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  1. .Real Talk.
    i know this is gonna sound like a dumpee jus rambling about the same things but its been awhile since we broke up, i've date other girls and it feels aight wen i go out w/ them...then wen i get home i cry myself to sleep because they're not who i want, i still want and need my ex...i still love her...i dont know what to do anymore, i miss her all the time even wen im w/ other girls i miss her, i wanna tell her how i feel still but i dont think she wud even care now...i know something this important is worth fighting for but im scared of the way she'll react towards me...
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    sorry if this is a waste of a post but i feel this is the only way to get things off my head. After grieving so much about breaking up w/ the love of my life, after having the ups and downs that a person has i feel i am finally headed in the right direction. I haven't gone too far but i now have started to realize theres more out there. I have finally realized that all the efforts i have made to try and meke her change her mind about what we did is a waste. all the love that i have been trying to show i her i have maybe just isn't meant for her. Not to sound too full of myself or anything but i know i am a great boyfriend, i have given her everything, treated her like a princess and this is the thanks i get??? I know theres a girl out there that can actually appreciate all the love i have to give, god knows i still love her but all the things that have happened between us happened because its supposed to. "if you love them, let them go" thats the old saying that i try and tell myself each and everyday. its so hard for me to not be able to show her the love i have inside for her still. that love will probably never go away because i know the connection we have is real, but for the mean time why waste my time trying to win her back wen she is 100% positive what we're doing is right...so i'll let her be, if we really are meant to be then later on down the line we will be back together again. if not...oh well theres someone out there waiting for me too...i will be happy again one day.
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    i jus broke up w/ my g/f awhile back, it was kind of like your situation...no hard feelings toward each other, it was more of a mutual break up. The problem is we still continue to talk to each other daily. We hang out all the time and still have sex sometimes. this is getting to be really confusing for me but at the same time i can't make it stop. As long as you dont wind up in the same road as i am you'll be fine. give her some space like your planning and if its meant to be then you 2 will be back together again someday.
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    I wish it was that easy to let her go like that. The thing is before we got together she became my bestfriend first. And as of right now she still is, she's the one i go to for problems and talk to about anything, it jus doesnt feel right in my heart to jus cut her out of my life like that, it doesn't feel right in my heart, it doesn't feel like the right way to go at all. And maybe i'm wrong because i do miss her deeply wenever i have to say bye to her cuz i never want her to leave. And the worse thing of this all is that we are both still having sex or some kind of sexual act when we hang out. For example over the course of hanging out this past week we have some kind of sex almost everytime we hung out. which is bad but good at the same time. Its so frustrating to love somebody with all your heart and they dont feel enough love to be with you. She say's she loves me still, she even hated the fact i even had a thought of joining the military because she said she would miss me too much because she loved me. there has to be a way to make her realize exactly how much love i actually have for her and make her change her mind about this whole relationship thing, i need to make it so she is confortable enough to get back into a relationship with me. The love is there, i just need a way to respark it and make her realize im here for the long haul and wont her again.
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    your story has given me a new hope in life. I recently broke up w/ my g/f that i KNOW is the one for me but she has a lot of stuff going on in her life right now thats going to keep her very, very busy and very stressed plus shes not ready to be in a relationship w/ anyone right now. so i let her go...and i say to myself all the time, if we are really meant to be, if what my heart is telling me is true then we will be together again later on in life. i love her and this feeling is not gonna go away no matter what girl i do get with later on in the future. i know the love i have for her is real and permanent. your story is crazy man...i hope for some kind story like that for me and my ex. heh.. well, anyways...GO FOR IT. if that happeneded to me i woudn't question it at all i would go with and see where it takes us. you only live life once, go all out!
  6. .Real Talk.
    The other night, after a long night of troubles i was finally convinced that what my ex was telling me was very true. She told me that she is still "in love" with me and still "loves" me very much. she says at this point in her life, after all the drama that she's been in, in the past year or 2 years she's not ready to get back into another relationship just yet. Plus she has alot of stuff ahead of her, thats going to keep her real busy...school and work. She say's she needs me in her life still and i do too and we decided to just at least stay the best of friends because thats how we started off as anyways. I truly do love this girl, its crazy. The other night i just broke down crying and poured my whole heart out on her and but she has convinced me she still loves me and wants to be with me. just not right now. am i wrong to be convinced by what she says? is she just pulling my strings or saying this to jus comfort me? have any of you ever felt this same way and eventually got back together with you ex?
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    see, same thing happened to me but not to the extent of having sex with any girl. i told my ex that i was just hanging out w/ a few girls the other day and she got upset at me. but really for what reason? we weren't together, she knows my love for her is just as strong as it was wen we decided to take it really slow and just be friends. its so confusing man, i want her back so bad but i know i gotta take things one thing at a time and let things fall in place.
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    Walker, you're right. I wasn't saying you were wrong, it really just depends on the people and the situation. Maybe im wrong, maybe me and my ex dont get back together. It just that from whats happen so far between us and knowing each other i feel that we will. It all depends on the person and the vibe that you get. I feel this way because i know her as a person and from the things she says, i feel she really means it. Maybe its me and i'm a sucker for her words and i believe everything she says. I took peoples advice on what to do once and it almost messed up everything for me, it was a good thing i didn't. broken_walk, he's right though, its all in the feeling that you get, dont get your hopes up and be let down at the end. I'm following my heart and at the same time im analyzing the situation and feeding off my ex's reactions and what not. and thats the outcome i came up with. thats why i feel the way i feel about whats going to happen.
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    i agree shiminimo, im sort of in the same situation, my ex and i decided to take a break from each other and jus be friends for now. she has a lot of things she's stressin over right now and its alot to handle rite now. So i decided to step back and be her friend, this way we avoid all the stress that comes w/ being in a serious relationship (which is what we had). I still very much love her and she says she still very much loves me but we need to do this because i dont want all the other crap happening in her life to ruin what we have.
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    for most relationships, NC would definitely help. But for some reason for me and her this would not work at all. First of all, we are both not strong enough to do this because i garuntee that after at a couple days one of us is going to crack and make contact, bringing it back to square one again. We both still love each other very much, its just that she was a lot of other problems in her life right now that she needs to take care of first and i dont want to add any more pressure on her, thats why i decided to step back and be her friend for now. We still talk all the time and still make plans to hang out together. I just felt she needed to be a little less stressed. Is there anybody on here that has taken the friend approach and made good use of it and came out being together again at the end of it all?
  11. .Real Talk.
    Me and my ex were trying to get back together after a month of being apart and things didn't seem right so we decided not to go on any furthur in order to save our friendship. I kno she still loves me she just has a lot of personal problems in her life right now that she cudn't handle a relationship right now and i understand that. i kno she still loves me and wants to be with me and i feel the same for her. Me and her both agreed that we kind of lost the friendship that we started w/ in the beginning and decided that maybe we shud take this time to find that again. She said she thinks this is a good idea because she still see's a future w/ me which is good. I love her so much, i did this because i didn't want to see her stressin over me too, she didn't need it right now. I guess my question is do you guys think that me and her still have a chance in the future of getting back together?
  12. .Real Talk.
    i really plan on doing that tonight. We're supposed to go dinner and a movie tonight. She say's shes not ready for a relationship but still wants to hang out with me, she's not ready for the relationship part??? Does that even make sense? She want's everything to do with me except the commitment of the relationship? I love her but i can't wait her for her to make her mind up, this is crazy, when we're together it feels so right and then she leaves and feels this whole different thing...Why? If i feel like this at the end of the night, im going to walk away from her and let her be. Its going to be hard but i gotta do it, it hurts too much to stay here and watch her do this to me over and over again, day after day.
  13. .Real Talk.
    this girl is the most confusing person ever...one minute she wants to be in a relationship then later on in the day she will call me and say she feels weird again and she can't handle a relationship. Im so frustrated, i dont even have feelings anymore, i dont feel mad or sad or happy anymore, im not even surprized from the things she says. I dont know what to do, i love her so much but i dont know how much more of this i can take. If only there was a way to get her to know for sure what she wants. sorry, i had to let off steam some how, this is the only way i could think of.
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    thanks for the suggestion, i dont know though, that seems kinda hard, i dont want to lose her again, what if this pushes her away because she'll feel like like i dont love her anymore?
  15. .Real Talk.
    so you guys are saying to back off a lil bit?? I shudn't get into the relationship again then? I should leave her alone for a lil bit longer so she can make sure that the choice she makes is 100% correct and she really feels ready to be in a relationship with me again?
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