idontgetit

hi there all. I know it's been ages since i wrote, but every once in a while i like to pop back in here to give people a little light at the end of the tunnel. last year (in july) my bf of 9 years dumped me totally out of the blue (and over the phone) saying he needed to see what it was like with other people. i came on to this site day an night, crying my eyes out for months thinking that was it, and he was my one true love and all the other things one thinks when it happens to them... fast forward to now.... i ended up moving from the town i was living in to be with this guy that i met about six months after my split (and 5 months after new guy and i were together). i am totally over the moon in love with this man (soon to be fiance). he's exactly what i realized i needed and actually didn't have in my last relationship. he's far from perfect, but he's perfect for me. so, i just wanted to let you all know that even though you may not think it now (i certainly didn't when it happened to me) things do work out and do get better, and sometimes, though you might not realize it, what you had wasn't the best that was out there for you and there might be someone fabulous just waiting for you. another someone that just when you're typing a message about them, makes you smile just because you love them......

raykay... i thought i remembered that you found someone new- you moved in together quite quickly no? sounds like things are going well! glad to hear it. funny because i was talking to a friend and said it' took me 9 years to realize my ex wasnt' right, and 3 months to realize this guy is! funny how life works sometimes. hi rainy soul every little victory counts! trust me. i was really lucky- i had one guy i got carried away with for about 3 weeks before i realized he was all wrong (well, he was fine as a person, but not what i needed) one pseudo date that never even got off the ground, and a couple of harmless dates before i met this guy. i was really lucky....or i gave myself enough time to really heal and didn't put myself out there too early. even when i met this guy, i really wasn't looking. i already had met him before through work and blew him off for various reasons. thank goodness i took a chance the 2nd time because i couldn't be happier!! he's amazing. i promise the torture will end! don't focus on a timeline, don't look at what others are doing. just work on you, and healing yourself and everything else will fall into place. i promise.

hi raykay! thanks how are you doing?

some of you remember how despondent i was. my ex dumped me last july after 9 yrs. of dating. i thought i'd never recover, i'd cry the rest of my life. be miserable, always want him back well...... it's not true. i came back to tell you there is hope, and it does get better. i'm in love with a wonderful man who has brought to light all the things that actually weren't so great with my ex that i didn't see for whatever reason. he's infinitely better for me, and it took a lot of suffering to get to this stage. i'm happier than i've been in ages- even my mom tells me- that's when you really know!! anyhow, i just wanted to tell you to hang in there and trust that you will heal, and you will find love again. it does happen, and usually when you least expect it!

WAX!! once you start you'll never go back. it hurts for the two seconds it takes, but you're smooth for two to four weeks at a time. lasering is another option. it's more expensive, but is permanant after a few sessions.

9 year relationship.... 8 months and i've moved on- the first 5 months were horrible.

no, i don't think they're hard to find... you just have to know what to look for. they usually won't be the drunk fool on the bar in a club...ya know?

youngin- no, not at all.. plus it depends on the girl. i like guys that look and feel like guys so some hair, but this guy looks like chewbacka... hairy back... i mean more than most guys have on their chest.. have you ever seen robin williams in a tshirt? multiply that by 2 for the back. if he was equally hairy on only his chest, or just had a few tufts on his back, fine, most guys do...this is a rug

this always makes me think of robin williams on broadway- anyone see it? the part about where a guy asks his gf to get them, and she replies ok, but only if you get your balls done- and i want big ole voigt basketball ones...sorry, crude moment but it's hilarious. i think in the right circumstances (cancer, absolutely no chest where it hurts esteem) they're fine, but i know a lot of people who get them for the wrong reasons (to get a man) and think that it will instantly make them more confident or fix whatever issues they have when in fact, it makes those issues worse and it becomes a vicious cycle

day walker- really? that's not one of those sensitive guy things, sort of like the balding issue? honestly,how the heck would you even open that kind of question? yes, we're all adults both adults, but i don't know him well enough to know what his sensitivity threshold is like. P.L- you're so bad!!!! that's too funny though. hmmm- don't know about the gum bit. knowing me, i'd accidentally be the one who ended up in it first...no, keep thinking!! bzborrow- maybe i wasn't clear. it never started as an online thing. we met at a work conference, but live in diff cities at the moment so can only see each other on the weekends. obviously with a suit on, i had no clue what i had in store!!

absolutely!! but they aren't in the usual places you'd expect to find them.

P.L. that visual of getting my hand stuck is TOO funny... and so sad.... maybe if I wear a ring that catches. ouch.

well, i have had one suggestion from a friend who thought i should nair him as it would be erotic?? i must have missed something on that one- chemical smell coupled with hair everywhere?. shaving a face fine, shaving a back... agh.. as for the rest of him, i'm completely fine with a hairy chest, but the weird thing is he has almost no hair on his arms and has a bowling ball for a head!! it's unbelievable. i just haven't got a clue how to broach a subject like that. i definitely won't dump him for such a small thing, but maybe i can figure out a way to sedate him and wax him in his sleep...

hey P.L. Funny, i thought about that whole waxing the leg thing... as for him bringing him up, I wonder if i missed my window of opportunity when he mentioned getting it lasered... should i have agreed then? that would have killed the evening.

so, i've recently gotten back into the dating scene, broken heart has healed, and i've started dating this guy. we've agreed to take it really slowly, and it's been about two months since we've been talking (we're also long distance). anyhow, so i stayed the weekend at his house, and although we weren't intimate, he did take off his shirt... to reveal the absolute hairiest man alive and he's pretty out of shape.. the trouble is that he's an absolute sweetheart and seems perfect in all other respects but i'm not that attracted to him without his shirt...i know it's terrible to say, and completely superficial. i could probably get over the out of shape part, but the hair. he did mention that he was thinking about getting it lasered but since this was the first time i saw him, i didn't really say anything because i didn't want to hurt his ego. any advice how i can address this without coming off terribly??