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  1. I was out sick with laryngitis for a month before this hit, and now they want me to stay home another 2+ weeks? Really annoying timing, but I have to count myself lucky that I generally like being alone. My girlfriend got sick and it's only a week but she's missing people terribly. She especially misses me because she didn't see me much while I was sick. Also lucky that neither of us has corona. Since I was already quarantined I wasn't anywhere that I would have caught it, and it seems like she managed to miss it even though there was someone in her office who had it. The big thing now is we are hoping her school will close as they are one of the only schools in the area that hasn't. It's putting a strain on a lot of the employees, and the students as well, especially knowing someone there had already tested positive. The thing that sucks the most for me is that I'm in a community orchestra and I was so looking forward to the songs we were practicing for the winter season. We had gotten everything ready but then had to cancel all of our performances (we perform our concerts for free in rest homes, which is where people have been dying from covid). We started looking at our spring music, but now had to cancel our practices as well. We may not be able to play together again until fall. Music being one of my main non-video game hobbies I'm feeling a lot less well-rounded all of a sudden. But I feel silly complaining when so many are struggling with genuine financial and health related worries. I'm healthy, and even though I felt the drop in the stock market, I'm rich enough to be able to feel that drop so it's all kinda relative. And my job is very work from home friendly so I have no actual personal worries. When my girlfriend is better we're going to try and see how we can help others who are actually struggling.
  2. Sometimes the "get therapy, you need help, just break up" is flippant. We're only human too. Often, it is "this thread has run its course and the issues are too deep or complex for an anonymous online thread to have any impact". And like you joined in 2017 to get practice for your training, a lot of people who post here are either practicing to try and help people for a living, or recently received help from this or another forum and are excited to share what they've received. So, well intentioned scholars who know enough to get in trouble (not saying this was you, but it's that category); and people who are still broken and see things through a certain lens. We can't just moderate away people who mean well but often hurt instead of help. And that passion to help I think is one of the things that really stands out on this forum and is worth cultivating. The best we can do is for the more experienced posters to continue to lead by example. Not every thread is going to go well, and if you do go into some kind of professional role in trying to help people, not every case is going to go well either. It's always worth seeing the reviews and considering if any changes should be made, but then some things can't easily be helped either. FWIW I learned things here that I don't think I ever would have learned on my own about relationships (and other things). It's been invaluable. Some from my own postings - but most from reading everyone else's problems and how they handled them. I would give the site a great review. I'd put my vote in to allow threads to be deleted within a grace period, maybe 24-48 hours. Sometimes people say what they don't mean to say, because they are in a compromised state of mind.
  3. Yesterday: what if a struggling musician woke up in a universe where the beatles never formed, and decided to pass their songs off as his original creation? Fun. World building not quite deep enough for the premise for my tastes, and the romantic subplot stumbled a bit.
  4. I got back from camping and watched a double horror feature: Suspiria (remake... trash) and It Follows (fun).
  5. The Perfection on netflix. First it's a drama, then it's a body horror, then it's a revenge movie. Seemed like it would be scary, but it got so ridiculous it just ended up being silly, even if a bit gross. Not recommended. Was worth a laugh.
  6. Yeah, I'm completely against the live action remake thing on principle, and have found most of them pretty bland in practice. I thought it looked really bad in trailers, but Aladdin turned me around - Will Smith did a lot to reinvent the character without stepping on Robin Williams toes. The cheesy rap in the end credits brought back nostalgia from when I bought the MIB soundtrack cd as a kid.
  7. Get Out - I don't know how they make a horror movie about this topic that is just plain fun, but they did! I enjoyed it despite a few glaring plot holes and a bit of a silly ending.
  8. Meetings. At the beginning of this year, my team was on split into 3. But my position was not - so while my workload wasn't technically increased, the boring planning and check-in meetings have multiplied by 3. If I don't go to them, I will be out of the loop and it hampers my ability to do my job well. But if I go to all of them, I don't have enough time to complete my job. This is my life now.
  9. The Netflix movie about Kelsey Grammer on a cruise to reconnect with his daughter. Not worth remembering the title - it was basically just an ad for Royal Caribbean. And not even a very good one. But I just was on a cruise a month or so ago and liked the nostalgia it gave me
  10. Yeah . She thought he decided the sex was so bad he would fake an orgasm after 2 minutes?
  11. Hah that's one of my favorites. I think I've finally seen it enough times, but if it's on while I'm flipping channels I'll still stop for 10 minutes or so. Went to Wonder Woman this weekend. Good to great in the first 2/3, fell off a cliff towards the end. Is it that hard to make sure that a movie works from it's most basic storytelling perspective before spending 100m on it? You would think that after 10 years of development the fundamentals would be in place. Hollywood is weeeeird.
  12. I just watched 10 Cloverfield Lane too. It's funny because one of my coworkers is looking to get into prepping and dreaming of building a bunker lol. I thought it was a decent "small" movie. And yeah Hot Fuzz is the best. It's almost a perfect movie in my opinion (I probably have a really weird criteria of what makes a perfect movie) But if you like it and haven't checked out Shawn of the Dead, it's almost as good. The third movie in their "series" was a huge disappointment and I don't even remember what it was called.
  13. Sorry to hear the turn things have taken. One thing that seems clear to me: if a relationship is going to work for you at all, it HAS to be compatible with your social life. Not a separate box forcing you to have to try and balance everything.
  14. Man Up. 9/10. Would watch again. "Would watch again" is the highest honor I can grant a film, as most of the time I do not rewatch. F*** the past.
  15. I kind of feel that the time to discuss that you don't want him to visit under duress is at a later time, not right after he has made the impulsive decision to drive out there. To me it seems like you made a sizable hill (I can't quite call the communication issues a molehill so there's that) into a mountain, right after he had done at least what he knew how to do in attempting to deflate it. If it had been me, and I certainly have been known to be indecisive and a bit passive aggressive as well, but when I finally do make a decision I like to commit to it and not be put down for making the wrong one. At least give me some props for making one lol. Especially when the "wrong" decision is to make some time to be with the person I care about. But I can see it from your viewpoint as well. It sounds like a communication pattern that is coming up far too often, with you trying to be clear and direct, and him trying too hard to please. It's a pattern that he is feeling the ill effects of as well. He didn't say anything you haven't basically been bringing up here.
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