dont_know_what_2_say

Almost contacted him yesterday. I wanted to so bad but I told myself that if i still felt the same way in the morning then i'd do it. i still do but i won't. I'm going away for the weekend so that's good. I CAN DO THIS! 36% done!

Day 10 I'm ok. I feel like a cheater on this challenge, since i barely dated that guy for two months, and I wasn't in love or anything. At least i don't think i was. I was more enamored with the idea of him, and it's mostly human nature "wanting what you can't have". Since he was so resistant about wanting something more, i wanted him. Twisted how that works. I might start dating pretty soon, i'll give it another ten days

Day 9 Wanting to contact him. Know I shouldn't so i wont. His birthday is next week and im not planning on wishing him happy birthday. I want to but I nkow i shouldn't. The ball's in his court. I've done all i could. Giving time, time.

Trust me it's just today, tomorrow you will feel much better! There will be good days and bad days, you just have to keep strong. You have it in you to be strong! Just remember about bad days you've had, they seem so far away. At the moment you felt terrible and like the day would never end, but then you realize that time passes by and that bad day seems so far away. Same with today. Be patient, care for yourself. Do anything in your power to make yourself feel better. If you like reading , read your favorite book or go get a new one. If you like watching movies, try to go through a list of top ten films and watch as many as you can. Do something for you. Whatever it is. If it is exercising get out there and do it. Care for yourself, this is all you can do. No contact is all about taking care of the most important person at the moment, and that is yourself. This too shall pass! THat's the worst, when you see the other person is showing signs of missing you. But it's also the best, because you know that you meant something to him, and that he is feeling your absence. As much as you want to be with him right now, the best thing that you can do is keep your distance. Why would he miss someone he knows he can have whenever he wants? The fact that you haven't contacted him shows him that you are strong, and that you are independent. That he was a part of your life, yes, but you also respect his decision which shows a strong character. You have read time and time again of those that go after their ex, begging for them back, IT NEVER WORKS. It makes them realize that they can do whatever they want and that person will always be there, waiting to be given the tiniest hint of affection. But not you. Because you know you deserve better. Because you know in your heart that there is someone that will want to be with you and will welcome you into his arms and smile at you whenever you go to hug him. This is all a healing process. Whether this guy will realize in the end what he lost, it's all to be announced. At the moment you need to do what's best for you, and that is trying to move on. This is a time when it is ok to be selfish and spoil yourself. Do everything you want to do because you're free to do so. You have no restraints now. You need to embrace this time of your life as a way to improve. Instead of thinking about him and what he's doing, use your energy to think about you, and what you will do next. Feeling blue is part of the process, but it feels so empowering knowing you can control your urges. "He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still." -Lao Tzu

Not bad at all. The dude has definitely moved on. I guess I shouldn't even think about what he's doing. I'm not gonna lie I miss having someone and all the good stuff that comes with it, but turns out I'm a very patient person. It'll happen when it happens.

Today makes a week! I'm pretty happy about that. I'm sure he's already moved on. We were only together for two months. He has a new job and money and whatnot so he's probably partying it up. I guess I'll truly move on when i stop thinking or caring about what he's doing. I was hoping he'd come around but I guess he's not ready for anything. I've come to realize I might not be ready for anything truly serious either. I was always saying how I wanted something long-term and having a family one day. I do want something long-term but I'm not planning on having a family in a long time. Maybe early 30s. MAYBE. I need to be more independent before I can even consider having children. Which make take years, who knows! I'm just rambling on.. A whole week! so proud of myself

The day's just starting and I'm feeling ok. I think he's already moved on to be honest. The last time we spoke it was pretty intense and i continued to contact him after even when i barely got a response. Now I'm regaining myself and it feels good. I don't miss him as much as I thought I would. I think it's because we weren't together for that long. I'm not even thinking about meeting anyone. Enjoy the single life and the freedom it brings. I've even thought about moving. We shall see

Day 5, So far so good, and by good I mean i don't even feel the urge to contact him. I went out yesterday and met this guy I danced with most of the night. We had a mini dance competition hahaha it was great.Exchanged numbers. I doubt anything will come from this, since I'm not even ready for anything, but it was a great ego boost and a lot of fun.

Day 4! Doing fine. I think because it's a weekday and I've been busy at work. We shall see what happens this weekend.

“You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present.”image removed Jan Glidewell and another “He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.” -Lao Tzu WE CAN DO THIS PEOPLE!!

Yeah baby!! So far so good, although I had a dream that I broke No Contact and whatnot, so then the whole dream i was thinking how I'd have to start the No Contact challenge and being hard on myself. Then I woke up and I'm so glad it was just a dream! Time's flying by, next thing you know i'll be adding a zero to that three and be on day 30 ! I CAN DO THIS!

You've made it through two weeks and three days. CONGRATULATIONS!!! You should proud of yourself and how strong you have been. It's not about losing someone, it's about gaining back yourself, who you are as a person. You should dedicate this time to take care of yourself, because in all honesty you're the one that truly matters. Time heals all wounds. Now you might feel like you will never find someone just like him, but trust me, they're out there. After a few breakups I've realized that even if at the moment I'm dying to be with that person and how no-one else will measure up, time will help me realize that is not true. I'm going through a recent break up myself, and I know there are amazing people out there, and wasting my time concentrating on the past will make it harder to find the person I'm truly supposed to end up with. Slowly but surely, you're doing a great job!

Well the first day went fine, Day 2 here we go!! One thing I've noticed helps : Going to bed earlier. Just because at night it's when you miss the other person the most. You can either try to busy yourself, or go to bed earlier, as to avoid temptation. Gives you less time to feel lonely and miss them. Plus when you wake up it's another day of NC! Also you get lots of beauty sleep.

Don't contact her! It's actually having the opposite effect. She was expecting you to freak out and beg for her back, but in return she got a guy that was ready to move on and kept his cool. Which will make you more attractive in her eyes. She's probably wondering when you'll contact her and probably misses you. Keep it going! If anything, it will help you move on, or make her realize what she's lost. "you don't know what you've got until it's gone" and another one "People want what they can't have" Also, yes it gets better. It always does. After being with someone for three years, during the break up, the first few days I couldn't imagine my life without him etc.etc.etc. Three years later, I'm doing just fine, well except now I'm going through another break up with someone else. But trust me, time heals all wounds. That's why I know NC works, because I've done it before and it's always helped.