle. I am pretty sure this was from the tearing where it was my "first-time". However, we then again had sex Wednesdaybut he did not "finish". My question is: Could I be pregnate? It is Saturday and I am still bleeding, it is a light bleeding that is sometimes only noticeable when I clean myself. I have heard of implantation bleeding after 6-9days of conseption and also the normal "Virgin Tearing". I am really confused as to which this may be. My cycle isn't due for another 5days and other than that I feel normal. Thank you.

I think you are best at just sitting back and being there for her. Let her come to you but be open enough to let her know she has the chance for you to be there. More importantly, let her be the judge of how far is too far.

I love to write poetry. Recently I had one of my poems published in my school's literary magazine and another one of my writings is currently in the Top 5 in a Scholarship contest. I personally write it two ways: 1) Through inspiration resulting from an experience or 2) By thinking of a topic and coming up with characteristics of that topic I want to write about. For Example of 1): Say you broke up with your girlfriend. How do you feel? Sad,Happy,Angered...etc. Pick the overal mood you want the poem to have. Then take memories or qualities of the relationship you shared and make them fit that mood. (describe a positive memory in a positive light-comparing her beautiful blue eyes to the sky-blue sun, same goes for a negative experience-her hair jumping out like Medusa's snakes..something to that effect.) Make the ryming scheme any that you want, some of the best poems rhyme very little at all. Example of #2) Think of a topic. Something you like perhaps? How about a sunny day? Make a list (on paper or in your head, whatever works best) of all the things you like about that topic. On a sunny day you can go outside. Then think of what you do outdoors. If you think of atleast three things that describe your topic and then describe them, you should have a great poem. However, be sure to make the tone of the poem all the same all the way through. (negative=negative, positive=positive) I really hope all this made some sense to you. Like I said before, I like to write poetry and I find the best poems I have written come from meaningful experiences in my life. Good Luck and just remember-practice makes perfect!

Continual emotional abuse. Like day-in, day-out mental abuse where your character is discredited.

I agree with PRSOV, stay out of it. It will be hard to watch this other guy get away with what he is doing but the girl will eventually realize it. However, she may not realize at the same time her feelings for you. (Supposing she has feelings for you more than a friend) Give it time and things will work their way out. I was in a similar situation. I had two great guy friends, GuyA & GuyB. Well GuyA and I were really close, we always had a great time, and I could see us as a potential couple. Where as, GuyB and I were close but I never felt a partnernship in him. GuyA found out that GuyB really liked me. And for almost 6 months I was completely ignorant of the fact that GuyA was just playing me because GuyB wanted to get with me. BUT after getting fed-up with GuyA's childish routines and his way of coming accross too desperate it became obvious to me that GuyB liked me. As for GuyB and I, we've been dating for almost 6 months now and it has been awsome. I look at him and see so many better qualities than GuyA could have ever hoped to possesed and it makes me love him more. So, I can relate. We started out as friends, I was played, time passed and now I am with the better choice. Good Luck!

News! (with a few exceptions, lol) I just came home from a two-night stay at the nearest hospital. I have been really sick for about three weeks and the medications I was on weren't working. I suffered from sever dehydration,possible Srep A infection (the worst..so I understood...it infects your glands and gets in your bloodstream)and my airway was almost completley closed. However, I am feeling much better and in all of my complications I have found many blessings. In my State it is required by law, that anyone over the age of 12 (wow) must have pregnancy test run on all their bloodwork before they can be treated. My came back negative! Also, on the upside aswell my cycle came last night ( ) and the doctors suggested to my parents that I get the pill to regulate and help minmize my heavy bleeding and cramping. My parents were very open to the advice and have already made plans for a gyno visit when I fully recover. Also, my parents let my boyfriend spend the night with me in the hospital...something I NEVER thought possible. Thank you, everyone who has given me the great advice on this topic. Sorry for the long update, I felt obligated to share my amazing blessings these past four days. Have a great day!

I have to say I have learned a valuable lesson with what happened last night but I am still worried about #1 & #2....? As far as birth control, I come from a very traditional family who's views on sex are very strict. If I go to the local health clinic and get the pill and my parents find it they will jump to conclusions about my sex life and keep me from seeing my BF. We have not had sex, he and I both are virgins. I have talked to my parents about the pill (before my BF and I even started dating/seeing eachother) concerning my heavy bleeding and cramping and they "went off". They said it would bring embarrassment to the family name if I was put on the pill and they even demanded that if I was put on the pill that I will have to have a pregnancy test every two months...?

Last night my boyfriend and I had "dry sex" for the first time. He and I both were in our underwear. I am almost positive he didn't cum but I am sure that there was a little bit of pre-cum because his boxers were some what damp. I have looked on several websites and I can not find a conclusive answer to my questions. 1.) What are the chances I will become pregnant because of this? 2.) When will I be able to tell if I am pregnant? (My next period is due the 23rd-24th of this month...) 3.) Is is true you gain weight when put on birthcontrol? Thank you for your time, I have no one within my family that I can discuss matters of such with.

Thanks RayKay, it was what I was looking for in a sense.

Sorry for being so blunt, but I have looked over many pages on the internet and searched this fourm, but I haven't been able to find direct answers to my questions. 1) How much (amount?) does the average male cum? 2) How can u tell before he cums? 3)What is it like when he cums? (warnings?hints/tips?etc...) Thank you everyone!