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  1. elveden

    Bit worried

    With all due respect I didn't come here to be patronised, we didn't use them 'lightly' ffs... Omg.. "But since she didn't understand that apparently"... Stfu?
  2. I know it's hard - but if she doesn't trust you, then any attempt you make to continue forming your relationship is pointless. Relationships centre around trust, and without is one will inevitably fail every time. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel.. it'll make things better in the long run
  3. elveden

    Bit worried

    My gf and I have been together for about 4 months now and, although to many that will sound like hardly any time at all, have become incredibly close in not that long. We started having sex fairly early on in the relationship; at first using condoms (with the exception of one heat-of-the-moment occasion (morning after pill)) and about 2 months in, my she said she wanted to go on the pill. Last weekend she came round. We had sex - but at about 3am sunday morning, she suddenly realised she'd forgotten to take the pill on saturday. On sunday morning, having planned to, we realised we had no way of getting anywhere to get a morning after pill. We worried a bit. This last week she developed cystitis. The worrying news is that she's about a week late for her period. Whilst first consideration might suggest pregnancy, is there any possibility this anomaly is due to her infection last week? She's staying with her grandparents this week who live in the middle of no where so there's no way she can get hold of a pregnancy test. She's coming round again this weekend howevere so hopefully then we'll find out. Any info or advice would be much appreciated till then :sad: Cheers, Tom. P.S - The weird thing is, the more I think about it, the more attractive the idea of being a parent is, yet the more impractical the concept becomes - I'll be going to university soon and she'll be in the middle of A levels.. it's ridiculous. Isn't it?
  4. Hmm.. I can't remember waking up during the night for some time... maybe on the odd occasion but I definitely wouldn't describe my sleeping habits as irregular. I haven't had my thyroid checked, no - but i'm guessing I probably should? And no, I don't take any pills or supplements - only migralieve for occasional migraines, which are like hell
  5. As the title suggests, this really is a vent of a few pent up feelings I’ve been saving for you all. I realise it’s completely self-obsessive rubbish and for that, I apologize in advance. I’m at boarding school. I have been for little over a year. For anyone my age, you’ll know that UCAS places tremendous pressure upon you to complete a taxing and lengthy application which, in effect will decide the rest of your life. Besides this, (of course), I juggle difficult A levels and a huge (don’t even get me started) array of extra curricular activities. And this would all be fine... ..but I’m lazy. Now at the same time trying incredibly hard not to sound arrogant, I have always been able it seems to put hardly any work into any of my subjects, and still do well at the end of the day. It annoys my parents, my friends, my teachers and even me.. I'm forever tired. Tiredness is an understatement in itself. It's beyond the normal level of fatigue, even for a relatively unhealthy teenager. I actually find it a real challenge to get up, and even more so to stay awake during a perfectly active and engaging day. I experience what I can only describe as a complete and utter absense of energy. They thought I had M.E at first (chronic fatigue syndrome) and it's still a possiblity (my blood tests came back as inconclusive). Then they suspected I might have diabetes.. I didn't. I've often been told my diet was to blame, and originally I completely agreed... but now I eat perfectly healthily, and attempt to engage in regular exercise. If anything it gets worse. I have the tendency, as commonly as its unadvised, to bottle emotions and not release them in any way. Seeing as appear to be a highly emotional (teenage) person, this often comes with negative results. For example, I may go through a selfish “depressed” phase... or I might get annoyed at people who I do care about and really deserve better treatment. It’s different this time. I actually feel as though I’m teetering on the edge of a massive nervous breakdown. I know – it sounds ridiculous even reading it back myself, but I can’t think of a more appropriate way to put it. The stupid thing is I have NOTHING to be upset about. I have the best friends I could hope for, a lovely girlfriend, lots of people who care about me... everything else I could possibly want... Which makes me angry... It’s so selfish for someone like me, who does have everything they could want, to act like this... when there are people who have a 5th of what I have and can be the nicest people you’ll ever meet. I really don’t know. Life is a blur. I can’t see clearly at all... nothing is straightforward whatsoever. I find it difficult to think about anything simply. And I seem to complicate things, on an almost abnormal conscious level beyond belief. If anyone does, I create my own stress. I’m worried. And being honest, removing all pride, which for the majority of self-indulgent teens is quite a task, I’m actually pretty scared. Soon, and I can picture it in my deranged mind... I won't be able to take anymore. Heh.. PS. Oh and I THINK I may have discovered, as in this morning... I have quite a serious illness.
  6. A study in california actually proved that the main reason men are unable to achieve a climax or keep an erection during sex was because they worried about pregnancy. From what you're saying, this sounds exactly like what the problem is for you.. Just relax and enjoy it. If sex becomes something which induces fear or worry, then it loses every ounce of meaning and enjoyment. Her going on the pill sounds like the best and quickest solution but the important thing is to talk to each other and find a the solution together.
  7. Hey Jonothan.. I know how you feel. You have to ask yourself, are you happy just presuming that she isn't getting up to anything at these parties, or is it about time you found out for sure. I know if it was me in your situation then i'd have to confront her. It doesn't have to be aggresive, but it's perfectly OK for you to be concerned.. i'm sure anyone else would agree with me that they'd be a little jealous if their partner was doing the same. The key to any relationship is communication.
  8. Dont you miss the good old days where you used to wonder whether you were french kissing right? Before your discovery of the tangled web which comprises such complexities as oral sex, and even more scarily.. emotions lol Cos I sure as hell don't..
  9. Complex, misunderstood beings we are..
  10. You're sure you're kissing people.. right?
  11. Perfectly reasonable question, no reason to react in any negative way whatsoever.. Would you not ask a pilot whether he'd flown a plane before if you thought it might hurt his feelings?
  12. Well I was gona reply with a detailed post but friscodj kinda took the words out of my mouth
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