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BetYouImAlone

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  1. This is somewhat a relationship situation I've been involved in... Okay so me and her met June 25th, 2021 on the bus, I got her email, went home and celebrated that I had a girls email and all that. So an hour later she emailed me back and we emailed back and forth that evening. Next day we met up downtown and walked to get coffee then back to my place. We had talked on the phone daily up until 3 nights ago. We love coffee so each time we hung out would be coffee and always talking. I would joke around with her and what not too. She would be concerned for me too at times when I presented my concerns. We had sleepovers at her place, with no sex eh? I often wondered when her and I would have sex. She would tell me, "I am not gonna have sex with you." Multiple times she had said that, I respected her decisions each time. We would kiss and cuddle at night and what not too. She would tell me she loved me through text many times and on the phone and in person we hung out. But this past Wednesday evening she cancelled on me last second with a not good enough reason why she would not discuss it with me. So we talked on the phone about it, she said her "friend" said something to her that upset her, and she ended the phone call saying we would talk the next day. She then tells me her guy friend upset her. So here is what I think, that I was the guy that was caught in the middle of drama in which I wanted no part of it. She then tells me last night that her guy friend would not date her and that she loves me instead. So was I the guy that was to be her last choice? She does know I take my studies very seriously and I am a goal orientated man who studies hard and when I get my degrees in February 2022 I can have a career of my choice and buy nice things for myself and her potentially if I felt like it. So Thursday morning before she can exhaust her ways to get a hold of me, I texted her a lengthy text saying that I am ending the relationship with her. I thought to myself of what a relief it was to have ended that relationship. I still think if I answer the phone and actually talk to her, it won't be the same to commit to her again, and a sexless relationship is not something I would not want to be apart of. Am I a coward for ending the relationships on my assumptions and gut feeling? She said she was not lying to me, but I would have to deny her, being on "camping trips" randomly. There are a number of suspicions I did have about her behaviour at times, like going to meet a "guy friend" and have lunch with him at a restaurant and what not, to be honest I fell out of love with her and I can't go back. I then saw some gorgeous women who have been checking me out lately and I might want to pursue more than one woman at the moment with the possibility of landing a quality relationship. I just hope this ex girlfriend of mine just forgets about me and moves on, as I've done the same to her without any much backlash. I am glad to be single again, 4 days before I met my ex girlfriend, I swore off dating and relationships for myself. Am I willing to do it again? Not necessarily full blown "swear it off" and never do it again, but I realized I want someone I can have a healthy relationship where I am not denied sex. If she was not going to sleep with me, does the mentioned guy she had an argument over the phone with could he have been having sex with her and not me? I am glad I did not have sex with her if she was having sex with a different guy while with me. I am also still thinking of the women I did not have while I was with her and could now get with. So yeah, let me know your thoughts. I am going to email the woman who was playing with her hair yesterday during a zoom conference as we spoke about issues.
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