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  1. I've got to go with everyone else here -- you're in a dangerous situation. At best, you've got an immature, inconsiderate and reckless boyfriend who devalues you; at worst, this guy's over-the-top behavior will become abusive toward you, your pets and any future children. You say you could handle him, but why would you want to? Why should you spend your life with a partner who has to be dealt with in that way? Are you happy having your things destroyed? Are you happy living under the constant threat of one of his unprovoked temper tantrums? This guy's a bully, and a scary one. Kid yourself all you want; this guy is big, big trouble. I just hope you get out before you learn the hard way.
  2. There's not really a time limit for something so incredibly subjective, although I would say that there's period when it would be too soon. Six months, though, is probably enough time for someone to begin recognizing in themselves the signs that they're in love -- or falling in love. However, it's too soon to begin planning for a future with the person, and it's definitely too soon to propose. I think it's also a good time to establish where exactly you stand with each other in terms of developing feelings. Perhaps your partner won't know whether or not he's "in love" yet, at that point, but he should have some idea of the direction in which his feelings are progressing. By a year, both partners should already have a clear picture of where the relationship is heading and how they feel about one another. For me, personally, if I were with a guy for a year and he still didn't know how he felt about me, I'd be out of there in a flash. Life is too short to waste on wishy-washy people. (Incidentally, I've been with someone almost four years, and he said "I love you" first -- but we were best friends at the time, not yet a couple.)
  3. I'm planning to go back for English. I'd love to one day parlay my love for writing, photography and nature into some sort of career.
  4. OK, I haven't read the whole thread but I've got to say that I think your over-the-top protestations are hiding some sort of insecurity on your part. So she gave you a stuffed animal. LOTS of guys -- especially those secure in their masculinity -- enjoy stuffed animals, especially those given to them by women they love. You're coming accross only as ungrateful, and I think your girlfriend could do a lot better.
  5. My boyfriend is definitely not a minute man. That's not to say there are never times when he doesn't orgasm quickly but, for the most part, he's got a ton of stamina.
  6. I guess we could reconsider some things, it's true. I guess I'll see what happens in the next few weeks. Hey, annie, love the Hurley avy. I'm a huuuuuge LOST freak.
  7. Thanks for the all the great words of support, everyone. The idea to have him move here as opposed to me moving there is a good one -- but we made the decision for me to be the one who relocates for several reasons: it's more affordale in Washington-state; I'm ready for a change and love it out there; and even though there are so many people in his field, it's still a thriving location for those in the tech fields and, because his dad is a tech writer at Microsoft, we keep hoping that one day that connection might pay off. True, we could move elsewhere temporarily, but I'm looking to start back in school and we really need to be settled somewhere for at least a few years. After posting here, I read up a bit on men and depression and saw posts (here and elsewhere) from numerous women who are going through almost the exact same thing. It helped a lot to read that because it made me realize that a) I'm not alone, and b) this really isn't about his feelings for me, it's a symptom of his depression. I know he loves me, and I have no plans to leave him... after all, the guy I love so much is buried deep in there, somewhere. I guess I just need some support myself.
  8. Hello... I used to post here but haven't in over a year, maybe more. Now I'm desperately in need of advice. I've been in a wonderful long-distance relationship for almost four years with a man who is my best friend. He's always been an incredibly loving, affectionate, attentive partner who makes me feel like the luckiest woman on the planet. When we're together, he treats me like a queen. We have so much fun together, not only as romantic partners but as friends. He graduated college in June, and, after taking the summer off to spend with me, he began job-hunting in September and we agreed that I would move out there as soon as we could both afford it. It was a few weeks later that he started searching hardcore. Because he's an aspiring graphic designer in Seattle, an area saturated with graphic designers, he's been having trouble finding work and this has lead him to become increasingly depressed. Over the last two months, my sweet, protective, loving boyfriend has become sullen, apathetic and -- worst of all -- he's begun withdrawing affection from me. I've remained as supportive as possible, in spite of the fact that it feels like he's pushing me away. I've suggested therapy (something he mentioned himself once back when I was visiting him in October), but now that he's in the throes of this depression, he's not receptive to the idea. I love this man more than anything in the world; before the depression, he was all I could ask for in a partner. But now it's been two months, with no end in sight, and I'm being worn down. I feel like my reserves of energy have been depleted. Right now, the relationship feels very one-sided, with me doing all of the giving. I don't want to give up on this guy, but I need to know that there's a light at the end of the tunnel. Any advice on how to handle a severely depressed partner who's inadvertantly pushing me away? Thanks. -Heather
  9. I hear you: my boyfriend is in Washington-state and I'm in Massachusetts. Thus, we're long-distance with a three hour time difference. It's very hard -- I miss him terribly when we're not together. And there are periods of time when tolerating the distance is even harder than others. We talk a hundred times a day and we webcam almost every night -- so, in many ways, we get to be together, anyway. (Not the same as being together physically, of course, but it helps.) Anyway, as you can see, you're not alone.
  10. Is anyone else horrified that this post was from a 13-year-old???
  11. Ugh, I have the same problem. A good idea, especially if it's your thighs that are hurting worst, is to do the following: 1) Have your employer purchase a chair that has a seat which is well-cushioned and rounded in the front and follows the more natural curves of your thighs and the backs of your knees. 2) Make sure your seat is high enough or low enough so that your feet can be flat on the ground, with your knees bent at a 90-degree angle. 3) If your feet dangle at all, place a footrest under your feet to insure there is no pressure being placed on the backs of your thighs. 4) If your chair doesn't have natural lumbar support (a protruding curve where your mid-back would rest), purchase a special pillow to lean against. Hope that helps!
  12. I'm asking the same question as a few others: are you a virgin? If so, then maybe you're having some sort of anxiety about inserting something inside for the first time. Or, there's a chance that your hymen is still intact and is causing some pain, and then fear. If you're not a virgin, then I'm not sure what could be going on. For the record though, I'm almost 29 and have never used tampons either.
  13. If, as it is widely believe, common courtesy dictates that people do not date their friend's ex-girlfriend/boyfriend, then why is it assumed to be okay for that ex-boyfriend/girlfriend to date the friend of his or her ex?
  14. Actually, six inches is the average length of an erect penis. Methinks your girlfriend is lying or was dating porn stars if your 6.5 inch penis is the smallest she's been with.
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