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  1. excelalways

    Height!

    alot of girls want a man that is taller than them and bigger than them in size for security. most girls feel alot safer or more comfortable with a taller man. i dont think height is that bog of a deal. i've liked a great deal of guys shorter than me.
  2. thank all of you for your help. so far, i've tried all i know. she's very confusing and i know i cant control her and i wish i could. she tells him she loves him and wants to be with him forever. she tells me that she's close to breaking up with him. i've talked to my parents and they dont seem to think its a big deal. i hate to do it but i think i will call her parents and let them know one day when she's at work. i know she'll hate me for it but i'm so worried about her and i don't want to see her with this guy anymore.
  3. my friend, 17 yrs old, has been dating a guy for about 5 months now. they are sexually active, and he is the biggest [Profanity Removed by Moderator] ever. he monitors everything she does (internet, phone calls, email--EVERYTHING). she's not aloud to talk to other guys (that is--except my boyfriend, because he's scared of him because he was the only person to speak up about what he's been doin). this guy has left all kinds of bruises on her. he punched her in the stomach, gave her a black eye, her arm was covered in bruises just the other day because he they had an argument while she was driving with him in the car and he kept grabbing her. and no--thats not the half of it. reasons why she puts up with his crap are unknown. she's scared of being alone. now she thinks she might be pregnant. and i think she might be too. but if she is, should she keep him around? she talks about breaking up with him all the time, and acts like the pregnancy test will decided (and she will keep him if she is pregnant). but if she has a baby with this guy, i'm afraid he will hurt the baby. he hits her all the time, and i know he wont treat a baby right when it keeps him up all night. please help me find something to tell her. i want her away from him with or without a baby, but i cannot convince her. she is beautiful and sweet, and would have no problem finding anyone better than him.
  4. thank you all for your replies. but i still have about 32,876,376 questions. i do really love him, and i could honestly see myself marry him, but i am not ready for that now. i still want to have a chance to date, but i'm so afraid to lose him. i want BOTH of us to date other people, and i don't want us to hate each other for it. i would really like to even date him too. i don't want to fele like i am stuck with him because i am afraid. and i do not want to break up with him to sleep around (just incase that's what anyone was thinking).
  5. i have a boyfriend that makes me very happy, but lately i have wanted to date around and see other people. i post on here all the time, and i may have actually asked the same thing a while back. but bear with me. we have been together for almost two years. i'm 18 and he is 17. we are both very heppy, except i don't want to spend my youth this way. there are many times that i would like to go out by myself and meet someone and just hang out. or maybe go hang out with a guy from school. i don't want to be tied down while i have time to date. i lvoe him very much, and i don't want to lose him. but i think that somewhere down the road i WILL do something stupid (cheat) and i really will lose him forever. i've told him how i feel (well...to an extent, not entirely) but he doesn't seem to understand. i would just like some time to myself. and he realized that the both of us would probably get very jealous and mad. but i would like to work on that. i am not asking him to stop talking to me. ijust want to do what i want while i have time to do it. i really don't want to screw up somewhere down the road. **example. a friend of mine ((well--we may have a little more interest in each other than that- but i don't know)) wanted to do something with me sometime. he asked to take me to dinner, and i can't do it because of my boyfriend. i don't know what to do please tell me, is this wrong? and if not, how do i tell him? please helpme!
  6. thank you guys very much for your help. you really are a great help. i don't always feel like that, but most of the time i'm just down about everything. i'm always very overwhelemed with what needs to be done. i always need help with everything. and when i try to talk to people (especially my boyfriend) i know they are tired of hearing me say the same stuff over and over. THAT is when i feel like a burden. in fact, i'm sure i have made close to the same post on here over and over. you guys always help me out, but soon after, i find myself posting again. i will probably continure to add to this post, because there is always so much on my mind. thank all of you for helping me.
  7. lady00 is right, she isn't obligated to be faithful to you. thought, i do not agree with what she is doing, and you shoudl put your foot down. i hate to say i have sorta of been in her place. not to that extent. i had broken up with a guy, and it was hard to cope with. we had dated for so long. sometimes he would be over here, and we would hang out and talk, and we would act sort of like we were still together, and i would tell him that he had to leave because i was going on a date. i hope i gave you insight on what is going through her head. she's comfortable with you, but there is other stuff she wants, and she's having trouble letting you go. you do need to put your foot down and stop it before she gets to used to it.
  8. i cant seem to do anything for myself anymore. i can't make little simple decisions without freaking out or crying. i don't understand what is wrong with me that i can do little simple tasks. i have a great boyfriend of almost two years, and a caring, loving family. my boyfriend always has to take care of me and try to help me when something is wrong. i don't think anyone should have to put up with what i put them through. i feel worthless and i feel like a burden. sometimes i think that it would just be better if my life was already over, but i know i can't do that to myself because that will hurt them even more. i'm not worth the time or the trouble and i just want to end it already. but i can't. sometimes i find myself planning out how to die. like from a wreck, or something of the sort. i don't understand what is wrong with me. everyone always says i need to talk to someone. for years, i have talked to people. they never help.
  9. i have been dating a guy for almost two years now, and i have absolutely no idea what to get him or do for him on the two year mark. its pretty close to christmas so i can't really go all out, but it really is an occasion worthy of some type of celebration. i'm tired of the same old stuff we always do, like going out to eat, or buying games or cds and the like. i was thinking about starting a scrapbook, but we don't have much to put in it. he's never been the type for pictures or anything. i want a really creative idea that a 17 year old guy would appreciate.
  10. i can't really talk to a doctor or anyone of the sort about this. to do that i need money, and i'm on my mother's insurance, and i really don't want her to know. my mother is the type of person that would completely blame herself for me feeling the way i do. i love her and it is not her fault, and i don't want her to blame herself for it. it is not her fault at all, though there are a few things she could do to help me out. she's always so woried and torn up about everything (and i'm afraid to end up the same way). about the food. i understand entirely. i try my best to stay away from it anyway. if I have fast food, its usually something along the lines of subway or a wrap or something. nothing icky and greasy. and where it comes from. that's my problem. i can't seen to understand why i feel the way i do. i don't know where its from. but it is made worse by other, insignificant things (such as my body or how smart i feel that day, or if i am worth anyones time..blah blah) thank you for your help. keep it comin'
  11. i've gotten to the point where i feel absolutely worthless. i feel like i am a waste and that i have let down everyone i know. i have a boyfriend of almost two years, and i feel like i'm wasting his time. i love him, and i believe him when he tells me that he loves me....which brings me to my next point.. i know i'm not worthless. i don't understand why i feel the way i do. i know i have a family and boyfriend that love me and are very proud of me, but i still always feel so..down. i'm always sad and i usually cry just about every night. i feel like i have cheated them all in some way, making them believe that i am some great person when i'm not. i really want to understand why i feel the way i do. i'm not the most attractive, but i get by, and i do not have a nice body (which bothers me very, very much). i don't think i'm very smart, though i really try to be. i'm really afraid of hurting anyone. i love them all but i am always thinking of stupid things like 'getting rid of myself.' most the time i honestly think that i am just ready to die. it makes me feel aweful to admit that, but i do. i would never take my own life, but if something were to happen to me that would put my life at risk, i wouldn't put up much of a fight. i'm just sort of waiting for something to happen. i do not want to hurt anyone that i love, and i don't want them to worry about me. i dont think its worth their worries. i'm really scared, please help me out
  12. i hate trying to shop for someone, but i usually end up spending all my money on other people anyway. when you TRY to find em stuff...it just never seems to work. so... you have plenty of time between now and christmas, so just buy little random things. i love the cute little random presents. when you're out and you see something that reminds you of her, get it. that's where all my money usually goes.... but of coarse yu still have to have the big presents. just pay attention to what she looks and and all...and buy it for her later! hopefully i helped, but i think i just rambled. but now i'm thinking about what in the world i'm gonna get everyone..
  13. i don't know what i would do if anyone said that to me. i was blessed with very loving and supportive parents and i know they would never say that to me. i'm glad that you're gonna try even harder to show him you can, but try not to let him get to you. i know its hard not to.
  14. hmm...i've always wanted to take a class like pottery, or kickboxing, or yoga. what ever it is it would have to be laid back because he's so lazy--lol. maybe i'll hunt for a pottery class..it sounds cool
  15. thank you! you've got really good ideas. (cept about the beer--we're only 17 lol)) it is pretty difficult to find things that we both like just to have fun...he usually wants to sit around and i'm dying to go out and do something. i'm just about to go somewhere with him, maybe i'll return with a good story
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