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  1. I hid two pregnancies from my family cause I feared their reaction. Although I am 26 my mom had issues with me being pregnant and 21 and my last child 3 months ago. I was lucky and showed very little with either. I am slightly overweight so it was not impossible to convince people I gained. Any how....I had my daughter by myself and had no support the father dropped off after 3 months of pregnancy. I wouldn't have had support from my parents either. It was hard. they were shocked to learn that I had a baby and were devastated cause I didn't tell them and ask them to accept her. That wasn't the issue. The no support and the deception will eat you alive. My last one, parents didn't approve of my husband who I married without telling them and they didn't approve of me being pregnant with baby #3. I hid it again but had a supportive husband. IF she is keeping the baby its better to deliver the shock now then to wait, it will be worse after the baby comes along. And consequently, what is she planning on doing to make sure the baby is cared for while she is in college?
  2. Dates can be wrong and the best thing to do is once the baby is born get a DNA test, that way you are sure before anything gets out of hand.
  3. He has some feelings for you but none the less they aren't strong enough for him to break up his other relationship. I would have to say if he can't pick between one or the other to stay faithful too, he isn't worth pursuing, no matter what the connection.
  4. I think it's wrong to hav eyour friend have moved in also. If he is also married then there are two sets of people here who are going to be hurt. Ya know, you are married and even if your feelings for this other guy were bursting at the seems, you should have said no. You can not love someone when someone else is involved, your feelings towards your husband will only be magnified. You obviously are set in your ways. At very least get a divorce and don't cheat on your husband to be with this other guy. By the way have you thought about what will happen if this is only fickle fascination and that down the line you two don't work out??? What if he does the same thing your doing to your husband, to you?
  5. Could also be a medical reason for the tantrums also, is she bipolar, depressed, high anxiety????
  6. Thanks Dn and Bella for your post. I am a bit insecure about our relationship and he is a very flirty person and she a very the world revolves around her kinda person. It makes it hard. I fear the very worst about situations, and I guess that is why I am not only afraid but in a total state of anger. Guess it's time to just suck it up...for now any way.
  7. there are two of them, and it has nothing to do with him seeing them, he hasn't, called wrote or spoke to them in two years...He even said he wants nothing to do with them any more cause their spoiled brats. He wants to see their mother. What will happen is I will get stuck with the kids why him and her flirt and carry on. How do I know? I already dealt with this issue with his son.
  8. She does it for the attention. Huge red flag here is that she knows what works and is playing it well. This is not the first time she has done this. She has also probably threatened to harm herself threw, herself at your feet, etc. It's an ugly cycle. IT's most defiantly not healthy and will get worse. I did this to my husband and found out though, he only wanted me to get that way so he felt like he had the control.
  9. Mine simply states, he sees no reason, they will just die and I don't need presents. But there are reasons why.
  10. Well it's going to happen, two years now I have lived here knowing there were two other kids in Fl that were his. There have been plenty of times she said she is coming and isn't. This time she is defiantly coming. I don't want to see her, I don't want to see them. I know my husband does because he ain't seen them in two years, but I feel more like he wants to see her because he ain't seen her in two years. The plans are all made and him and her decided what everyone was doing. I hate it all, I don't want to be around them. Her kids are spoiled rotten, I am only 11 years older than their oldest kid and I feel akquard and weird. I told him and all he could say is he don't want me around him or them when they come. Am I wrong? I recently also got diagnosed with depression so that isn't helping things either. She plans to just dump them off at his sons baseball game, and my daughter has a dance recital so he isn't going naturally because of baseball and them, then afterwards wants everyone to do something together. I know I am going to be left out he does it all the time, it's like his friends, his daughters, his ex, his life. I really don't think I can emotionally handle it. I am trying to also get right in my head and leave this relationship, it's just no good for me. He verbally bashed me for being childish and not wanting his kids to be here. I needed to vent so here it is. I don't want them in my life! Help please!
  11. Just to clear it up I had no family support, my first childs father tried to kill me, and I wound up on the street and in a battered womens shelter facing abortion option. Let me tell you that I got up decided maybe my child was a blessing I wasn't ready and her father was a psycho and sure it wasn't right for me, no job, no money, no support. But it made me want to work harder, go back to school, and get up. I made a mistake, but I chose to engage in sex which produced a child and for that reason I decided not to abort. Yes I am also prolife and I swore I would never, but I had a chance and didn't and I look at my daughter who is beautiful and she saved my life. I got my act together to raise her. If you aren't willing to give up your life and your freedom then no you should not have a child. It is time, work and money. But there is the emotional toll of abortion. I had to have an abortion later on due to medical risk, and every day it eats me alive, I feel guilty. I am telling you simply examine both sides, even after the pregnancy is ended, you will think about it. When you get pregnant again if ever, you will be reminded of what you once carried but is no more. You will always think what if.
  12. It happened for a reason, your life doesn't end being pregnant, I am 26 with three kids. I wasn't ready for my first, second or third. But I never thought twice and although my family didn't support me in anything I still am raising 3 kids practically by myself. My husband is supportive, I do many things and go to college. I take my baby who is three months with me practically every where. I feel proud to have my kids. Look, you have PCOS!!! If you terminate this pregnancy you may not have another chance. My doctor told me I would never have kids. Don't do it. Pain is bearable, it disappears after you deliver. Epidurals, drugs of all sorts totally minimize everything. There is always 5000 excuses why not to have a child if you don't want one or your nervous, but there are lots of positive things as well.
  13. Taking two the day after is what your suppose to do, highly unlikely chance of being pregnant, yes you can spot brown from missing and it will stop shortly, you would not have pregnancy symptoms so quickly.
  14. None of these things are your fault. You didn't cause any one to die and it isn't your fault your dad was unfaithful and screwed around and got someone else pregnant. You didn't force him to get a divorce, you didn't tell him to do it. With that being said.... Where do you go from here. You probably are young and have many things ahead, if your fathers behavior upsets you so bad then separate yourself. No one said you have to have a relationship with the many kids he produced out of infidelity, quite frankly I don't think I would pursue a relationship. There is no law that says you have to. What your father did to drag your grandmother into the divorce before she died was plain wrong, but that was his choice not yours. You can resent him for making the comment about burning the house, you can resent he drug her into things, you can resent the affairs and siblings. But where does that leave you???? Angry, bitter, feeling hopeless because of what someone else did to you? How is that any better. Let by gones be by gones and let it go, anger will hunt you down and destroy your life, if you hate what he did then don't do it in your life, learn from it! As far as rectal bleeding there could be many things, I have had this to, and it was not cancer although there were polyps, so don't panic until you know for sure. Hope that helps.
  15. That is totally different circumstances. If your mother called you 3 times a day to ask how you were doing, she balanced your husband and yours check book. And at any moment came up with a sportatic illness so she could see her grand kids, would you still feel the same? I never stopped seeing my parents but for my ex and I we would be doing something she would call, he would drop everything and run right over there, yes it was annoying and ridiculous. I would see my parents on holidays and maybe call every couple days but not let them dictate my life.
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