I have recently reunited my 6 yr old daughter with her bio dad after almost 1 1/2 yrs. My current partner is furious because my ex was abusive with me years ago, and my bf also has strong maternal feelings for my daughter. I understand he is probably insecure with the whole situation, but there was never an abusive situation with my daughter and her biodad. When we first met I said there would me no contact with my ex or his family. Now I have changed my opinion about all that. My daughter and I visit monthly or even more to see her extended family. My bf is not agreeable. He feels they are not going to benefit us at all - just bring our life down. I also still have unresolved feelings for her biodad. We were together 8 yrs, and due to his past drinking prob he became abusive. That is another fear my bf has, my ex's temper - which was always triggered by alcohol intake. He is straightening out his life now, and doing very well as far as I know. I have been speaking with him for months behind my bf's back. I cant tell my bf, but I just feel such a need to speak to my ex. Its such a different feeling when you share so many years and a child together. I just cant let go. I am so confused.
Now my daughter wants to see her dad all the time. I want this to, but it is causing so much friction. I feel caught in the middle. What my bf doesn't understand is the more pressure he puts on me, the more desire I have to flee back to my old life. My life is so much healthier now I live in a happy household FINALLY! It makes no sense, I really have everything I ever wished for!? But still I always seem to fall back to my ex, as horrible as he once was.
Do I continue to let the visits with my ex and my daughter happen although my current bf is angry?? My daughter wants to be with her father, she was so happy to see him again. I still love him, but I am afraid of losing my current bf as well. I feel like I am spinning....what do I do???
