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I go to the bar without my b/f....but I know that I won't cheat, and he trusts me. We were out on saturday and he didn't like the way i was dancing with other guys, but he didn't get all pissed, he just stated the fact that he felt the way i was dancing was inappropriate, and then we dicussed it when i was sober. Now I know that he doesn't like that, i can still dance with other guys, just not alot of contact, so i won't do it again. I care for him alot, so I make sure that the things that i do when he isn't there are the same as the things that i do if he is there. If you don't like something that is going on (how often he is going, or things that you have heard that he does) then talk calmly to him about it. don't accuse, or yell, it gets you no where, and don't make rules! then he may lie to you about where he is going. You want him to be able to tell you the truth without being afraid of making you mad. Just let him know how you feel, that you don't worry about him, you worry about the other women there trying to pick him up....ect.....if he respects your opinion then he will probably make sure not to do things that may upset you.

Yeah I gave the first one to him. I was scared and embarrassed. I don't write poetry very often, and when i do, i keep it to myself. But i told him that i had wrote one for him, so he asked me to read it or bring a copy of it for him, so i did. he loved it! i was so glad. he said that he wanted to frame it with a pic of us, so i typed it up and put it in a frame and gave it to him later that day. he was so happy. we don't have a pic yet.

What is Love? Is it a word? Is it an action? Is it a feeling? Is it real? The whole world knows about love Yet, no body knows what love is I think that it is a word I think that it is an action I think that it is a feeling that I am feeling Whatever love is I think that I am falling into it I'm thinking of the word I'm thinking of the actions I'm thinking of the feelings that I'm having What is love? It is what I want to be in with you

Forever Next to you forever Is where I want to be Your bestfriend forever Is who I want to be Together we can make forever Come true I promise that in forever I will always be true I promise that in forever I will always want to be with you

WOW!! Congrats!! That is a big shocker! God has definitely blessed you! It will be hard to adjust to the fact that you are going to have 2 new born babies at once, but if you can handle the fact that you are having one, then i think that you can handle 2. Just think, your twins will always have eachother, most twins that i know are best friends with eachother. they will always have someone to talk to and to share things with. I don't really have anything specific to help you deal with this wonderful blessing, ,other than accept it and be thankful for what god has provided you with. They are people that try their whole lifes to have one child and you are blessed with 2!!! Good luck with the whole situation.

For the most part, when i am having sex with some one, i just focus on what is being done at that moment. I found that having a clear mind, and trying not to think too much helps me reach, or come close to reaching orgasm. Sometimes when i am by myself i fantasize about being with 2 guys . I have had a 3some twice with the same two guys, and i luv it, i luv satsfying the man (or men) that i am with, so i think about how much they enjoy me and what i am doing to them and how much i enjoy what they are doing to me. Sometime i fantasize about a whole kinky situation. Like him coming over to my place, and i will have it all set up a certain mood setting way, and i think about all the things i will do to him, and inturn what he would do to me. I really like thinking about all of the details of the situation, like the music in the background, what i am wearing, the first thing that i will do to him (like just a soft gentle kiss, or stripping his clothes off soon as he walks through the door), or scents and sounds i used to set the mood. The key is details!! It turns me on alot more to think about how each little thing plays apart in setting the mood and turning us both on.

Yeah that is a tough and touchy situation. When you to start talking about stuff like that, don't get defensive and try to to argue about it, cause it sounds like he will agrue until you admit that he is right. Just listen to what he has to say, but tell him that there is more that one correct way to do something. If he makes a good point then take it to heart, otherwise, just let it roll off your back. If he gets pissy because you do something trivial different that how he likes it or does it, then just let it roll off and don't get huffy about it. But i think that you need to talk to him and tell him that you don't like it when he tells you that what you do it wrong, even though it is not. Just try not you argue back, i have found that if you argue it goes know where, just try to stay calm and talk about it.

Sounds like you know what you need to do, you just need a little encouragement to stay on track. When you can't get to the gym, just do some other physical things, walk to the store or places near by instead of driving (i know that it is cold out, but maybe park a little farther away than normal, just to push your self to be physical). When you are studying, take a break and do a few sit-ups, or walk around the dorm (if you are in one), use the stairs instead of the elevator. Just make little changes in your daily life, and you won't have to go to the gym all the time. Eat small portions, eat slow, and don't eat before you go to bed. You probably know most of this stuff, but i guess it doesn't hurt to hear it again. Just be happy with yourself, and be confident in the steps that you are taking to manage your weight. It will be a lifetime struggle, but you just have to keep telling yourself that you are happier in the changes and choices you have made to keep the weight off. Good luck.

Well i am thinking about going back to school. I have taken the past 2 years off, after going for 2 years. I quit going cause i hated taking night classes. With my current job, that i all i can take cause i work all day. I am thinking that if i go with the bartending, most of my shifts will be at night, so i can take classes durring the day. but health insurance is really important. so i don't know what i should do.

Don't worry about it. Just be confident it what you are doing. Girls can sense confidence in a man. Just do what feels right to you, and if some reason she doesn't like it, or likes something else she may tell you and then take it into account, until then go with what you think she will enjoy and be confident about it.

Ok, i am a structural detailer (i make pretty pics on the comp for our fabrication shop to build from). I don't really like it much, i sit in front of the comp all day long, and deal with rediculous deadlines and changes all the time. I have great job security, insurance and retirement. But i am only 21, and i am very unhappy with this job. On top of that, my boss drives me crazy. He wants us to work 50 hours plus saturdays right now, cause we just signed the largest contract in our history. Last week i worked 54.5 hours, to help me catch up on some of my bills i also started a second job last week as a bartender/waitress. my boss came up to me this morning and yelled at me for not working enough overtime!! 14.5 isn't enough!?!?!?!?!?!?! Well i cover my duties and i also am covering another position because the person is gone for personal reasons. I am very pissed off. I have never bartended or waitressed before, but the 3 shifts that i have worked so far have been great. I really like it, and everyone at the bar really seems to like me. Well my new boss is very impressed and offered me a full time position there. Working tues, fri and sat nights (the best tip nights) and another day shift or 2. Well i have been thinking about it, but i am undecided, i would have to quit my current job to do it. Should i take the job that i really like or should i stay where i have insurance and stuff??? I am stuck, any advice would really help.

I agree with Tea. If there is one person in the world that you don't want to see something then don't record it!!!!!!!!! It is not guaranteed that the video won't end up in the wrong hands, or used in the wrong way. I also agree with the out-of-bed videos. This way you don't have to worry about anybody stumbling upon the tape, and it will remind you of the other points of your relationship and you can recall the intimate points mentally. Especially if she lives at home still, what if her parents were to find it!!! No saying what could happen (hopefully your girl is over 18!)

It sounds like you need to just step away from the men in your life right now and focus on you and your kids. There must have been a reason that you and your old flame didn't work out in the first place, so i wouldn't waste my time on trying to make it work again. Especially with him in the situation that he is in. He won't wake up one morning with a great career, his own house, and responsiblities. If he hasn't gotten things together in 12 years, i don't think that it is going to get any better. You can't live with the what-ifs, you have to live for today and tomorrow, not yesterday. Be friends or what have you, but don't pursue the relationship any farther, it will be more trouble in the long run. You can do better than this man. Everyone changes after high school.

What is really fun for him and you is to masturbate together. then help eachother. I know when i am with a guy it drives him wild to see me play with myself. I have a hard time achiving orgasm otherwise. I have gotten a few orally and a few durring sex (usually when i am on top), but a sure way for me to get one is for me to do it myself.

hey silent, hang in there. yeah yeah i know that you have hear it a million times, but it is the truth. I was depressed for i don't even know how long. All i can remember as i look back at middle school and high school and the years after that is i hated life, i hated myself, i hated everything. Then i started having panic attacks, after that i went to the dr's and she did a few test things and told me that i was depressed. I was floored!! but as i look back, i can see it now. Hating life is not normal, you don't have to live that way. She put me on some meds and now i can see the light at the end of the tunel. It is still miles away but i know that it is there somewhere. I still have good days and bad days, but since i have started the meds, i have had clarity, i realize that i don't hate things, i was just unhappy and that was the only feeling i could scrounge up. Now i don't let myself get worked up over stuff anymore. I am in the worse situation (finacially, b/f's and school) that i have ever been in in my whole life, but i am handling it. I don't think that i could do it without the med's though. if i wasn't taking them, i would probably be on here in your shoes, but now i can see that it doesn't help to hate or be upset; it won't get you a g/f, it won't pay the bills, it won't get you an A in school, it won't get you anywhere. Love yourself. God put you on this earth for a reason, and no it is not to torchure you, but to test you. Maybe sitting down and writing your feelings will help. Write exactly what you feel (no one else has to read it). then the next day sit down and read it. Things are always going to go wrong in life, if they don't you are living!!!!!! Good luck!!