JC1968

Hi I think that my ex g/f is now seeing someone else, another woman. For those who read my previous post 'Advice with a Ex-G/F' will know the problems that I went through with her.Just before we spilt she mentioned that she had become friendly with another girl who she thought was bi, and now she's round her house virtually every single night. I know I shouldn't feel angry about it as she is my ex and that I shouldn't let it bother me, but it does, if at last she has found someone who makes her happy then I am glad for her in a way, but on the same front I now feel really hurt, we live three doors down from one another, and it makes it really hard for me to walk past her house and see her car parked there all night, am I just paranoid, I know that I shouldn't give a sh@t about her and that I could be just jumping to conclusions, what say you people out there? Thanks JC

Hi I started dating a girl who lives a couple of doors down from me at the end of last year, we had been friends 4 about 6 months before, but as time went on things developed and we started flirting with one another etc then we got together. The relationship started ok,despite her occasional mood swings when she didn't talk to me, then in January she lost her job, I think that this was the final straw for her, over the past ten years she has had a rotten time of things, lost another job through industrial bullying, fell pregnant while having a affair and then having an abortion. Understandably her mood changed and she became very distant from me, I tried to empathise with her and help her as much as I could. Prior to losing her job we had a vaction booked, we decided to go on this, things did not go well, she didn't talk too me for a whole day because she lost her hair tie the night before etc., we are both 30, so this was a bit of a shock. Things improved a bit towards the end, and it seemed ok when we returned, however at the end of Feb things went downhill fast we stopped spending time together, her mood swings did not improve. She got offered a new job in March and I was surprised that she started wanting to spend time with me again, phoning me daily, sending SMS's etc, cautiously I went along with her, thinking that if I backed off a little it might give her some space and time to think. Towards the end of last month she said that she felt guilty about me hanging around, so we agreed to go our separate ways, I suscribe to the 'what will be, will be' routine so I was not to heart-broken, however, this did not stop her trying to ring me, SMS, calling round etc, in the end I told her too stop as I felt that I needed some breathing space, this provoked her into a tirade of abuse wanting to know why I was avoiding her etc. My gut feeling is to walk away completley, but I still have this vision of trying to keep the friendship going and hope that we get back together. Sorry to drone on..............., it's just knawing away at me at the moment. Thanks