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Sportster2005

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Sportster2005 last won the day on June 13 2019

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  1. You're not alone. I'm stuck in a job with little to no hope for retirement. I ended my military career early. My ex-wife had the potential to make more money, and the Air Force wanted to post us to a semi-isolated location. That would mean my ambitious ex-wife would have to give up a good job/career. So we decided I would retire early. I have a small pension, which gets eaten up by child support. Then at 45 I found my single and having to start over. I took some IT training after leaving the military. I was lucky and have been employable. I had some mutual funds. I had to cash most of them to survive. I'm 56 and can't see a path to retirement. I'm stuck where I am also. I'm not redundant, but for other reasons, this job doesn't fit well. It's also never stable. We've almost been closed down a few times. We are fairly stable now. But things happen quickly, and there's never a guarantee. Yup. I am challenged, but not in a positive way. It's often overwhelming without results. I try to find purpose outside of work. I also look for challenges outside of work. But I can't shake the depressive idea though of not retiring. And I don't want to be here anymore. But to maintain my quality of life I need to be here. Hope that doesn't bring you down more :) Just trying to empathise :) I think there's a lot of us in this situation.
  2. Sounds odd. Maybe he's hinting he doesn't want to be on the site much since he met you. Which is strange. I can't think of an explanation for him wanting pictures that doesn't seem strange. At least strange to me. If you're ambivalent and just 'meh', don't give into to the whole challenge thing. I think it's part of the whole "want what you can't have" dynamic. I think we all have done/do it at one time or another. Nature of the beast. Not very useful though.
  3. Quite a sad story Try not to feel responsible for other's feelings. It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong.
  4. That escalated quickly Can't says I blame ya. That is just strange. Why would someone do that? Rhetorical.
  5. Couldn't agree more. Permanent weight changes require permanent habit changes. Injections??? Holy crap. That and the 500 cal diet would frighten me. That's just bizarre IMHO. I would be less concerned about the weight.
  6. Look past the drinking or the weight issue? Being attracted to people who look after themselves isn't about being the 'bigger' person. He's made an effort to lose weight and make other changes. Good on him. Could this make him more attractive to you? Increase that chemistry? Attraction and chemistry are closely linked.
  7. It does seem to take an inordinate amount of time to get them out of the system. But you sound like happiness and peace is finding you know, more often that not. Keep climbing that hill, sounds like you'll be at the top anytime now.
  8. That's one of the problem with texts. He may have been nervous and was trying to be cute/funny. But it's hard to do over text. If he said in person with an obvious silliness in his voice and with matching body language that said "I'm just goofing around" it would have been different. You may still not have liked it, but I bet donuts to dollars you would be less annoyed. And on your side, if this was in person, you could have playfully rolled your eyes and said "hardly". Playfulness often falls on its face in texting. Putting all that aside, if you're really not into him, there's nothing he can do that you are going to find appealing. If you were into him you may have even found it cute and answered "ahhh of course I miss you and want to have wild passionate sex with you". Hyperbole for sure, but trying to make a point.
  9. A friend of mine met a woman on Match about five years ago. He was just out of a relationship and didn't want anything serious, she did, he dumped her. She made a spreadsheet with reasons why he should date her. He said you can't leave a woman who uses a spreadsheet to persuade. They were married this past weekend. So I think any relationship that involves a spreadsheet is going to last Congratulations RIV, and sorry about the kitty, but it was for the best.
  10. I'm such a softy for kittens. And Toby is just about as adorable and cute as they get.
  11. There is no such thing as randomness when it comes to contacting someone. How can it be? There is a reason. And when someone contacts us, the explanation is always the simplest one. And that reason is, they thought of us. That's the easy part. The hard part is what are they thinking about us? and how much? and what were their expectations? Of course we can't answer these without seeking the answers. I tend to agree with you. He's keeping one foot out the door. But you never know for sure. I find some people stay in our orbits for many reasons, until some day leaving our gravity and continuing on their own journey. Hope you feel better soon. This stage always sucks.
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